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True, but WHAT appropriate actions are available? That is my point. Especially with a very young child, what the heck do you do with them?
ER was particularly difficult because he had his wits about him and could con concerned people. For example the cops who came along to check up. and probably the counselors too.
Right....what appropriate actions is the question.
I can't claim to have the answers but I do know this about me: I am very hyper-focused about my responsibilities to
society in regards parenting. Maybe that's a tad odd, maybe not?
ER exhibited some really weird and dangerous behavior from a very young age. He was all-consuming to a parent and yet, the irony is that it seemed he was left dangling on his own in the end. There was no real care going on and he was not taking medications although he had been prescribed some in the past. He didnt suddenly spiral---it was always there, festering and exhibiting itself frequently and in many ways.
Personally, any child of mine that poses threatening actions/demeanor like in the Asperger meltdown video that a WS poster put up here is off to intensive counseling (and perhaps living in a clinical setting) and probably going on meds. Professional mental evaluations, treatment plans, and interventions, STAT. I wouldn't expose myself, spouse, and siblings to a child that screams incessantly, breaks things, cries and rants, and makes no distinction between cause and effect and right from wrong (especially if they haven't learned this by pre-puberty). I would not be in denial; I'd be proactive. I know this would need to be done while this child is young.
And I also know that no matter how wonderful it may seem to relish in the joy of getting rid of an unbalanced, non-coping young adult when they turned 18 and was an "adult" (and let's admit, it's true)......I wouldn't want a person that sick living out amongst the unsuspecting general population (such as roommates at college). It is not fair, it is not right and I think that parent who documented historical actions and psychological evaluations would help ensure the courts that would not allow it. But you would've had to have been the type of parent that was vested, involved, pro-active, committed, resolved and fully aware of what they were dealing with. ER's parents were divorced, father remarried, and lived in Hollywood. Maybe they gave a fairly good effort, maybe.....maybe?
I'm sure we'll hear more.
What's the solution? It's probably multi-faceted. But with any child that exhibits symptoms of a mental illness---I'd keep them away from violent video games.
moo
