A Little Girl's Dying Wish

[Amraann]

I understand what you're saying but the little girl still loves him. You know sometimes even children that have been abused still love their mom and dad.

I totally understand what your saying but I am still suspect as to what else is going on here.
Like my previous post maybe she is not as sick or doomed as the media makes it sound. Or this is not really her request at all.

 

[imthemom]

I would also say that a father who is dealing meth (and most certainly taking it as well) is pretty darn heartless when he has a young daughter to care for.

I am still suspect about the entire story. I just think there is something else going on that we are not privy to.
Either the little girl is not even close to ask sick as the media (family) is portraying or the father is a seriously bad prisoner and the warden feels the risk and cost is simply to great.

The media often loves to spin "evil government" stories and often the stories are half truths.
I guess I am not not believing this heart tugging spin. Certainly there is something going on here that we are not hearing.

I have to say that my uncle has had a drug problem off and on since he was a teen. He has four kids with two different women but they love him to death. When he is there for them he is a great dad and I know he loves them he just cannot overcome his drug addiction. I also have a cousin in prison who has fought with drug addiction also. He has three children and even though he has been in and out of prison most of their lives they love him so. He is a good daddy and loves them very much and when he is in prison where he can't get drugs he is a great person but as soon as he gets out the temptation is too great but neither of them have ever abused their children and when they are on drugs tend to just stay away sometimes for days but always return to their babies. Please don't judge so harshly. I am thankful that I and my husband have never had to fight the plight of addiction that I have watched so many family members sucumb to. This little girl deserves to see her dad if they have to accompany him in handcuffs.

 

[mostlylurking]

I would also say that a father who is dealing meth (and most certainly taking it as well) is pretty darn heartless when he has a young daughter to care for.

I am still suspect about the entire story. I just think there is something else going on that we are not privy to.
Either the little girl is not even close to ask sick as the media (family) is portraying or the father is a seriously bad prisoner and the warden feels the risk and cost is simply to great.

The media often loves to spin "evil government" stories and often the stories are half truths.
I guess I am not not believing this heart tugging spin. Certainly there is something going on here that we are not hearing.

The dad is in for drugs in a minimum security federal prison.
The only thing that is not being really highlighted is that he has been allowed on furlough to see his daughter for a few hours, I think twice. He knew the last time he was there that it would probably be his last time to see her. She is 10. She is dying. She doesn't get it & shouldn't have to. Bureacracy is the only thing keeping this child from being able to die in peace -- or maybe have enough time with him to actually turn around. God works in mysterious ways.

 

[Amraann]

The dad is in for drugs in a minimum security federal prison.
The only thing that is not being really highlighted is that he has been allowed on furlough to see his daughter for a few hours, I think twice. He knew the last time he was there that it would probably be his last time to see her. She is 10. She is dying. She doesn't get it & shouldn't have to. Bureacracy is the only thing keeping this child from being able to die in peace -- or maybe have enough time with him to actually turn around. God works in mysterious ways.

When your in a Federal prison for drugs then you were most likely dealing or were in the Military.
I did not read that he got a furlough my impression was that they took her to see him. But if he did get the furlough?? Then he has been given not one but two chances to say goodbye and honestly this is is own darn doing and no one elses.

I am very sorry for this little girl but children do suffer for their parents bad choices and ultimately this is his fault not some evil Warden or Government.
How many people in prison have sick relatives they never get to see??
By all accounts he has been able to see her twice.

I know this is not a popular view and again I am very sorry for what this little girl may have to endure but this is not the fault of anyone but her father and I just wonder what precedence this will set??
What next a Killer or child molester has a dying child and they get to visit at the cost of tax payers?

 

[Taximom]

Vonda's myspace:
http://www.myspace.com/hot_froggie_30

Jayci's myspace:
http://www.myspace.com/jayci97

Friend "Doug" is not Jayci's father, FYI. He is or was Vonda's b/f.

Jason Yeager is on the last year of his 5 1/2 yr sentence for a drug conviction. He's scheduled to be released to a halfway house in August.

Too bad he didn't accidentally run over someone while he was drunk, or live in Vermont and touch a minor inappropriately. He'd probably already be out.

