Found Deceased Canada - Shannon Burgess, 25, Calgary, 26 Nov 2014 - #2 *Arrest*

[Lalalacasbah]

YES NAILED IT! I dunno guys but I feel like I'm on a roll today!


https://www.okcupid.com/profile/JustJoshingYouEh?cf=profile

Thanks for this! So JB was a 9-5er, but not the government worker I thought. Must've been another JB that worked for the Energy Board that's on the web.

And he mentioned a decent argument/debating a couple times, so he likes to debate sounds like. But who doesn't, I do too.

 

[Lalalacasbah]

Maybe it's just me, but when I hear of an open marriage I understand it's two consenting adults who agree to this however, I still have to wonder if one of the spouses sacrifices their beliefs a little to appease the other.

I always think, one person will end up hurt otherwise more people would do this. I know there's lots of folks in these relationships, but if the open marriage was more JB's instigation, I wonder how much SB really believed this worked for both of them and for how long? Something's gotta give.

This leads me to question if JB had someone on the side, who started developing deep feelings for JB, would that person have a motive to get Shannon out of the picture? Would another woman have lured Shannon out to talk (or duke it out) that night and a confrontation occurred that went awry?

 

[Lalalacasbah]

Also, JB was just on OkCupid Dec 7th, who the heck goes on a dating site when their wife might be missing? That would be the last thing on most people's mind, unless he's not that worried about where she is, this says to me he doesn't seem worried.

 

[LoisLane]

Thanks for this! So JB was a 9-5er, but not the government worker I thought. Must've been another JB that worked for the Energy Board that's on the web.

And he mentioned a decent argument/debating a couple times, so he likes to debate sounds like. But who doesn't, I do too.

I think his reference to " taking down old buildings" on Cupid is a stretch to what his job actually is which is selling off old office equipment that is no longer needed, possibly the stuff is sold off as the old buildings are shut down or starting over. That is if that LinkedIn profile is his.

 

[LoisLane]

Also, JB was just on OkCupid Dec 7th, who the heck goes on a dating site when their wife might be missing? That would be the last thing on most people's mind, unless he's not that worried about where she is, this says to me he doesn't seem worried.

I think that was LE.

 

[LoisLane]

Maybe it's just me, but when I hear of an open marriage I understand it's two consenting adults who agree to this however, I still have to wonder if one of the spouses sacrifices their beliefs a little to appease the other.

I always think, one person will end up hurt otherwise more people would do this. I know there's lots of folks in these relationships, but if the open marriage was more JB's instigation, I wonder how much SB really believed this worked for both of them and for how long? Something's gotta give.

This leads me to question if JB had someone on the side, who started developing deep feelings for JB, would that person have a motive to get Shannon out of the picture? Would another woman have lured Shannon out to talk (or duke it out) that night and a confrontation occurred that went awry?

I think this lifestyle is a slippery slope. I have seen and heard many stories of the open marriage drama and although the front is that it is consensual and easy going it never ends up that way. IMO it is unhealthy on many levels.

I think if it is connected to SB's disappearance and that she has met up with foul play that the person responsible has at one point encountered her sexually.

 

[stan laurel]

Maybe it's just me, but when I hear of an open marriage I understand it's two consenting adults who agree to this however, I still have to wonder if one of the spouses sacrifices their beliefs a little to appease the other.

I always think, one person will end up hurt otherwise more people would do this. I know there's lots of folks in these relationships, but if the open marriage was more JB's instigation, I wonder how much SB really believed this worked for both of them and for how long? Something's gotta give.

This leads me to question if JB had someone on the side, who started developing deep feelings for JB, would that person have a motive to get Shannon out of the picture? Would another woman have lured Shannon out to talk (or duke it out) that night and a confrontation occurred that went awry?

this might give some insight into how her arrangement started and if your theory might hold water as yo a former wanting to have a "chat". this is SB's very first reddit post;


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Mutual friends Bash my Boy Friend

submitted 3 years ago by Shanswer







I started Hanging out with a group of people, and things kicked off fairly well. One person in particular caught my eye (let's call him Mr. Man), but he was living with his girlfriend at the time. The person who brought me into the group (lets call him Fanboy) confessed with his girlfriend that they wanted to have a threesome with me but I turned them down.

