My opinion is so close to what you have stated here, but I think there is only one person involved, not two. Also, even though having an affair doesn't make you less a victim, it DOES make you more prone to become a victim. How many times have we seen people doing what they shouldn't be doing and end up disappearing. Countless stories of this happening! People have to STOP with the cheating. It's disgraceful and an awful awful thing to do. And a lot of it does happen on military bases when spouses are away. I know, because I worked on the 29 Palms Marine Corps base and wives were admitting to it. It's never right and so many times, something terrible happens because of it. Many missing persons cases are because people are doing what they aren't supposed to. Just my two cents. It doesn't at all excuse the perpetrator and justice must be served! It just means that people have to start making the right choices in life for this to stop.