 

[mostlylurking]

When your in a Federal prison for drugs then you were most likely dealing or were in the Military.
I did not read that he got a furlough my impression was that they took her to see him. But if he did get the furlough?? Then he has been given not one but two chances to say goodbye and honestly this is is own darn doing and no one elses.

I am very sorry for this little girl but children do suffer for their parents bad choices and ultimately this is his fault not some evil Warden or Government.
How many people in prison have sick relatives they never get to see??
By all accounts he has been able to see her twice.

I know this is not a popular view and again I am very sorry for what this little girl may have to endure but this is not the fault of anyone but her father and I just wonder what precedence this will set??
What next a Killer or child molester has a dying child and they get to visit at the cost of tax payers?

I know it's his own doing that he is where he is. Believe me I know. As I posted in my personal plea above, my own now absent father was in prison (federal) & yes it was for drug dealing. He should pay his due to society. No argument there.

From my personal perspective, this issue is not about him being able to see her. It is about her being able to see him. His crime does not appear to me to be so drastic that an exeption could be made according to the extraordinary situation -- or whatever it was called in one of the articles or posts.

I almost ended my above post with "if he were a guilty of murder, rape, or child abuse, I would feel differently".....

I personally believe that the allowable variances to protocol should be measured against the situation at hand, the extent of the crime for which the punishment has been issued, and the threat to society that the imprisoned person holds. But then that all becomes subjective rather than objective & then it all becomes complicated and bureaucratic, etc... blah blah blah.... you know what I mean.

Long and short, as crappy as it all can be in this life, I just want this kid to not be punished for her fathers actions. She's 10 and believed to be dying. I jsut don't think situations can get more extenuating than that.....

 

[eve]

Vonda's myspace:
http://www.myspace.com/hot_froggie_30

Jayci's myspace:
http://www.myspace.com/jayci97

Friend "Doug" is not Jayci's father, FYI. He is or was Vonda's b/f.

Jayson Yeager is on the last year of his 5 1/2 yr sentence for a drug conviction. He's scheduled to be released to a halfway house in August.

Too bad he didn't accidentally run over someone while he was drunk, or live in Vermont and touch a minor inappropriately. He'd probably already be out.

Precisely what bothers me, Taxi, I know of dealers sentenced to prison for over 15 years for dealing pot and murderers and rapists who are out in 5-7.

I believe this guy was into meth - not good, for sure, but I am assuming he's now clean? Scheduled to released in Aug.? If his prison record is good, I cannot see why he couldn't be granted some time with a dying daughter.

Eve

 

[IdahoMom]

Vonda's myspace:
http://www.myspace.com/hot_froggie_30

Jayci's myspace:
http://www.myspace.com/jayci97

Friend "Doug" is not Jayci's father, FYI. He is or was Vonda's b/f.

Jayson Yeager is on the last year of his 5 1/2 yr sentence for a drug conviction. He's scheduled to be released to a halfway house in August.

Too bad he didn't accidentally run over someone while he was drunk, or live in Vermont and touch a minor inappropriately. He'd probably already be out.

It's unfortunate that all that spammy stuff is on their pages. Jayci melts my heart.

 

[Taximom]

P.S. She's in a Lincoln hospice, so that usually means death is coming soon.

 

[Kim Ii]

I found a letter from little Jayci's physician, imploring the Court to allow Jayci's Father to visit her, as she is dying.

This isn't, or shouldn't be, about the Father. It's about Jayci -- Jayci clearly was/is devoted to her Father (as her Mother has stated, she is 'hanging on' to see/hear her Father one last time).

The bureaucratic wheels that churn need to stop. Jason, the Father, is sevring his FINAL YEAR for an over 5 year sentence. He has even offered to DOUBLE his final time served, just to be allowed to be by Jayci's side.

I just wrote the Warden an email (one of many, I'm sure, he's received). I'm praying that he has a change of heart re: this case. How easily this family's anguish could be lifted, just a little, if they were allowed this dignity. A Father's love for his daughter does not change (at least in this man's situation) because he has made a mistake. Jason made a mistake, he is serving his time, but by all appearances, he certainly seems to love his daughter. Let's hope some sense prevails and this family's one last wish for its daughter, is granted.

