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I appreciate your clarification. I agree that families often second-guess themselves after something terrible happens, and it’s such a painful part of grief and trauma.<Snipped>
If you are referring to my original post, I did not imply that family was responsible in anyway. I am saying that after the fact, family often blame themselves. Second guess themselves.
I only raised the issue because, to readers (myself included), your original post might have inadvertently implied that if only someone had made a report, something could have been done, which can read as a subtle suggestion that perhaps no report was made. I know that wasn’t your intention, but I’ve seen that kind of wording unintentionally lead to finger-pointing, especially online. I'd just hate for any family member to feel like this is their fault.
The reality is, even if a report was made, as we’ve discussed, DPJ may not have acted (even to do a mental health assessment on RT) unless the mother’s symptoms were clearly interfering with her caregiving. That’s part of what makes this whole situation so heartbreaking the gaps in the system, not just individual actions or inactions.
I think we're actually on the same page, just coming at it from slightly different angles!