8-year-old girl's scalp ripped by bullies

[ATasteOfHoney]

Take her to karate school & let her learn to defend herself through action and in words----Parents aren't going to be aroung always & forever.

Sad that it should come to this but it is, what it is!

I don't like playing the victim in any situation and I would encourage my own family members to not play that role no matter what!

 

[FrayedKnot]

Lucky me. When I got bullied my mom told me I'd better beat their @zz or when I got home she was going to beat mine. I was a really small, quiet kid.

I had to ride my bike to school alone, about 3-5 miles. I was about 11 maybe. This girl lived half way there and would ambush me. School did nothing about it. This went on for months.

Finally one day, she hit me at school and came after me and wouldn't let me go and I bit the hell out of her. Well she started screaming. We were brought to the principals office where she continues to scream " She BIT me, She bit me", and I said " You're damn right I did and if you ever mess with me again, it will be even worse."

well, she left me alone after that.

(I do remember seeing her after that and giving her a big ole smartazz smile showing all of my teeth, but she left me alone.)

My DD's teachers NEVER saw the bullying.

First off, it sounds weird, but until this year, my DD was actually quite popular. So even though she was bullied, it was the more obvious type by girls with anger issues, who left marks and I could show the bruises to the principal. The bullies were the kinds of girls that teachers would "believe" to be bullies.

Now, all of her old friends are cheerleaders and make fun of my DD and snub her. These girls have practically LIVED in my home on weekends since they were in first grade. At the back to school skating party, they actually asked her to please not sit at their table with them, because they were saving seat for X, Y and Z.

I was within earshot and it broke my heart. But I didn't walk over and slap the Katy Perry glitter off their beotchy little faces like I wanted to. I just absorbed my daughter's pain and instead was glad that SHE wasn't such a nasty person.

It just shocked me. I made chocolate chip pancakes for these girls on Saturday mornings, I took them in my car on field trips because their moms all worked and couldn't make it, I made one girl's Halloween costume....these girls were like family. And yet they shunned my DD as though they had never met her.

And now, the teachers NEVER see it. Because the popular, nice girls don't pick on other kids. The way the teachers see it, the girls are all in the same clique. But they really aren't. My daughter is no longer in their group. But because she appears that way, the mean girls go undetected.

Anyway, it is torture to not go all Mama Bear for my baby, but she has to learn how to deal with morally bankrupt people, because they will always be around.
And as much as I want her to go all medieval on their behinds (or I want to), I know that it's not only not taking the high road, it's a sure way for my DD to get in trouble while the cheer squad gets away scot free.

And BTW, I was a cheerleader and quite popular in school at my DD's age but I was NEVER mean or hateful to other people. My Mom would have yanked a knot in my tail had I ever been unkind.

I am sorry you had to endure such meanness. (((Hugs)))

 

[Zuri]

All these posts about bullying bring back horribly painful memories. I shared my own stories of bullying with my children as they grew up and told them every time they were mean to another child or allowed other children to pick on someone, they were just like my bullies.

My children had taken on the bullies in their respective schools and grades as they grew up. They stood up for the kids being bullied. Nothing a bully hates more is to be called on it by an older kid and embarrassed in front of other kids. I am so so sorry you or your children have endured this. I think it made us stronger, kinder and more compassionate people but it was a different world and time back then. ((((())))))

 

[December]

Time to call it what is is..that is assault.

But, I'm just saying, she was too young for hair extensions. That could damage her scalp, too! THIS FACT does not excuse the bullies in any way! They do not need to be pulling on her hair/weave like that!

Poor girl, this is so sad. I hope the can fix her hair.

 

[December]

It seems like some of the things called "bullying" these days is really harrassment and assault.

Sending a kid into surgery is assault. Period (unless something accidental happens which does not apply in this case).

Kids will always have snotty brats among them, unfortunately. And while that hurts, it is not like gang of kids trying out violent stuff they see in movies they're not even supposed to be watching.

 

[December]

Oh, I have more to say about this.. I am just thinking this over because the people who did this are only eight.

Now, I am sure there are some who would think a nice anti bullying seminar would be the thing, but that might make them feel special. They might even find it fun because it'd just be them and their friends.

So, I say go old school and make them sit and do write offs. Make them sit where they can't see each other, don't allow talking or looking around. If they are caught violating the rules they get 20 more lines for every violation.

I don't know how many to give them, but maybe 1,000. If they are not working when they are supposed to be then they get 50 more lines.

Put them in the room with the teacher known to hate kids so that person will slap on those extra lines for violations.

This is as close to prison as I can think of for eight year olds. This will probably take a week as they will be expected to attend to their regular classes and homework and whatever else kids do in school these days. This will be during the time when they usually have fun.