 

[IdahoMom]

Jailed Dad Asks Bush For Clemency

Man Wants To Get To Dying Daughter's Bedside


http://www.ketv.com/news/15656590/detail.html

snip

A federal inmate who is trying to be at his daughter's death bed is now appealing to President George W. Bush for clemency.

Time is running out for 10-year-old Jayci Yaeger. She wants her father to be at her bedside, but that isn't likely to happen since Jason Yaeger is in a federal prison in Yankton, S.D....

...A daily phone call is the only way Jason Yaeger can talk to his daughter right now. Jayci is too weak to respond, except that sometimes she sheds a tear, her mother said.

"I tell her I love her," Jason Yaeger said in a phone interview from prison. "I'm proud of her. She's my world and she's brave and the strongest person I know."

Federal prison officials in South Dakota denied a request to do an on-camera interview with Yaeger, but did allow the phone interview.

"Both me and my children have always been very close," he said. "Yes, I've made some mistakes, but I've always been a good father."

Jason Yaeger said the mistake was an addiction to methamphetamine. He has served four years in prison and is scheduled to be released next February.

"I'm sorry for what I've done and I'm not asking to get out of my sentence," Yaeger said.

 

[Amraann]

I know it's his own doing that he is where he is. Believe me I know. As I posted in my personal plea above, my own now absent father was in prison (federal) & yes it was for drug dealing. He should pay his due to society. No argument there.

From my personal perspective, this issue is not about him being able to see her. It is about her being able to see him. His crime does not appear to me to be so drastic that an exeption could be made according to the extraordinary situation -- or whatever it was called in one of the articles or posts.

I almost ended my above post with "if he were a guilty of murder, rape, or child abuse, I would feel differently".....

I personally believe that the allowable variances to protocol should be measured against the situation at hand, the extent of the crime for which the punishment has been issued, and the threat to society that the imprisoned person holds. But then that all becomes subjective rather than objective & then it all becomes complicated and bureaucratic, etc... blah blah blah.... you know what I mean.

Long and short, as crappy as it all can be in this life, I just want this kid to not be punished for her fathers actions. She's 10 and believed to be dying. I jsut don't think situations can get more extenuating than that.....

I am so sorry .. I know this seems heartless and cruel.. But YES this is reality.
IDK maybe if this is what it takes in this day and age for parents to think beyond themselves???
It seems society needs to bandaide these parents later on in order to protect a child..
I am not OK with that ...NO NO NO ...
How about we stop parents from being such total AHOLES??

It is NOT a societal job for people to make way and enable losers to see their dying children..... It should be the societal job to make parents be good ones right from day one.

 

[Kim Ii]

Amraan,

I really do understand what you're saying, but this isn't about HIM...it's about Jayci.

I know it's hard not to judge another human being, we all do to some extent. But from what I've read, Jason certainly sounds as though he loves his daughter.

He is almost through with his time...he's asked to have the remaining months DOUBLED so that he can be by his daughter's side.

Jason is not asking to get out of his sentence. He is simply asking to be by his daughter's side when she dies. Granted, the mistakes I've made with our son (and there have been many), have not been the type mistakes to land me in prison, but I just cannot envision one good reason why this Father should not be allowed to see his daughter when she takes her last dying breath. It is clear, as Jayci's Mother has stated, that Jayci is literally hanging on so that she can see and hear her Father one last time. I would love to hear that she was able to do this. Why on earth anyone would want to keep this little girl from receiving her one last dying wish, is just beyond me.

 

[tlstcb]

The video I watched yesterday looked like the precious girl was still at home. I looked to see if I could see any Iv's on her and I did not. Could have been there but I didn't see them. Based on that I would have agreed with the warden. I feel differently after seeing today that she has been moved to hospice. If she is truly running out of time then I feel like she should not be denied her father. This could also change the wardens opinion. I would also like to state a few things that just get to me. Her dad was not a good dad. He may have spent time with her, fed her well ,played with her and loved her with all his heart but a good dad would not do anything that could cause him to be put away from his daughter. Drugs is no small thing. It kills people everyday. Drug addicts do drugs with other people in turn its saying its okay. What they should be doing is telling people its not okay. Going to jail may have saved this dad's life. I hope he has a lot of support when he does get out. If he had problems coping with life before just imagine how hard it will be for him to cope now. I lost my son to drugs Jan. 2. I just wish some of his so called friends that didn't make it to his funeral but managed to continually hunt him down when he was trying so hard to stay straight would have told him you know you are right Im proud of you, stay strong and maybe we can go fishing one day. I would give my life for my son to be in jail right now. My heart goes out to this precious girl and her family.

