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OK, seems like all the productive stuff is over with, so I bid you all adieu and I will see you tomorrow.
if he left town, i believe they would still have to run it the paper before the court date. did they adopt in TN or AZ , did they up and move in the middle of the adoption
When the State moves to terminate your parental rights you have the legal right to surrender them or go to trial. It sounds like the mother surrendered hers and that they asked him to do the same which he refused so the State acted to sever them.
yes my sons bio mom surrender hers before they terminated her rights,
then they worked on terminating the fathers, not a short process, lots of steps took about year after she surrendered
I have heard that the trial usually lasts 1 or 2 days. Maybe it took longer because they had to give him a year to work on a permanency plan? Or serve him notice?
What you are not getting is this... The State had an obligation to notify him of a trial to terminate his rights. No one else! If he was defrauded it was by the State of TN and the district attorneys office who handles it! But I do not for 1 minute believe that happened! AND it has never been anyones obligation to notify a grandparent (Travis' parents) of any pending trial, They have absolutely no standing in it.
Very nice catch.
What you are not getting is this.... IF the state's notification went to a bogus or no-longer-valid address and never did reach him, but he was actually talking to both H's mother AND the Smiths prior to that hearing, who did have full knowledge of the date of the hearing AND they intentionally lied in order to insure that he never made it to that hearing, I would want a consultation with a VERY good family law attorney.
Way too many people with fraudulent intentions shrug off their legal and moral obligations too easily. Isn't it so easy for SOME people to feel smugly self-righteous? We are getting to see an example of that and its pretty ugly.
I say that if they really felt H, or Gabriel for that matter, would be placed with them based on the TRUE facts of the case, then why in the world would they risk so much to lie, cheat, scheme, and fabricate lies that weren't even necessary?
TAW's parents, H's real flesh and blood grandparents, were brought into it by Jack himself, who stated that he called them and talked to them about H and their role in her life, as I understand the Examiner article to say. I never said the state had an obligation to notify grandparents of hearings. But I do believe they should have had as much legal standing to be heard as the maternal grandparents.
And you are totally right; people lie, cheat, and steal every day and shrug it off as someone else's fault. If they can sleep with themselves at night just because they can point the blame elsewhere, I don't want to know them personally. I just want the children to have a home that is honest and loving.
What you are not getting is this.... IF the state's notification went to a bogus or no-longer-valid address and never did reach him, but he was actually talking to both H's mother AND the Smiths prior to that hearing, who did have full knowledge of the date of the hearing AND they intentionally lied in order to insure that he never made it to that hearing, I would want a consultation with a VERY good family law attorney.
Way too many people with fraudulent intentions shrug off their legal and moral obligations too easily. Isn't it so easy for SOME people to feel smugly self-righteous? We are getting to see an example of that and its pretty ugly.
I say that if they really felt H, or Gabriel for that matter, would be placed with them based on the TRUE facts of the case, then why in the world would they risk so much to lie, cheat, scheme, and fabricate lies that weren't even necessary?
TAW's parents, H's real flesh and blood grandparents, were brought into it by Jack himself, who stated that he called them and talked to them about H and their role in her life, as I understand the Examiner article to say. I never said the state had an obligation to notify grandparents of hearings. But I do believe they should have had as much legal standing to be heard as the maternal grandparents.
And you are totally right; people lie, cheat, and steal every day and shrug it off as someone else's fault. If they can sleep with themselves at night just because they can point the blame elsewhere, I don't want to know them personally. I just want the children to have a home that is honest and loving.
It doesnt matter if someone did not tell you there was a hearing, legally they do not have to. Legally there is nothing wrong with them not telling you, not reminding you, and even hoping you dont come. Legally it is your responsibility to know what is going on with your own childs well being and be actively involved in it when the State takes custody. Hopefully so you can get your child back! He admitted that he knew that the child was in State custody, and that he had attended hearings and then left town! He could have filed papers in court notifying the State of his new address and that is exactly what he should have done to avoid this. I do not care if he didnt have legal representation and didnt know better! There is no more important time to find out your rights than when the State takes your child away from you! And if you dont, then oh well! You never deserved that child if it was not worth your effort!
(snipped) It is legal! It does not mean they must hunt him down personally and make sure he gets a notice wherever in the world he may be. Although its blatantly obvious that he believes that is the States obligation... it is not! What part do you not understand? It seems you just want to make this Tammie's fault no matter what because you do not like her and while I would agree she is not too likeable I still will not enable someone who abandoned his child and now wants to make excuses for it!
That was my initial thought, as well. Then I read the article.Well JS said that they took "a" laptop that hadn't been turned on in 8 months. That doesn't mean that TammiJack didn't have another one (or two) that had been used more recently.
Melissa
It is not blatantly obvious that he believes its the state's obligation to hunt him down! It IS blatantly obvious that he believes he was personally lied to, cheated, and betrayed by the people who were caring for his child while he was working and while the child's mother was drug addicted and unable to care for the child herself. What part of this do you not understand?
I have no interest in making this Tammi's fault, neither do I dislike her as I have never even met her. In H's case, I only saw TAW mention Jack and Jack's daughter as spewing lies in order to strip him of his parental rights.
I am curious as to why Jack would offer him money to 'disappear' if he felt he could legally gain custody of H without a payoff? And since TAW claims to have turned good money down for a child you SAY he had already abandoned, it seems an odd coincidence there was an ensuing hearing for which TAW says he wasn't notified, and a hasty and secretive move out of state.
As to Tammi, I AM seeing her pursue media outlets for public displays of untruthfullness concerning another child's parental rights. I'm pretty sure I'm not imagining that!
I am taking none of this personally, just looking at the facts that are out there in the public about these cases. I think that a good look at what has really happened is warranted, considering what we are seeing for ourselves in a very public venue. Nothing to worry or fret about if everything was indeed handled as it should have been, right?
I guess everybody different, I made sure my sons bio mom was at court the day they terminated her rights so, she would know what she was doing,
the judge talked to and explained everything to her before she signed , so i dont have a guilty conchies (sp) spell check just aint helping
You are assuming that anything he says is true! He is a convicted criminal! He left of his own free will knowing his child was in the custody of the State and came back to discover he was no longer a parent. Those are the facts.
You are assuming that anything he says is true! He is a convicted criminal! He left of his own free will knowing his child was in the custody of the State and came back to discover he was no longer a parent. Those are the facts.