Casey & Family Psychological Profile #10

[OneLostGrl]

CA was controlling from day one. She told GA he had to quit what HE had chosen as his life's career. My husband use to say, "Once a cop, always a cop even if you are no longer on the job." CA took away from him the one thing he really wanted to do. Clearly she was in control at that early time in their lives and has never let go of the reins. She controls him now with his misstatements.

CA is right. If she were to admit that KC did something this terrible she'd be blaming herself because they are cut from the same cloth....CA made sure of that. To even think about bearing some of the responsiblity for the death of your beloved granddaughter must be unbearable for her to even think about. jmo

She took from him the only thing he really liked, the only thing he really *was*. It was her first step in taking away his manhood. imo.

 

[LambChop]

She took from him the only thing he really liked, the only thing he really *was*. It was her first step in taking away his manhood. imo.

That's right. Now imagine if you are a woman and you marry the man of your dreams and have always dreamed of having children, lots of soft, cute, snuggly babies and your husband says I don't want children. As a woman who would not feel fulfilled unless you had a child this would be taking away your right to be a mother. If you really loved the person, what would you do? For a man his career is very important to him. It defines who he is. If CA told her family he's a loser he was being exactly what she wanted him to be because it was her wish. The games that people play. jmo

 

[OneLostGrl]

Hey! Not Fair!!! I offered mine first!!!!!:dance:

haha yeah I noticed that. a little late though, sorry for taking your idea! Maybe she'll take 'em both off our hands?

 

[logicalgirl]

haha yeah I noticed that. a little late though, sorry for taking your idea! Maybe she'll take 'em both off our hands?

We can only hope.....:innocent:

 

[logicalgirl]

That's right. Now imagine if you are a woman and you marry the man of your dreams and have always dreamed of having children, lots of soft, cute, snuggly babies and your husband says I don't want children. As a woman who would not feel fulfilled unless you had a child this would be taking away your right to be a mother. If you really loved the person, what would you do? For a man his career is very important to him. It defines who he is. If CA told her family he's a loser he was being exactly what she wanted him to be because it was her wish. The games that people play. jmo

If you look at CA and GA, which one do you think would want to quit being a cop and find a get rich scheme? The person who plugs away at a job day after day - or the guy who gets into online schemes, women on the side who will give him money - let's face it - we all have a choice about whatever we do - to my mind GA has always had a choice, but I see him as someone who will take the path of least resistance to dependency and to my mind, that makes him a total :loser:

There is nothing about that man I can find to admire or at least respect.

 

[LambChop]

Why do men stay in a marriage that keeps them in a powerless condition? I don't get it either. Makes you wonder. But here it is right in front of us. Something to really study. I mean look at what he does for CA now. There is nothing in it for GA to lie, nothing. But he does it for her because he does not want to lose her. Crazy as it seems some people just do not want to leave this type of marriage. And you are right as he just allows this to happen to him. No excuses will do. jmo

 

[logicalgirl]

Why do men stay in a marriage that keeps them in a powerless condition? I don't get it either. Makes you wonder. But here it is right in front of us. Something to really study. I mean look at what he does for CA now. There is nothing in it for GA to lie, nothing. But he does it for her because he does not want to lose her. Crazy as it seems some people just do not want to leave this type of marriage. And you are right as he just allows this to happen to him. No excuses will do. jmo

My thoughts about GA staying in this marriage is what I learned about any one in a "victim" relationship - there is something they want or need in it for them. I learned to look at any victim with a "what's in it for them" point of view. My feeling about George is he has never been a "strong" man - which may be why the police dept attracted him in the first place - the uniform and position would give him a perceived strength he didn't have. He may very well have been a bottom feeder on the force and evident he wasn't going to go anywhere, or he may have been on warning to get it together and quit screwing up. I don't know anything about his parents except one of them sailed through a plate glass window, but I'm thinking they are probably strong personalities. George strikes me as a dependent person and lots of people marry what they know instead of what they need. How many guys do you know who married their "mother"?

 

[OneLostGrl]

Can I have her on a trial basis? Wait, she'd probably have to be my daughter!

Then she'd be a very different person...

