A Little Girl's Dying Wish

[IdahoMom]

Thank you Taximom. My son dealt with a lot of depression every since he got back from Iraq. Not with what happened over there but with what happened here when he was gone. He wanted so much to be a father. He wanted his wife pregnant before he left. He was afraid something might happen to make him sterile while over there. He loved kids with all his heart. He rededicated his life to christ and was rebaptized Feb. 2007. He went back into depression after finding out his wife was pregnant by another man. July he shot himself in the head with a 12 gauge. The rifle slipped when he pulled the trigger and went through his cheeks. He just went down hill after that. His wife had her baby right before Christmas. He sang Whiskey Lullabye Christmas Eve at home. You could hear the pain in his voice. 9 days later he was gone. This is a page his sister made. He was 25 years old.

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=329691198

tlstcb-

Thanks for sharing your son's page-it's very nicely done. I read a few of the comments and they're just heartbreaking.

I can't imagine the pain you've gone through. I wish things could have been different for your sweet son and your family.

Bless you.

(((hugs)))

 

[bertajo]

Seven million people are currently incarcerated in the US, and I am sure that many of them would enjoy a furlough or reduced sentence to be with ill and dying family members. Mathematically, we can not financially support all families’ wishes.

I have sympathy for this child, but I am hesitant to support her wish to be reunited with her father. I am not convinced that he is capable of parenting and supporting her at this time, and he has said nothing publicly to demonstrate that he acknowledges his ownership in this problem. He claims to be close to his children, yet I question this sentiment in part because he has been incarcerated for almost half of his daughter’s life. Does he have the skills to avoid his addiction while he buries his daughter? His past behaviors demonstrate his choice for meth, not his daughter, again and again. And, I can’t help but wonder if there a correlation between her tumors and his meth use?

 

[Lurker]

5 years for dealing meth, hmm. Just imagine if he was a child molestor, he would've already been out by now.

 

[Paladin]

Seven million people are currently incarcerated in the US, and I am sure that many of them would enjoy a furlough or reduced sentence to be with ill and dying family members. Mathematically, we can not financially support all families’ wishes.

I have sympathy for this child, but I am hesitant to support her wish to be reunited with her father. I am not convinced that he is capable of parenting and supporting her at this time, and he has said nothing publicly to demonstrate that he acknowledges his ownership in this problem. He claims to be close to his children, yet I question this sentiment in part because he has been incarcerated for almost half of his daughter’s life. Does he have the skills to avoid his addiction while he buries his daughter? His past behaviors demonstrate his choice for meth, not his daughter, again and again. And, I can’t help but wonder if there a correlation between her tumors and his meth use?

No one said anything about letting him out and parenting her. The girl just wants her father at her side before she dies. I think terminal illness, especially of a child, is special circumstance to let someone out for a day.

The way they treat drug dealers/drug addicts vs. sex offenders is mind boggling. If this was a sex offender and not a meth dealer the warden and the judicial system would probably be falling all over themselves to let this man be at his daughter's side. It's sickening.

 

[Trino]

Seven million people are currently incarcerated in the US, and I am sure that many of them would enjoy a furlough or reduced sentence to be with ill and dying family members. Mathematically, we can not financially support all families’ wishes.

I have sympathy for this child, but I am hesitant to support her wish to be reunited with her father. I am not convinced that he is capable of parenting and supporting her at this time, and he has said nothing publicly to demonstrate that he acknowledges his ownership in this problem. He claims to be close to his children, yet I question this sentiment in part because he has been incarcerated for almost half of his daughter’s life. Does he have the skills to avoid his addiction while he buries his daughter? His past behaviors demonstrate his choice for meth, not his daughter, again and again. And, I can’t help but wonder if there a correlation between her tumors and his meth use?

The man is already scheduled to be in a half-way house in August - an hour away from his daughter; what's a few months? He is not about to "parent" or "support" his family. Her mother is doing this. All the daughter asks is to see him, since she physically cannot travel to prision. In the long run of things, will incarcerating him 5 months more change anything?

As for the correlation between meth and tumors, only doctors can answer that, but your statement is the first I've heard to connect them.

 

[IdahoMom]

The White House comment line number is 212-456-1111 if anyone wants to call and encourage the President to grant clemency.

 

[imthemom]

I have been thinking about this all night and first I would like to say he without sin should cast the first stone. People can say he is a bad parent for doing drugs and going to prison but the fact is we have all made mistakes. Can anyone honestly say they have been the perfect parent? Yes he made a big mistake but there is no doubt in my mind she loves her daddy and he loves her. I am praying for them to be united soon so she can pass unafraid in her parents arms.

