Found Deceased Australia - Melissa Caddick, 49, Sydney, NSW, 12 Nov 2020 #7

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'In her early twenties, Caddick was left emotionally and financially devastated after a romance scam. She was still living at home in Lugarno when she began dating a man she’d met at Friday night drinks in a pub in the city. “Money and various things were going missing from the family home,” recalls Joanna.

The private investigator hired by her parents discovered the man was a con artist who had previously preyed on naïve young women. “When they confronted Melissa with this, she went berserk,” recalls Joanna.

“She didn’t believe them and ran away with him.” Her brother Adam rang Joanna begging her “to try to talk some sense into Melissa”. She thought it best to let her friend work things out.

Not long after, Melissa returned home. “He’d maxed out her credit cards,” Joanna says. “He’d got what he wanted and didn’t need her any more.” Caddick was distraught and is believed to have suffered some kind of a breakdown. But while she’d learnt a valuable lesson, it wasn’t the one her friends and family imagined'

I took that in a totally different light!.. that she , and this earlier crook were in the scam together, a practice run, so to speak, and like a hell of a lot of scammers she was scammed by her partner... The dead giveaway is that stuff went missing from the family home, who would know where the stuff was except Melissa?..

Which is why she probably never went into a dodgy partnership again ... unless she held all the leashes, papers, and numbers... her process after this was as a solo flyer, and so that was a very valuable and profitable lesson, one she never appeared to deviate from for the rest of her life.
My interpretation is that she was a straight-out victim. He pressured her for money and so she stole from home. After she'd left home she no longer had that opportunity, and he maxed out her credit cards then dumped her.

I wonder whether or not her breakdown included realizing what had happened. She might have found an escape from humiliation in 'identifying with the aggressor', thinking of the episode as a kind of training, he the benevolent master, she the disciple.
 
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My interpretation is that she was a straight-out victim. He pressured her for money and so she stole from home. After she'd left home she no longer had that opportunity, and he maxed out her credit cards then dumped her.

I wonder whether or not her breakdown included realizing what had happened. She might have found an escape from humiliation in 'identifying with the aggressor', thinking of the episode as a kind of training, he the benevolent master, she the disciple.

Melissa was very young to have been caught like this by a romantic scammer. It must have been hard for her to process that a guy she was likely 'in love with' could use her so heartlessly. Hence the denial.
Perhaps he was even her 'first love'. Not a good way to introduce her to the world of romantic love.

It is quite enlightening, as to her future actions against people she cared for. Definitely some mental issues going on there, I would say.
 
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Edit: And they are trying to negotiate a date for the vacation of the properties.

Seems like they can string this out for a long time. The occupiers (AK, and the parents) don't even have to attempt to agree to a date to vacate until 30th July. That is still 3 months away. And any date they may agree or disagree on could be further away than that.

"in the case of the Real Property, seek the written consent of the occupiers of any such property by no later than 30 July 2021 that they will vacate the said property by a date acceptable to the Final Receivers"

I have empathy for the parents, but AK? What the heck is he doing? Why is he still in that big house? He has parents and family, if he is in need of a place to stay and can't afford one.
 
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Seems like they can string this out for a long time. The occupiers (AK, and the parents) don't even have to attempt to agree to a date to vacate until 30th July. That is still 3 months away. And any date they may agree or disagree on could be further away than that.

"in the case of the Real Property, seek the written consent of the occupiers of any such property by no later than 30 July 2021 that they will vacate the said property by a date acceptable to the Final Receivers"

I have empathy for the parents, but AK? What the heck is he doing? Why is he still in that big house? He has parents and family, if he is in need of a place to stay and can't afford one.
I don't know what the family situation is from his point of view--I don't necessarily blame him for not moving in with them. But otherwise he probably can't afford to remain in Sydney, and apparently there's a lot of competition for rental properties in NSW regional towns too. When I move as a renter just in Brisbane, it's months of solid work to find a place. Looking to move to another city, that's a really big task.
 
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I don't know what the family situation is from his point of view--I don't necessarily blame him for not moving in with them. But otherwise he probably can't afford to remain in Sydney, and apparently there's a lot of competition for rental properties in NSW regional towns too. When I move as a renter just in Brisbane, it's months of solid work to find a place. Looking to move to another city, that's a really big task.

Yes, I get that. But seriously, he has had months now to do something about his living situation. It is not as if someone has said "well, you might be able to retain the house". He knows there is absolutely no way of keeping that house for his possession.

Also, the job market has been open for a very long time now. Hairdressers have been in full swing. I can't make any excuses for him.

And all errant speculations about Melissa's son's father have now been dispelled, with the publishing of Kate's article. He moved back from the UK to be near his son. He is not uninterested. Melissa's son doesn't/shouldn't get to claim he wants to live with AK (if that is what he is doing) just so AK can hang onto the investors house by his fingernails, for as long as humanly possible.

I guess I am the only one here who thinks this is morally, financially and ethically WRONG.

The bank will get their mortgage payments/interest for all of this period, one way or another. And it won't be from AK, it will be from the investors. AK is still free-riding.
 
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Yes, I get that. But seriously, he has had months now to do something about his living situation. It is not as if someone has said "well, you might be able to retain the house". He knows there is absolutely no way of keeping that house for his possession.

