2010.06.28 - Kyron's Dad files for divorce and restraining order

[AbbieNormal]

Maybe not relevant, but I have a severe form of Bi-polar, yet I am a data analyst who works from home,homeschools my 12 yr old, is very involved with my son's highschool and I play a lot on facebook. Not to mention I am very active with my grandkids.

There are those that can function "normally" for a long period of time. There are people I know quite well that have no clue I am bi-polar. just sayin.

You are probably compliant with your meds, too, aren't you? My oldest DD is bi-polar and when she goes off her meds (a classic sign of bi-polars) she is very very difficult to be around. But, on her meds, shes a joy. Good mother, wonderful housewife. You would never know she had bi-polar when shes compliant with her meds, either. Congrats on your success with this very misunderstood condition. It took me years to get her diagnosed and treated. *much love to you*

abbie

 

[brandi]

As I recall, Desiree filed for divorce, so Kaine didn't "abandon the marriage". Desiree did.

Maybe he forced her into it with his actions/behavior or lack thereof...M H O

 

[AbbieNormal]

OK....so the affair you are talking about was with Kaine's brother but NOT the one who is now serving time? Or is it one of Kaine's brothers but we don't know which one, yes?

Wondering if this is true when Kaine found out about it....

Have you SEEN a pic of his sex offender brother? Nobody would want to have an affair with that....JMO

 

[AbbieNormal]

Maybe he forced her into it with his actions/behavior or lack thereof...M H O

SOMETHINGS UP when you are 8 mos pregnant and file for divorce....jus sayin....

 

[redkatrampant]

You are probably compliant with your meds, too, aren't you? My oldest DD is bi-polar and when she goes off her meds (a classic sign of bi-polars) she is very very difficult to be around. But, on her meds, shes a joy. Good mother, wonderful housewife. You would never know she had bi-polar when shes compliant with her meds, either. Congrats on your success with this very misunderstood condition. It took me years to get her diagnosed and treated. *much love to you*

abbie

I am. Or I was until I hit the state of pre menopause. And then everything had to be adjusted. And now I am again. It was great fun going through customs during a recent trip with all those meds. Good point.:dance:

 

[AbbieNormal]

Thanks, Abbie, for the heads' up!! I'm so many pages behind on this thread that I wasn't sure if it was ok or not!

:angel:

s' ok, somebody had to warn me about it too. I wasn't thinking when I posted it. Makes perfect sense to me now.

 

[redkatrampant]

SOMETHINGS UP when you are 8 mos pregnant and file for divorce....jus sayin....

Oh I agree. I must admit there were emotional moments when I *thought* I wanted to be away from him, but that was hormones. I got lucky with my hubby. Very lucky. No, Blessed. I could not imagine being pregnant and wanting to be away from the father that badly.

 

[AbbieNormal]

Good Point!!!! I am not familiar with the laws in Oregon. But here in Mo, They would put you in a hospital for threatening your self or others.

They do it in Maryland too. Also in Virginia IIRC.

 

[passionflower]

I did not see the DUI pix ut I feel some type of depression thing happened.
TH does not look anything like she did in 2005.

 

[RubyRed]

I can't believe two adults, a teenager, and a baby all lived in that tiny house. I would have lost my mind.

Come on, seriously?

 

[eyes4crime]

Maybe he forced her into it with his actions/behavior or lack thereof...M H O

A little TL for reference - time-line marriage, separations, births
Taken from article in Organian and WW(no longer working)

2000...Desiree and Kaine married

2001 - marriage soured, separation in the works.

January, 2002 - Desiree becomes pregnant - try again at marriage

August, 2002 - Desiree 8 months pregnant, files for divorce.

September 9th, 2002 - Kyron is born.

2003 - Kaine & Desiree officially divorce. Kyron lives with Desiree (shared custody)

One month after divorce - Desiree fears Kaine will "remove our children from their residence". Restraining order issued with orders that neither parent can take children away. (source: WW)

2004 - Desiree goes to Canada for treatment of a life-threatening kidney failure.

2004 - Kaine brought in Terri and son to care for Kyron. (corrected via statement bio mom made about not knowing Terri).

2004 - After two months, Desiree returns from Canada with $30,000 in medical bills and moves in with parents so she can get back on her feet.

April, 2007 - Terri and Kaine marry in Kauai

2009 - Baby girl born to Kaine and Terri

March, 2010 - Son sent to live with grandparents.

June 26, 2010 - Kaine and baby girl move out

June 28th - Kaine files for divorce and RO to protect baby girl from Terri.

 

[txsvicki]

I'm not buying post partum psychosis because it would have been evident before 18 months, and if it was, surely this isn't another Rusty Yates type thing. Terri may have been depressed, who knows, but she is said to have been active at the school and other places. Her appearance is probably just eating or drinking more calories than she burns and not working hard enough to get those forearms, neck, and the roll along the sides toned up. Unless she has some flab from losing all those muscles. I always heard that body builders go to nothing but flab after they quit.