 

[colomom]

Thanks Idahomom for the number. This is the email address if you would rather: [email protected]

imthemom, your post touched my heart and made me cry.:blowkiss:

Compassion is love, intolerance, is not. I wish we had more compassion when necessary.

 

[imthemom]

Thanks Idahomom for the number. This is the email address if you would rather: [email protected]

imthemom, your post touched my heart and made me cry.:blowkiss:

Compassion is love, intolerance, is not. I wish we had more compassion when necessary.

Thanks colomom, I am e-mailing right now.

 

[Kim Ii]

Hi Amraan!

I just read your post. But Am, Jason isn't asking for an early parole! Did you read my entire post? Jason is asking that his last remaining months (10 or so to yet be served) BE DOUBLED if he can just be with his daughter during her last moments!

We don't have the right to judge another -- how many of us are w/o wrongdoing in our lives? I haven't been the perfect parent, either. To be sure, I've not done anything to endanger my child, but I think even Ryan would tell you I get on his last nerves sometimes :crazy: .

I don't get the impression that anyone is lying here. In fact, lying doesn't play into this at all, or you would have to accuse Jayci's physician of lying as well. I READ Jayci's physician's letter, asking the Court to allow Jason to be with his dying daughter. I don't honestly feel the physician would outright lie for any reason and put her career on the line, do you?

This is a simple heartfelt story, with hopefully what will be the best end result -- that of a Father who has made egregious mistakes in his life, and he's serving his time. Unfortunately, he has a dying daughter who wishes more than anything, to see her Daddy one last time before she draws her last breath. That's all...

This story is about human frailty, it's about forgiveness, it's about tragedy and sin -- it's about a little girl and a Father caught up in something so tragic, as to be beyond words. This is a story about compassion and LOVE and forgiveness.

Intuition tells me, Amraan, that there's a reason this story presses a huge button for you! But I honestly feel all of us can learn something wonderful, here. It's about opening our hearts and minds and accepting the fact that we humans make horrendous mistakes, but at the same time, we are also capable of enormous compassion and forgiveness.

I don't know Jason. I know he's done something wrong and he's serving his time. I know he has a wife who is stating that, at the minimum, he's been a loving Father -- Jayci clearly loves her Daddy.

No. I hope Jayci and Jason are able to be together one last time, if Jayci's time here on this planet is truly at an end. I would hope that Jason can be by her side to hold Jayci, stroke her hair, speak to her, cry for her, and be there when she takes her last breath. Jason has made his mistakes, but all Jayci wants is her Dad.

 

[Kim Ii]

Here is a link to an article about Jayci, along with a video, which shows Jayci in happier, healthier times, just six months ago.

http://www.kolnkgin.com/home/headlines/16762906.html#

 

[IdahoMom]

Here is a link to an article about Jayci, along with a video, which shows Jayci in happier, healthier times, just six months ago.

http://www.kolnkgin.com/home/headlines/16762906.html#

Thanks for the link, Kim...Jayci is such a sweet girl!

 

[Trino]

Kim HI!!!
Your words as always touch me ...
I do not believe either of them.. as I presume that is what got their previous visits.
I do not believe this is her last dying wish. The father ( loose wording there!!) was not so concerned about that when dealing Meth.

To be totally brutal .. I do not care what Jayci's mother says .. this is the women who married or chose to have child with a meth dealer?


Again I know most of you will be totally pissed at what I just said but please understand that I am sooo done hearing about parents pleading after the fact.. They were not so concerned before they were BUSTED.
In reality.. we are talking about meth addicts .. Lets break that down..
METH addicts!! Put the feelings about this one little girl aside..
Think about all the others raised by the same scum.. because they were dealt those drugs by..... oohh her dad...
If there is a way for her to see her dad I am really ok with it.. BUt please let this be an example for all the rest.. and not a reason that they get some early parole or visit.

What this man did happened 5 years ago. Five years ago his daughter was not dying of cancer. Why punish the child?

The father is due to be transferred to a half-way house next August. This is 5 months from now. What difference does 5 months make?

When this man finally gets out, what will his attitude be if he is not permitted to see his dying daughter? Personally, I think his attitude toward LE and society would be much improved if his daughter's wish were granted.

 

[Kim Ii]

Isn't she, though? What a difference 6 months makes!

It just hones in on the oft "live each day to its fullest," creed, doesn't it? Life is so wonderfully precious. The time to enjoy one another is NOW. Make time for your loved ones each and every day.

