You know I've been pondering the ex/ex-gf today and wondering why she hasn't spoken up. And then I was thinking ... you know this has been a rather high profile case in the press in Canada, and I'd imagine she'd be around Owen's age (does anyone know?). But let's say she is around his age, and then if the press start reporting that she's involved in some way, that Owen got bashed up as he was searching for her. I guess if she was there she'd be involved and it would be some sort of cover-up. But, then I got to thinking ... what if she wasn't there, then she'd be feeling utterly terrible that Owen went searching for her, got bashed up in some way because Owen was under the impression she was there (was this real? or some sort of psychotic delusion as he'd been having?). But then I got to think about the media ... I'm a hell of a lot older than her and the media scare me. So I wonder whether she might feel totally freaked out, scared of the media, not needing the stress. The media do have a way of hounding and hounding and hounding people. It's interesting the RCMP in media releases say she's not involved - would they be likely to say that if she was? I certainly haven't heard the media make any statements that the men at 55 who bashed Owen up weren't involved in Owen's disappearance. I guess I'm brainstorming here. I wish the RCMP would say more.
What I do not understand is why the RCMP can't just subpoena the phone records and content of the sms's. Is that to do with Canadian law? I know it's easy as pie to get it done in Australia. Can anyone explain the problem to me? In Australia if someone couldn't remember sms's, and let's face it, some kids send hundreds of emails daily, so I don't know if this was the case with the ex/ex-gf or not, but I would not be in the least bit surprised, as it seems the norm these days. I think in that context it would make sense not to remember it, and also a lot of the kids around Kelowna and Canada and all those places seem to be doing a lot of partying ... drinking, drugs, etc.. so I guess how well someone remembers sms's they receive is a function of how many sms's they get, whether there was anything noteworthy or out of the ordinary in them at the time, who sends them to you as to whether you'd even be inspired to remember their content, and whether the person was drunk or sober, on drugs or not. Again, just another loose end with so many questions, but I think it's useful to try and put ourselves in other's situations. And on that note, I've been doing a LOT of thinking as a result of stepping into Owen's shoes. I'll just end with the question ... so Owen's got bruises all over his face, he's black and blue, he's got black eyes, he's not able to think as normal and still suffering the effect of drug(s) (Percocet, magic mushrooms & who knows, maybe even other stuff) and I'd imagine he's getting sms's thick and fast from not only the ex-gf/gf, but probably from his boss saying where the hell are you, why haven't you come in for your shift? and his family members and friends saying where are you? what's happened to you? da de da de da just questions, questions, questions ... so, how's he going to answer his way out of these and not reveal the truth (if the truth is not known)? How might others his know might react to any news of what Owen had been doing comes out? Owen might have thought he'd be facing possible criminal charges, jail time, drug related charges as he admitted to the hospital and or maybe the LE he had taken the magic mushrooms, and then there's the question of just how is he going to explain things to his flatmates, to his friends, to his boss and workmates, to his family, and if he did, what would the consequences of doing this have been for Owen? One of the early newspaper interviews of his family quoted his family that they could think of no possible reason why Owen would be bashed up. So it would be natural for the family to try to work out why he was bashed up wouldn't it? I'd do that if that had happened to a friend, let alone a family member. But then Owen had the added complication of the police involvement. He's in a foreign country and I wonder whether he thought things were resolved and A-Ok with the police there, or whether he might be up on charges as a result of what he did and facing possible jail time in Canada. So yeah, these are a lot of things I'd imagine a young man might be fearing, and could well be cause to just think ... oh, to hell with it, I'm outta here, I've been kicked in the head repeatedly, I don't want to face any more questions, life is too hard, I'm leaving my life behind, so he does the symbolic act of cutting all ties with his current and previous life, he leaves his backpack behind and takes nothing but his wallet and clothes on his back, he doesn't want to be Owen Rooney any more. Just a theory I've been mulling over.
I read somewhere in some newspaper article re Owen online, that Owen's staying behind in Kelowna was the first time he'd ever lived away from his family or a family member in his whole life. What were the reasons for Owen staying behind? Financial, for friends he'd met in Kelowna, or was this act Owen's taking his first venture at cutting loose and cutting away from others - did he like this freedom? did he crave this freedom? did he need this freedom? Or, again the other theory is that he was abducted, or simple wandered away in his brain injured / drug affected state (prescribed or otherwise)?
Questions, questions. Does any of this make any potential sense as a theory to anyone else? To me it does make a lot of sense. Owen was hurting. When people are hurting mostly they withdraw. If they can't withdraw emotionally to deal with their pain and hurt, they withdraw physically. I saw exactly this withdrawal process in another young man last year ... that young man ran away as he couldn't cope with the media, with the authorities and with questions, questions and more questions. That young man was boxed in a corner, a corner where he only had two choices: to answer the questions or run, he chose to run. Did Owen do the same?