 

[AbbieNormal]

Oh I agree. I must admit there were emotional moments when I *thought* I wanted to be away from him, but that was hormones. I got lucky with my hubby. Very lucky. No, Blessed. I could not imagine being pregnant and wanting to be away from the father that badly.

Which is why I say something had to be "up" for her to file at 8 mos pregnant.
I hated my first husband most of the time LOL, but when I was 8 mos pregnant I definately wasn't contemplating divorce. Thats when women are "nesting" and naturally preparing for a new child, not when they normally think about cutting and running. I wonder why she did that, they look like they are united in their resolve to find Kyron now, maybe both of them have grown up a little after all these years?

 

[cypress]

If we had never seen pics of Terri in her bodybuilding days we would most likely not be commenting on her physical appearance. Her lack of genuine concern looks, and her disingenuine appearance of 'sadness' at the 2 pressers....yes. But shes just an average or bigger woman (shes not huge, come on...) who is probably tired running around after a 18 months old, plus the stress of whatever she has done to Kyron. Of course she looks like he77....
Even comparing her to the mug shot pic of her when she got the DWI, her appearance has changed A LOT. Not just her body. Her face, the way she carries herself, her lack of self confidence in her face and eyes.... Mental illness can make your appearance change, too. I think shes got a few nuts loose, personally.
And, judging from her past appearance, she could be massively depressed about her current appearance. I would have described her 5 years ago as a knock-out (body building) and as very pretty (the DUI mug shot) but none of those descriptions apply now....JMO!

BBM

A mentally, verbally, and/or physically abusive husband could be responsible for her haggard appearance as well. If we're going to sleuth Terri and pick apart her life and mental health based on glimpse or two into her life, then I think we have to do the same for Kaine. IMHO, he doesn't come off well when delving into his past.

 

[AbbieNormal]

BBM

A mentally, verbally, and/or physically abusive husband could be responsible for her haggard appearance as well. If we're going to sleuth Terri and pick apart her life and mental health based on glimpse or two into her life, then I think we have to do the same for Kaine. IMHO, he doesn't come off well when delving into his past.

Thats what I am saying! 8 mos pregnant and she files for divorce, friend moved in to care for his child while his ex is getting medical treatment in Canada and he ends up sleeping with her....he does NOT sound like Mr Wonderful to me. Maybe its 50/50 with those two. Kaine doesn't have a great track record, though. He's 0 for 2 right now.

 

[curiousgal]

Minor children's names involved in or interviewed about this case are all over the internet too. But it's not allowed here.

I was referring to a picture of a house!

 

[For The Kids]

KH= 2 R O's in the relationships with the mother of his children. Abandonment of the marriage at stressful times. Not exactly a prince no matter how you view it M O O
Where there's smoke there's fire. Just another way to possibly look at it...

If she made his son "disappear" shes no Princess either...

IF she is to blame..then the " stress" is of her making. No one elses. If I thought my partner had done something to my child I too would abandon my marriage pretty pronto. Weird thing is..if men stay with the woman that are possibly involved in there childs disappearance there trashed..and if they leave them they are. Seriously what is a man to do??

Besides all that ..what sort of FATHER would he be if he kept with the woman who possibly harmed his child? Its not about Terri. Its about Kyron.

 

[carole]

Thats what I am saying! 8 mos pregnant and she files for divorce, friend moved in to care for his child while his ex is getting medical treatment in Canada and he ends up sleeping with her....he does NOT sound like Mr Wonderful to me. Maybe its 50/50 with those two. Kaine doesn't have a great track record, though. He's 0 for 2 right now.

According to Desiree in one of the interviews last Friday, she was NOT friends with Terri before Kyron was born.

 

[roseofsharon]

But IF she suffered from severe PPD, would she have been regularly updating her facebook status, playing games on facebook, taking pictures of the kids (who looked happy and content, not neglected due to a mother who was barely able to function due to PPD), volunteering at the elementary school and going to the gym for regular workouts?

I think the reason her pictures look so haunted and terrible is because her son is missing and she is stressed out of her mind. Maybe she's dead-eyed because she knows she is going to be caught and spend her life in prison. Maybe she's totally innocent and is dazed-looking because she's in emotional agony. I don't believe she has PPD, though, since she appears to have been functioning just fine prior to Kyron's disappearance.

Just being the devil's advocate -- but was she (functioning)? Why isn't she allowed to be with her baby girl?? Things may have been amiss in the home and now KH missing allowed KH to see the light. JMO

 

[roseofsharon]

I'm not sure what that has to do with anything ?

If, God forbid, I ever marry again, it will be my 3rd. (although I don't count the first lol)

BTW, it was Kaine's 2nd marriage (that we know of).

IMO it may be relevant as far as stability goes -- just saying.