 

[OneLostGrl]

My thoughts about GA staying in this marriage is what I learned about any one in a "victim" relationship - there is something they want or need in it for them. I learned to look at any victim with a "what's in it for them" point of view. My feeling about George is he has never been a "strong" man - which may be why the police dept attracted him in the first place - the uniform and position would give him a perceived strength he didn't have. He may very well have been a bottom feeder on the force and evident he wasn't going to go anywhere, or he may have been on warning to get it together and quit screwing up. I don't know anything about his parents except one of them sailed through a plate glass window, but I'm thinking they are probably strong personalities. George strikes me as a dependent person and lots of people marry what they know instead of what they need. How many guys do you know who married their "mother"?

I am 1,000% with you on this. He needs a mommy. He could not survive without her.

ETA- I suspect George was a "Lee" to his mother.

 

[OneLostGrl]

If you look at CA and GA, which one do you think would want to quit being a cop and find a get rich scheme? The person who plugs away at a job day after day - or the guy who gets into online schemes, women on the side who will give him money - let's face it - we all have a choice about whatever we do - to my mind GA has always had a choice, but I see him as someone who will take the path of least resistance to dependency and to my mind, that makes him a total :loser:

There is nothing about that man I can find to admire or at least respect.

He's a man child. *Where's that vomit smilie?* oh, there it is- :sick::sick::loser::sick:

 

[OneLostGrl]

That's right. Now imagine if you are a woman and you marry the man of your dreams and have always dreamed of having children, lots of soft, cute, snuggly babies and your husband says I don't want children. As a woman who would not feel fulfilled unless you had a child this would be taking away your right to be a mother. If you really loved the person, what would you do? For a man his career is very important to him. It defines who he is. If CA told her family he's a loser he was being exactly what she wanted him to be because it was her wish. The games that people play. jmo

Yep, she made him what he is now she b!tches aobut who he is. :waitasec:

 

[OneLostGrl]

I should probably start using that multi quote thingy. huh?

sorry

 

[logicalgirl]

Yep, she made him what he is now she b!tches aobut who he is. :waitasec:

Yes, it seems to be their "thing" and I have friends like that - boy do I hate when they "start" about their woes.

One thing I've learned is you don't keep your friends if you meet every complaint with choose differently. You know the ones - they stay married because - just name the litany - but as people I adore them and at least they don't point out my stuff to me.

That phrase "what's in it for.." is actually one I use on myself often although I hate to admit it. :blushing: I catch myself feeling overworked, or lonely despite I know choices I've made that work for me - I say - hey - so what are you getting out of this sad sack attitude. Maybe not having to make your best effort - hmmm?

I'm my own worst critic! No, wait a minute - that sister of mine I've been trying to give away a few posts back is definitely better at it than I am. LOL

 

[LambChop]

I was very fortunate to have a husband who spoke highly of me to others, never called me names during an argument and respected my opinions even though he may have not agreed with them and I miss him. But he had a strong sense of who he was and was confident that he was the best that he could be so to see the A's marriage and the way they interact saddens me. CA, in my opinion, is hopeless but GA could have done better in another relationship. In the mitigation process I think CA will take a big hit on her ego. jmo

 

[LCoastMom]

I was very fortunate to have a husband who spoke highly of me to others, never called me names during an argument and respected my opinions even though he may have not agreed with them and I miss him. But he had a strong sense of who he was and was confident that he was the best that he could be so to see the A's marriage and the way they interact saddens me. CA, in my opinion, is hopeless but GA could have done better in another relationship. In the mitigation process I think CA will take a big hit on her ego. jmo

BBM - CA only hears what she wants to hear and only believes what she wants to believe. IMO The rest of the world is wrong in CA's eyes - that includes GA when he disagrees with her.

CA thinks so highly of herself, she will not entertain thoughts that she might be wrong. How else has she managed to show her face in the media, after being heard and seen repeatedly lying under oath, purposely trying to mislead LE and continue to proclaim ICA's innocence (even state she believes Caylee is alive!).

She will not listen to anything negative and she will state "Is that what you heard? Because that's NOT WHAT I HEARD!"

Crazy is as crazy does.

 

[LCoastMom]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ajibgshx94
"You cannot overlook the Karmic aspect to this, here they were out on some big media tour, and a meter reader finds the body. Somebody needs to take a look at what is really going on here", Mark Nejame said.
"I would be beating my client up from morning until night to be truthful", Mr. Nejame responded to the question of if you were Jose Baez right now what would you be doing.

