"Why me." ...self-pity, on the day of her daughter's memorial?
Self-pity is the psychological state of mind of an individual in perceived adverse situations who has not accepted the situation and does not have the confidence nor competence to cope with it. It is characterized by a person's belief that he or she is the victim of unfortunate circumstances or events and is therefore deserving of condolence. Self-pity is generally regarded as a negative emotion in that it does not generally help deal with adverse situations. However, in a social context, it may result in either the offering of sympathy or advice. Self-pity may be considered normal, and in certain circumstances healthy, so long as it is transitory and leads to either acceptance or a determination to change the situation.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-pity
Again: I am NOT excusing TG's behavior! This is a sleuthing web site. This is what we do.
As stated in the wiki, if that show of self-pity is "transitory and leads to acceptance" (which IMO must include that she eventually recognize how her choices might have played a role in what led to Isabella's murder) then she will truly suffer for her loss of Isabella. Time will tell.
TG clearly is grieving for "Bella", but entirely from her own perspective, "why me" ...not, "Bella will never play in the park again. Bella will never get to dance at her prom." ...wow.
Hopefully TG's main course of "why me" will completely digest from her mind after the shock of the murder of her baby girl subsides to some manageable level. If she does not come around, then we might conclude her seemingly complete lack of self-awareness runs too deeply within (a psychological disorder? mental illness?) and she most likely would need therapy to recover. Frankly, I perceive minimal chance of recovery. TG will be lost for quite some time, if not for the rest of her life.
Is TG simply a 'sc*m of the earth' who deserves to suffer tenfold what Isabella likely suffered? Justice must prevail. So, what is justice in this case? Should we hold the mentally ill to account for their actions? In certain cases, yes. This might be one of those cases. But then, how could we convict a blind man for falling into a sewer drain unless someone had previously warned him it was in his path? I wonder how many people warned TG?