 

[Taximom]

tlstcb, I am SO sorry you lost your son to drugs. ((hugs))

 

[Taximom]

3rd paragraph:
http://www.kmtv.com/Global/story.asp?S=8037384
Cancerous brain tumors have taken over and Jayci Yaeger moved into a Lincoln hospice this week. Her mother can only watch as her daugther slowly disappears. A girl, who just six months ago was vibrant and energetic. Vonda says, "It's really hard to say it, but it's time now and she doesn't need to suffer anymore. She needs to be where she can be peaceful and happy and not in pain."
Jayci isn't ready to go just yet. She's got one more thing to do before she dies, hug her daddy. "She's very scared, and Ithink she's holding on for her father," says Vonda.

 

[philamena]

Looks like the dad was granted 3 visits to his daughter's bedside in previous months. I hope and pray that a dyign child's wish is granted.

Jason Yaeger has been allowed three brief supervised visits since the terminal diagnosis last fall, and the visits have prompted remarkable, if short-lived revivals in Jayci's condition, she added

 

[Amraann]

Amraan,

I really do understand what you're saying, but this isn't about HIM...it's about Jayci.

I know it's hard not to judge another human being, we all do to some extent. But from what I've read, Jason certainly sounds as though he loves his daughter.

He is almost through with his time...he's asked to have the remaining months DOUBLED so that he can be by his daughter's side.

Jason is not asking to get out of his sentence. He is simply asking to be by his daughter's side when she dies. Granted, the mistakes I've made with our son (and there have been many), have not been the type mistakes to land me in prison, but I just cannot envision one good reason why this Father should not be allowed to see his daughter when she takes her last dying breath. It is clear, as Jayci's Mother has stated, that Jayci is literally hanging on so that she can see and hear her Father one last time. I would love to hear that she was able to do this. Why on earth anyone would want to keep this little girl from receiving her one last dying wish, is just beyond me.

Kim HI!!!
Your words as always touch me ...
I do not believe either of them.. as I presume that is what got their previous visits.
I do not believe this is her last dying wish. The father ( loose wording there!!) was not so concerned about that when dealing Meth.

To be totally brutal .. I do not care what Jayci's mother says .. this is the women who married or chose to have child with a meth dealer?


Again I know most of you will be totally pissed at what I just said but please understand that I am sooo done hearing about parents pleading after the fact.. They were not so concerned before they were BUSTED.
In reality.. we are talking about meth addicts .. Lets break that down..
METH addicts!! Put the feelings about this one little girl aside..
Think about all the others raised by the same scum.. because they were dealt those drugs by..... oohh her dad...
If there is a way for her to see her dad I am really ok with it.. BUt please let this be an example for all the rest.. and not a reason that they get some early parole or visit.

 

[tlstcb]

tlstcb, I am SO sorry you lost your son to drugs. ((hugs))

Thank you Taximom. My son dealt with a lot of depression every since he got back from Iraq. Not with what happened over there but with what happened here when he was gone. He wanted so much to be a father. He wanted his wife pregnant before he left. He was afraid something might happen to make him sterile while over there. He loved kids with all his heart. He rededicated his life to christ and was rebaptized Feb. 2007. He went back into depression after finding out his wife was pregnant by another man. July he shot himself in the head with a 12 gauge. The rifle slipped when he pulled the trigger and went through his cheeks. He just went down hill after that. His wife had her baby right before Christmas. He sang Whiskey Lullabye Christmas Eve at home. You could hear the pain in his voice. 9 days later he was gone. This is a page his sister made. He was 25 years old.

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=329691198

 

[Taximom]

Oh my gosh, your son went through so much in the last year. I know you probably felt helpless, but I'm sure you did everything possible to help him find his way. I feel so sorry for the soldiers in Iraq. I've known a few and they are different when they come back.

If you ever want to talk about it here, I know there are so many others that will listen and comfort you here. :blowkiss: My heart and prayers go out to you and your family.