He seemed to have the family profile figured out and then some.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ndga-NzEIs
Can you imagine, they got the news before the boarded the plane to return after this Larry King interview, that the remains were found. Would anything in the world have stopped you from rushing to the scene to find out any little detail you could? Could you imagine going to a luxury hotel, on a media outlet's dime instead for a nice dinner, while it is neighbors and strangers out in the rain, crying in shock, trying to get information on this major development?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EbNCHyDa83Y
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uG-bUi5QFl4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Go564cjeat8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LgC0jodXXbs
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N0zrHUJDevY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eS6jlWogQR0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D0pN0pALg5E
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CU1SAl5V-TU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T9Myif1EmSA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJ6u9-pai-Y
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xRO6V0-BvFg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LaYl6mhOZTk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUG0i2VMSUk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fDH3kk1qjw0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g3O6IQMO4pk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWfvYaSB1i0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UsvTZHTwAOA

While I can see not going to the site - I sure as heck would not be out in public having dinner at one of Orlando's finest. They were so intent on pretending this was just another day - if ANYONE still had a sympathetic bone in their body for the A's - surely this was the last straw.

I had never listened to the whole M Nejame phone interview before. How would he counsel JB? He would tell him this is something very karmic and he should tell his client it's time to be completely honest because at the end of the day he's going home, but they might not be - here CA & GA (not to mention JB) were on a media blitz and that is the day that Caylee is found. This is very karmic. Sorry for paraphrasing - but he brought up JB and karma twice in just a couple of minutes. Too bad JB decided not to take his advice.

These depos with CA are chilling - I wonder how she sees herself, she has just spent a lot of time remaking Cindy and instead of coming across slightly sympathetic or trying to be helpful - she is more harsh than she was to begin with in (Hammer - Time at her best/worst). How can she think she is helping ICA -

 

[ZsaZsa]

I was very fortunate to have a husband who spoke highly of me to others, never called me names during an argument and respected my opinions even though he may have not agreed with them and I miss him. But he had a strong sense of who he was and was confident that he was the best that he could be so to see the A's marriage and the way they interact saddens me. CA, in my opinion, is hopeless but GA could have done better in another relationship. In the mitigation process I think CA will take a big hit on her ego. jmo

I occasionally feel sympathy for him, I can't imagine having to live with CA - he gave up years ago and took the path of least resistance. A love/hate relationship probably- she forced him out of his chosen job, and by the time he decided to quit the marriage it was too late to go back into LE- and he was financially dependent on her by then. He is the one that is trapped, not CA.

 

[OneLostGrl]

While I can see not going to the site - I sure as heck would not be out in public having dinner at one of Orlando's finest. They were so intent on pretending this was just another day - if ANYONE still had a sympathetic bone in their body for the A's - surely this was the last straw.

I had never listened to the whole M Nejame phone interview before. How would he counsel JB? He would tell him this is something very karmic and he should tell his client it's time to be completely honest because at the end of the day he's going home, but they might not be - here CA & GA (not to mention JB) were on a media blitz and that is the day that Caylee is found. This is very karmic. Sorry for paraphrasing - but he brought up JB and karma twice in just a couple of minutes. Too bad JB decided not to take his advice.

These depos with CA are chilling - I wonder how she sees herself, she has just spent a lot of time remaking Cindy and instead of coming across slightly sympathetic or trying to be helpful - she is more harsh than she was to begin with in (Hammer - Time at her best/worst). How can she think she is helping ICA -

Her behavior can't help but make ya wonder if helping Casey is even her intent. Or could this be payback Cindy style?:waitasec:

 

[LCoastMom]

Her behavior can't help but make ya wonder if helping Casey is even her intent. Or could this be payback Cindy style?:waitasec:

LOL This is the last line that I wrote and erased... I see the same thing, I added subconsciously maybe - but I see Cindy's behavior as being so deliberate, in every other aspect that I decided to back up.

Thank you OLG, for finishing my thought.

 

[RR0004]

LOL This is the last line that I wrote and erased... I see the same thing, I added subconsciously maybe - but I see Cindy's behavior as being so deliberate, in every other aspect that I decided to back up.

Thank you OLG, for finishing my thought.

Maybe there's more than one spiteful b$tch in the family.
Now that wouldn't surprise me at all!