I can remember when Ryan was just a little over one year old. I had taken him to the park near our home. It was during the Fall and the leaves were turning and falling to the ground. I picked up a maple leaf and it was really sticky. I can remember telling Ryan that the leaf was sticky. There was something about the word sticky that really made Ryan just crack up. I mean, he literally doubled over and just let out this adorable, gutteral laugh...SO unusual for a babe his age, but oh God, he just cracked up.

I later learned that there were just certain words that sounded really funny to Ryan and he'd crack up just hearing them.

Ryan is now almost 15 years old, and to this day, he displays that same sense of humor that he did when he was so young. In spite of all our troubles with his learning differences, it's always those little things you notice along the way that make you stop and grin, years later.

I cannot think of a more heartwrenching moment if Jason is not allowed his daughter one last visit before she takes her final breath. That moment, too, will be forever etched into his memory banks, if he is allowed that one last caress, that one last soft kiss against her warm cheek, that one last moment in time as she takes her last breath.

He will have that memory forever in his heart, as will Jayci. And who knows, maybe that one moment will help Jason to heal, too, and remember what life is REALLY all about.

 

[IdahoMom]

Isn't she, though? What a difference 6 months makes!

It just hones in on the oft "live each day to its fullest," creed, doesn't it? Life is so wonderfully precious. The time to enjoy one another is NOW. Make time for your loved ones each and every day.

I can remember when Ryan was just a little over one year old. I had taken him to the park near our home. It was during the Fall and the leaves were turning and falling to the ground. I picked up a maple leaf and it was really sticky. I can remember telling Ryan that the leaf was sticky. There was something about the word sticky that really made Ryan just crack up. I mean, he literally doubled over and just let out this adorable, gutteral laugh...SO unusual for a babe his age, but oh God, he just cracked up.

I later learned that there were just certain words that sounded really funny to Ryan and he'd crack up just hearing them.

Ryan is now almost 15 years old, and to this day, he displays that same sense of humor that he did when he was so young. In spite of all our troubles with his learning differences, it's always those little things you notice along the way that make you stop and grin, years later.

I cannot think of a more heartwrenching moment if Jason is not allowed his daughter one last visit before she takes her final breath. That moment, too, will be forever etched into his memory banks, if he is allowed that one last caress, that one last soft kiss against her warm cheek, that one last moment in time as she takes her last breath.

He will have that memory forever in his heart, as will Jayci. And who knows, maybe that one moment will help Jason to heal, too, and remember what life is REALLY all about.

Beautiful post, Kim. Thanks for sharing your heart.

I agree with you completely.

 

[KarlK]

Jason Yeager is on the last year of his 5 1/2 yr sentence for a drug conviction. He's scheduled to be released to a halfway house in August.

Are you serious? Even the most heartless paper-pusher at the AG in DC should be moved enough by the exceptional circumstances to grant an early release in this particular case. Considering that if the guy had been serving a state sentence he likely would have been paroled years ago. By federal standards his sentence his quite short, and he's being held in a minimal security facility, which means he's been deemed harmless and is not a flight risk. Escaping from a minimal-security facility is said to be a piece of cake, inmates often work in the community with only very minimal supervision if at all because, well, the huge majority of them won't be tempted to escape. Obviously this man deserves a break and be allowed to be with his daughter before it's too late.

 

[IdahoMom]

Family: Dying Girl Had Rough Sunday

http://www.ketv.com/family/15690105/detail.html

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LINCOLN, Neb. -- The 10-year-old Lincoln girl whose dying wish is to have her incarcerated father at her bedside had a rough Sunday, relatives told KETV NewsWatch 7.
Jayci Yaeger, who has brain cancer, had a rough morning on Sunday that included several seizures, family said. Jayci did better in the afternoon.

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Uncle Pleads With Prison

http://www.ketv.com/video/15674716/index.html

 

[fran]

They just talked about this case on Bill O'Reilly tonite. Sadly, the child has taken a turn for the worst in the past few hours and is in a coma and her time is down to possibly hours. Gregg Jarrett contacted authorities on this little girl's behalf, to no avail, yet. They're working on it but don't have much hope anything they do will be in time. But, they're going to keep trying.

JMHO
fran

 

[IdahoMom]

They just talked about this case on Bill O'Reilly tonite. Sadly, the child has taken a turn for the worst in the past few hours and is in a coma and her time is down to possibly hours. Gregg Jarrett contacted authorities on this little girl's behalf, to no avail, yet. They're working on it but don't have much hope anything they do will be in time. But, they're going to keep trying.

JMHO
fran

Hi Fran-

I just saw Jayci's story on Fox, too...her story just breaks my heart. It sounds like the poor little girl is trying to hang on for her Daddy. I hope he can get there soon.

 

[Taximom]

She's in a coma?