My interpretation is that she was a straight-out victim. He pressured her for money and so she stole from home. After she'd left home she no longer had that opportunity, and he maxed out her credit cards then dumped her.'
'In her early twenties, Caddick was left emotionally and financially devastated after a romance scam. She was still living at home in Lugarno when she began dating a man she’d met at Friday night drinks in a pub in the city. “Money and various things were going missing from the family home,” recalls Joanna.
The private investigator hired by her parents discovered the man was a con artist who had previously preyed on naïve young women. “When they confronted Melissa with this, she went berserk,” recalls Joanna.
“She didn’t believe them and ran away with him.” Her brother Adam rang Joanna begging her “to try to talk some sense into Melissa”. She thought it best to let her friend work things out.
Not long after, Melissa returned home. “He’d maxed out her credit cards,” Joanna says. “He’d got what he wanted and didn’t need her any more.” Caddick was distraught and is believed to have suffered some kind of a breakdown. But while she’d learnt a valuable lesson, it wasn’t the one her friends and family imagined'
I took that in a totally different light!.. that she , and this earlier crook were in the scam together, a practice run, so to speak, and like a hell of a lot of scammers she was scammed by her partner... The dead giveaway is that stuff went missing from the family home, who would know where the stuff was except Melissa?..
Which is why she probably never went into a dodgy partnership again ... unless she held all the leashes, papers, and numbers... her process after this was as a solo flyer, and so that was a very valuable and profitable lesson, one she never appeared to deviate from for the rest of her life.
I wonder whether or not her breakdown included realizing what had happened. She might have found an escape from humiliation in 'identifying with the aggressor', thinking of the episode as a kind of training, he the benevolent master, she the disciple.