I find it interesting that FFC insists that she wanted foster children to have relationships with bio-parents. Whilst I don't think there is anything "conclusive" to mine in FFC's early attempt to "surreptitiously" explore adoption (although I'm not going to fault someone for finding it "suggestive"), I do think it's telling that FFC did not want bio-parents to know about her or her husband's identity, when they had a choice in the matter.
I recognise the complexity in foster/bio parent relationships and being a foster parent (on top of raising a child, raising a child that isn't "yours," managing the impact from the child's relationship with bio-parents, dealing with "the system," etc). But, I also appreciate honesty. Like, I can imagine being a foster parent, eventually wanting full custody, assuming full responsibility on shaping the children without the influence of bio-parents who I might decide are not healthy influences as parents, nor on the foster/bio situation. Like, I GET THAT. 100%. And if that is what you want, then BE HONEST ABOUT IT.
Or, keep things 100% separate, and allow the kids to have the bond and very limited time they have with bio-parents, and just cope. But, that doesn't exactly sound like a recipe for success.
For someone to portray themselves as being invested in the foster children having a relationship with bio-parents, I can't help but think that requires some degree of initiating interaction with the bio parents (at least a good will attempt to make the situation "work"). With boundaries, obviously. I would see this as some effort at normalising an awkward and abnormal situation as much as possible, and attempt to show the children that the two sets of parents can get along (won't know unless you try). Granted, perhaps it ends up being a fool's errand, as we're dealing with two bio-parents who are volatile people. But, it also appears that these bio-parents were invested in the best interests of their children. To make assumptions that they wouldn't try to make the situation "work" wouldn't really be fair (even if their endgame is to eventually get their children back).
Were fosters invested in the children's ultimate welfare unconditionally? Or were they operating from a place where they saw adoptive rights over the children as being the only good outcome for the children? (i.e. we're financially better off, we're socially more desirable, we don't have drug issues, we don't have issues with the law, WE HAVE PLAYED JUDGE, JURY, and EXECUTIONER THAT WE ARE BETTER PEOPLE and can give the children the best lives; and society supports this mentality)
So, was FFC invested in the bio-parents having a relationship with the children? Where's the evidence? All I've read are the bio-parents being left completely in the dark in all of this, with no demonstrated regard for them or what they're going through, which has been entirely brought upon them by the foster parents--regardless of the guilty or innocence of the fosters.
The sense of entitlement is off-the-charts.