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I have had experience with the Saudis, even rich, although limited. Have many acquaintances who are Pakistani. Generally, the Bell curve works for any society. There are arranged marriages that work great, there are some that are horrible. Divorces are allowed. Kids usually stay with the dad. I strongly suspect that the dowry is returned in case of a divorce, though, and is an “insurance”. (We do need someone from Islamic culture to explain it to us better, considering that we are non-judgmental). Polygamy is allowed, but is very expensive as theoretically, the second wife can demand own household. In general, the female community is very strong and it is super important to have the support of your own. Women don’t work, but they can have own businesses from home, some very expensive.
Here, women do get westernized, but to keep in mind, these are not the poorest ones who immigrate. The most bizarre cases of abuse happen in poor provinces.
I personally think they were hyper vigilant because they thought they were under threat (and probably had some reason to feel this) Given that they are now dead, it may have been true. But also might have made them so distressed by the whole situation they took their own lives.
They made it to another country, so, at least one had strength and will. She might have been the source of paranoia, but more in common bipolar, than schizophrenic, way. JMO. The other girl, potentially, had better chance of integrating into any society, but I bet some folie a deux set up during COVID.
Still, I am 50/50 about suicide/homicide. Maybe with the demise of their “protector” at home and lack of funds, desperation set in. They were not used to being poor. At the same time, when the protector died, it would be easy to remove them, as no one cared.
Also: paranoia - no paranoia. To remember, they didn’t make constant, or even many, complaints. First, they complained, and there was a person standing there. So, not a hallucination, right? Also, maybe some delivery was stealing food? (Depends on food. Happened to me, and it was good food, but I didn’t complain). Anyhow, it is not unusual, that complaint. As to the guy who said they were friends…haven’t we heard this, “platonic”, in another thread? Probably, she liked attention, and he, being a young, unmarried man, maybe tried to grab her, or hug? I mean, something happened, he acknowledges, right? So, not that it is total paranoia. About the car being keyed, this was real, and honestly, the garage should have cameras to prevent such situations. Not too many complaints during these years.