Also, the job market has been open for a very long time now. Hairdressers have been in full swing. I can't make any excuses for him.

And all errant speculations about Melissa's son's father have now been dispelled, with the publishing of Kate's article. He moved back from the UK to be near his son. He is not uninterested. Melissa's son doesn't/shouldn't get to claim he wants to live with AK (if that is what he is doing) just so AK can hang onto the investors house by his fingernails, for as long as humanly possible.

I guess I am the only one here who thinks this is morally, financially and ethically WRONG.

The bank will get their mortgage payments/interest for all of this period, one way or another. And it won't be from AK, it will be from the investors. AK is still free-riding.
I think AK could well be doing the best he can. Melissa has trashed all their lives. I don't know, perhaps he's fighting to hold on to everything as much and as long as he can. But the situation of him not having moved out yet doesn't say that to me.

I'm doubtful whether he'll find a Sydney flat on a single hairdresser's income. Then he'll be losing both the cars so public transport accessibility is a factor. If he's on unemployment Centrelink may have a say in where he's allowed to move. And the practicalities are so much harder when you've also got grief or emotional damage.
 
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Yes, I get that. But seriously, he has had months now to do something about his living situation. It is not as if someone has said "well, you might be able to retain the house". He knows there is absolutely no way of keeping that house for his possession.

Also, the job market has been open for a very long time now. Hairdressers have been in full swing. I can't make any excuses for him.

And all errant speculations about Melissa's son's father have now been dispelled, with the publishing of Kate's article. He moved back from the UK to be near his son. He is not uninterested. Melissa's son doesn't/shouldn't get to claim he wants to live with AK (if that is what he is doing) just so AK can hang onto the investors house by his fingernails, for as long as humanly possible.

I guess I am the only one here who thinks this is morally, financially and ethically WRONG.

The bank will get their mortgage payments/interest for all of this period, one way or another. And it won't be from AK, it will be from the investors. AK is still free-riding.

Welcome to the REAL world AK..............he's had his free ride I guess .............
 
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To be fair, I can't see many people turning down the lifestyle that was offered to them.
 
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To be fair, I can't see many people turning down the lifestyle that was offered to them.

Offered to them Tootsie? , not sure that's how it went ;)

Not my kind of lifestyle, constantly looking over my shoulder, waiting for everything to come crashing down.........as it eventually had too IMO
 
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That's if he did know how that lifestyle came to be.
And yes it seemed like Melissa "paid" for everything so it was offered to him

:rolleyes:
 
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I think AK could well be doing the best he can.

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At $19,000 a month for his bereavement occupancy.

That mortgage was paid up until sometime in March. If the property could have been sold, the investors wouldn't be paying for AK to have an expensive roof over his head. Now it seems that they will be forking out for that payment until who-knows-when after 30th July.

AG should have given permission for it to be sold right away.
 
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Sorry to butt in with an unpopular opinion.

Is there a factual account of "how it went" Or is it just opinions.


Offered to them Tootsie? , not sure that's how it went
 
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Sorry to butt in with an unpopular opinion.

Is there a factual account of "how it went" Or is it just opinions.

No worries Tootsie, all opinions are OK & it would be a boring old world if we all agreed on everything :D

I just don't believe that AK had no idea of the wealth MC appeared to have etc , he could have had a gut feeling maybe?? He liked the lifestyle.....all my opinion :)
 
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At $19,000 a month for his bereavement occupancy.

That mortgage was paid up until sometime in March. If the property could have been sold, the investors wouldn't be paying for AK to have an expensive roof over his head. Now it seems that they will be forking out for that payment until who-knows-when after 30th July.

AG should have given permission for it to be sold right away.
Does anyone know how it would work, if the bank didn't get its mortgage payment? The properties being under receivership would presumably prevent the bank from selling up? Perhaps the bank would just get a larger slice from the eventual sale, to compensate for missed payments.
 
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Does anyone know how it would work, if the bank didn't get its mortgage payment? The properties being under receivership would presumably prevent the bank from selling up? Perhaps the bank would just get a larger slice from the eventual sale, to compensate for missed payments.

Yes, the bank gets its money - all of it, including the 'missed months' - from the sale of the property. Which means that the investors are continuing to pay for AK's occupancy.
 
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No worries Tootsie, all opinions are OK & it would be a boring old world if we all agreed on everything :D

I just don't believe that AK had no idea of the wealth MC appeared to have etc , he could have had a gut feeling maybe?? He liked the lifestyle.....all my opinion :)

I agree with you. AK did not know nothing.
His father seems a bit over the top in insisting his son knows nothing about anything. That he is one step up from an imbecile.
Somehow AK survived before Melissa came along.

At this point in time this case is no longer about how 'bad' Melissa was. Nor is it about helping AK through his bereavement. It is now about retrieving every possible cent for the investors who were sucked in.
 
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Yes, the bank gets its money - all of it, including the 'missed months' - from the sale of the property. Which means that the investors are continuing to pay for AK's occupancy.
Yes, I see. Unless AG is covering it, on the understanding that AK pay him back if he's ever able.
 
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There's a little song I didn't write. you might not wanna sing it note for note.

Don't Wowwy Be Happy. Hugs For Drsleuth :D

No worries Tootsie, all opinions are OK & it would be a boring old world if we all agreed on everything :D
 
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