CARIIS
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Respectfully as well!
This is what its like AN example of mom and dad real hell (and he is high functioning) Mom and Dad have to work. He wakes up agitated, refusing to take his medications. Now mom could take her sick child and attempt to force them down his throat, but knows that kind of activity would increase his agitation. Last time she tried that he bit her finger so bad that it got infected and then he threw two lamps at her. This is before your frist cup[ of coffee.
Mom and Dad have to go to work. They cannot spend an hour attempting to deescalate him. SO moms choice is to get him off to School without his meds. BUT without his meds, he keeps escalating. There is another child in the home.She walks in and is scared to dealht her big brother is screaming, slamming his hands everwhere tossed two glasses on the floor , there is no glass on the floor and the little one starts crying.
He had a bad day about three weeks ago and was ruminating loudly about how he is going to kill everyone in the houe with this knife. They hide the knives and hope for the best at that point, Obviously both mom and dad (Friday night) displayed a total awareness ( and sadly were correct) that he had the capacity to harm self and kill others others
She placed him in an apt where other people were around (sad now) but not living on his own. His high functioning actually hurt him in terms of placement. He could manage his daily stuff, grooming brushing teeth, shower, buying food etc
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He kicked the dog really hard two weeks and broke through the sliding glass door a month ago. Six weeks ago he shoved the younger child in home down – she needed stitches. But dad is at work, mom needs to get to the ER, but knows she cant leaved him agitated along
Years of this………..what would you do? Tthey just did the best they could,
The lower functioning austic can be really scary.......
This is what its like AN example of mom and dad real hell (and he is high functioning) Mom and Dad have to work. He wakes up agitated, refusing to take his medications. Now mom could take her sick child and attempt to force them down his throat, but knows that kind of activity would increase his agitation. Last time she tried that he bit her finger so bad that it got infected and then he threw two lamps at her. This is before your frist cup[ of coffee.
Mom and Dad have to go to work. They cannot spend an hour attempting to deescalate him. SO moms choice is to get him off to School without his meds. BUT without his meds, he keeps escalating. There is another child in the home.She walks in and is scared to dealht her big brother is screaming, slamming his hands everwhere tossed two glasses on the floor , there is no glass on the floor and the little one starts crying.
He had a bad day about three weeks ago and was ruminating loudly about how he is going to kill everyone in the houe with this knife. They hide the knives and hope for the best at that point, Obviously both mom and dad (Friday night) displayed a total awareness ( and sadly were correct) that he had the capacity to harm self and kill others others
She placed him in an apt where other people were around (sad now) but not living on his own. His high functioning actually hurt him in terms of placement. He could manage his daily stuff, grooming brushing teeth, shower, buying food etc
.
He kicked the dog really hard two weeks and broke through the sliding glass door a month ago. Six weeks ago he shoved the younger child in home down – she needed stitches. But dad is at work, mom needs to get to the ER, but knows she cant leaved him agitated along
Years of this………..what would you do? Tthey just did the best they could,
The lower functioning austic can be really scary.......
Cariis, I respectfully disagree with your conclusion that the parents did the best they could and were caring/enlightened. Perhaps they did the best they could at the moment they found out about the manifesto (at age 22 & very recently).
However, let's not forget that the stepmother was very, very afraid of ER. She wanted him out of the house at age 18 and ER's father supported that decision. So in essence, he was a sick little boy, a sick young man and the most caring thing is to let him loose on his own without any "tools"?
His behavioral issues were significant and manifested themselves at a very, very early age.
I'm not necessarily blaming the parents but I wouldn't give them a free pass either. They were aware of the build-up of ER's behavior but couldn't or wouldn't do enough to prevent the outcome.
Also, I would like to thank you Cariis for your patient posts informing the laypeeps here about DSM V and it's interpretation/significance.