A few months later Mr. Man broke it off with his girlfriend of 5 years, and we ended up hooking up only a few days later. Fanboy and his girlfriend gave us both hell over it because Mr. Man has a reputation amongst the group for braking things off, finding another girl for a few months, then going right back to her even though he says he wont.

It's been about a month and a half sense we started dating, and things are going very well. He treats me better than any guy I've ever bin with, and he'll tell me anything about his previous relationships that I ask. I normally wouldn't think there would be anything to be concerned about, But Fanboy and His girlfriend still give me crap; saying that I have Bad taste in men, and that we'll be sorry when the group brakes up because of us. They also say that I'm too young to know any better, and that he wouldn't be so nice to me if we weren't having sex.

We are taking things at a steady pace, and I dont see any reason to brake up with him unless he actually does something wrong, but do I have the right to tell my friends to shut the hell up?

additional info:

I'm 22, Mr. Man is 25, and Fanboy is 27.
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[stan laurel]

possible eating disorder????;

Scared to lose weight (self.loseit)

submitted 2 years ago by Shanswer







I will try to make this as short as possible:

both my parents are over weight and my father has diabieties. I do not ever want to look like they do.

18 months ago I moved, and lost 15 lbs in two weeks (from 5'4" 135 lbs to 125lbs). I made an effort to keep my weight stable from then on.

At the same time I had several major stressors and through the next 15 months I made a slow transition into a complete mental break down. I am doing much better now, but because of the life style changes I have had to make to get myself here I am not as active and have started putting the weight back on.

I liked my weight the past year. I always felt beautiful, even though I was misserable, and I want to bring myself back to it, but I am worried that it may have been a major factor towards my mental health issues.

should I try to keep my weight where I'm happy with it, or let myself put it back on in hopes of staying sain?

 

[Lalalacasbah]

I think his reference to " taking down old buildings" on Cupid is a stretch to what his job actually is which is selling off old office equipment that is no longer needed, possibly the stuff is sold off as the old buildings are shut down or starting over. That is if that LinkedIn profile is his.

Ah, you're probably right, I didn't think to make that connection! I guess if he strips down old government offices that sounds about right.

 

[Lalalacasbah]

I think that was LE.

Oh maybe then….would they be allowed? I guess if he gave permission.

 

[Lalalacasbah]

I think this lifestyle is a slippery slope. I have seen and heard many stories of the open marriage drama and although the front is that it is consensual and easy going it never ends up that way. IMO it is unhealthy on many levels.

I think if it is connected to SB's disappearance and that she has met up with foul play that the person responsible has at one point encountered her sexually.

I agree, I could see a couple dabbling for awhile but I think it's rare to have your entire marriage like this. Maybe someone become sexually possessive of her, that's definitely feasible. So many scenarios that could play out here...

 

[melbot1000]

Also, JB was just on OkCupid Dec 7th, who the heck goes on a dating site when their wife might be missing? That would be the last thing on most people's mind, unless he's not that worried about where she is, this says to me he doesn't seem worried.

This says the exact opposite to me. I think he was checking to see if she had logged in. He hasn't been on ok cupid for weeks. If he had logged in, say, two days ago then I would be concerned. I would have done the same thing.

 

[melbot1000]

I agree, I could see a couple dabbling for awhile but I think it's rare to have your entire marriage like this. Maybe someone become sexually possessive of her, that's definitely feasible. So many scenarios that could play out here...

I'm sure there are just as much committed, monogamous marriages that end in divorce, rape, and murder then alternative ones. (We have an article of clothing named after this phenomenon, 'the wife-beater'. I'm pretty sure that was before the introduction of non-monogyny). I don't think rushing to judgement over a life style that you are not familiar with is productive. I do agree with the point that she may have met her end with another potential partner though. If that is true, how do we get closer to finding out who that is?

 

[tarabull]

It appears A who is D (OOG) - whom SB last posted about on FB - very recently joined the Calgary group FB page (just Saturday), FWIW.

 

[Lalalacasbah]

possible eating disorder????;

Scared to lose weight (self.loseit)

submitted 2 years ago by Shanswer







I will try to make this as short as possible:

both my parents are over weight and my father has diabieties. I do not ever want to look like they do.

18 months ago I moved, and lost 15 lbs in two weeks (from 5'4" 135 lbs to 125lbs). I made an effort to keep my weight stable from then on.

At the same time I had several major stressors and through the next 15 months I made a slow transition into a complete mental break down. I am doing much better now, but because of the life style changes I have had to make to get myself here I am not as active and have started putting the weight back on.

I liked my weight the past year. I always felt beautiful, even though I was misserable, and I want to bring myself back to it, but I am worried that it may have been a major factor towards my mental health issues.

should I try to keep my weight where I'm happy with it, or let myself put it back on in hopes of staying sain?

Hhmm, maybe eating issues and she mentions 'factors' towards her mental health issues. I wonder if this is what her sister referred to in the presser about who's feeding her (or something like that she said).

I don't know which way this case will go, so many things that could've happened to Shannon

 

[Lalalacasbah]

This says the exact opposite to me. I think he was checking to see if she had logged in. He hasn't been on ok cupid for weeks. If he had logged in, say, two days ago then I would be concerned. I would have done the same thing.

Yeah, I could go either way really. If he's actively looking for her, he could be checking out her online stuff.

 

[Lalalacasbah]

I'm sure there are just as much committed, monogamous marriages that end in divorce, rape, and murder then alternative ones. (We have an article of clothing named after this phenomenon, 'the wife-beater'. I'm pretty sure that was before the introduction of non-monogyny). I don't think rushing to judgement over a life style that you are not familiar with is productive. I do agree with the point that she may have met her end with another potential partner though. If that is true, how do we get closer to finding out who that is?

Oh, I'm not rushing to judgement on this lifestyle at all, I've had lots of friends who've tried *everything*, live different lifestyles and I'm quite a modern, liberal girl myself - I'm basing my comments of what I've seen happen to people I know and seen personally. I just think it's very rare and these couples are a minority is all, my comment wasn't meant to be offensive but more an observation from what I've seen.

I feel this is a productive to discuss because from one of Shannon's (albeit older) Reddit posts, she sounds like a sensitive, passionate person. If she's having any mental breakdowns from stress and her weight, I see this as being someone very sensitive and emotional, and most artists are. Maybe her feelings got hurt at some point, maybe she reached a limit.

Again, this is purely hypothetical and just my opinion as I have never met her although from what I've read and seen I feel I can very much relate to her as I'm sure other posters do as well.

 

[melbot1000]

Gotcha! I see where you're coming from.

Oh, I'm not rushing to judgement on this lifestyle at all, I've had lots of friends who've tried *everything*, live different lifestyles and I'm quite a modern, liberal girl myself - I'm basing my comments of what I've seen happen to people I know and seen personally. I just think it's very rare and these couples are a minority is all, my comment wasn't meant to be offensive but more an observation from what I've seen.

I feel this is a productive to discuss because from one of Shannon's (albeit older) Reddit posts, she sounds like a sensitive, passionate person. If she's having any mental breakdowns from stress and her weight, I see this as being someone very sensitive and emotional, and most artists are. Maybe her feelings got hurt at some point, maybe she reached a limit.

Again, this is purely hypothetical and just my opinion as I have never met her although from what I've read and seen I feel I can very much relate to her as I'm sure other posters do as well.

 

[Lalalacasbah]

Gotcha! I see where you're coming from.

It gets so hard to express clearly on these forums I find! I try to choose words carefully, but sometimes things come out sounding harsh or offensive…it's so easy to misinterpret tones or rub people the wrong way on here, so I try to be careful and not get too personal about things myself (which is hard sometimes!)

 

[Lalalacasbah]

It appears A who is D (OOG) - whom SB last posted about on FB - very recently joined the Calgary group FB page (just Saturday), FWIW.

How can you tell what date he joined? I'm trying to find...

I see DV posted in the Calgary Alliance LARP (is that the right one FB group?) on Dec 17th. I thought DV was Aengus or are you talking about DL joining the group and DL being Aengus?