CO- Dylan Redwine, 13, Vallecito, 19 November 2012 - #31

[TxJan1971]

Attached below is a Dylan Redwine Timeline for Sunday, 11/18/2012 which was just approved for distribution. I will be happy to update/edit as necessary.

Per Salem's request, I will also provide a copy of this in the media/timeline section of Dylan's thread.

 

[Psychic Sleuth]

Yes , negligent homicide and probably a slew of others. I wondered about this
a while back. Could MR have been giving DR liquor, trying to be the cool guy, etc and something happened?

Something like this crossed my mind a while back and then when Dylan's friends said Mark and Dylan were more like buddies than father/son the thought came back.

My brother is like that with his son and it drives me nuts! He wanted to be the one his son drank with first etc etc. Very stupid in my opinion. I always tell him his son doesn't need a friend, he has lots of those. He needs a father.

 

[NC Analyzer]

Attached below is a Dylan Redwine Timeline for Sunday, 11/18/2012 which was just approved for distribution. I will be happy to update/edit as necessary.

Per Salem's request, I will also provide a copy of this in the media/timeline section of Dylan's thread.

Awesome work, TxJan1971!! Thank you!

:yourock:​

 

[TxJan1971]

FYI - I also posted Monday's in the Media/Timeline Section for Dylan, so both days are there.

 

[Salem]

Attached below is a Dylan Redwine Timeline for Sunday, 11/18/2012 which was just approved for distribution. I will be happy to update/edit as necessary.

Per Salem's request, I will also provide a copy of this in the media/timeline section of Dylan's thread.

:great::great: :yourock: :great::great:

 

[rebeccaeee]

Poll:

Is he still with us ?
Will he ever be found ?

Aw Schmae, I don't want to answer this one. :cry:

No
Yes

But it doesn't stop my magical thinking and hoping and believing two parallel thoughts about him. I've been a good supporter of FMDR and their efforts and hope. But my gut has always felt differently. If this were a game of Clue, I've got my envelope all filled with answers. C'mon Dylan- prove me wrong and come home. :woohoo:

 

[TxJan1971]

FYI:
I just updated the TITLE of both attachments to DYLAN REDWINE TIMELINE to more accurately reflect the content.

Any suggestions for additions/deletions/edits, please let me know and I'll update the version in the Media/Timeline.

 

[Tennlyn]

OT but who are we Texas fans rooting for? Or do we care? lol

I'm not a Texas fan, nor a football fan, but would like to answer anyway...

I'M ROOTING FOR DYLAN!!!!! COME HOME!!!!!

Almost time to blow out the candle on my birthday cake. Hope I get my wish!

 

[SCHMAE]

Happy Birthday Tennlyn, I wish that your wish comes true !

 

[Tennlyn]

Happy Birthday Tennlyn, I wish that your wish comes true !

Believe me, we ALL hope my wish comes true!!! lease:

 

[Angelonline]

:bdscroll:

Happy early birthday Tennlyn. All of us would grant your wish if we could.

 

[katydid23]

I'm not a Texas fan, nor a football fan, but would like to answer anyway...

I'M ROOTING FOR DYLAN!!!!! COME HOME!!!!!

Almost time to blow out the candle on my birthday cake. Hope I get my wish!

:birthday::cheer::thewave:

 

[catswhiskers]

Something like this crossed my mind a while back and then when Dylan's friends said Mark and Dylan were more like buddies than father/son the thought came back.

My brother is like that with his son and it drives me nuts! He wanted to be the one his son drank with first etc etc. Very stupid in my opinion. I always tell him his son doesn't need a friend, he has lots of those. He needs a father.

My ex and I separated when my boys were 4 and 6 years old - and he treated them differently almost straight away. It was almost like he didn't know how to be a father any more once we were apart - he didn't do anything bad, but he kind of lost the cautiousness and watchfulness you'd expect of a parent.

He made strange and mildly inappropriate choices about things like the language he used in front of them, movies he allowed them to see (to scary and not intended for their age group at all). I still feel like he bickers with them like another kid would. For this reason I have always encouraged him to visit the boys here at my place. We get on ok, and it's a pain having him lazing on my sofa watching movies every Saturday (and yes this is his choice of quality time with the boys, and they don't seem to mind at all) - but at least I have some peace of mind about their interactions.

It's not so much of a worry now, but when they were small I dreaded him wanting to take them to stay at his place with whoever he was sharing a house with at the time.

Sorry for veering O/T there a bit - but back to Dylan, IMO there is no reason to think that his dad would be offering him alcohol. I'm still viewing him as a dad who wanted to just hang out with the son he hadn't seen in over a month .

 

[cluciano63]

Other than simply hoping for the best, I do not believe Dylan is alive. I see no real reason to believe someone is "hiding" him, other than hope. As to being found, who knows? If so, just by chance one day, I imagine.

 

[Annie1004]

While I do not necessarily believe MR covered up a natural death or accident, I also do not believe there is any way to tell if he is the type of person who would do so. What would that type of person be like?

I mean, he apparently had anger or menacing in his background, at least to the degree he was once charged. I don't know anyone who has ever been accused of "menacing" so I don't know what such a person is like. JMO

ETA Also this is a man with, we have been told, no relationship with all or most of his other children, not really "normal" in my book.

And we have Dylan's friends saying Mark and Dylan had a good relationship "like friends."

I don't know enough about Mark and Dylan to draw any kind of opinion.

 

[FruitTingles]

Poll:

Is he still with us ?
Will he ever be found ?

Breaks my heart to say this : No.
Yes. But not anytime soon.

 

[Lordeebee]

Upthread Schmae gave what imo was an amazing breakdown of the various statements made by MR in reference to what transpired in the morning before he left to run errands (sorry, Schmae can't locate at the moment). But it got me thinking about what MR had said about why Dylan didn't get up that morning. I transcribed from the uncut video his remarks on this:

"..I laughed at him kinda jokingly because I know him - if he aint gotta get up, he's not likely to get up and he's not the kinda kid that's gonna get up at 6:30 if he doesn't have to."
..."It doesn't surprise me that he elected not to get up when I left, and when I left then he acknowledged that everything that I was saying to him and that I would be back..he knows that when I came back I would be working on getting him down to his friends, and that's part of the struggle that we all have is ya know, what happened to him between the time I left and the time when I got back and that's what nobody seems to be able to answer."

And the remarkable CONTRAST to what ER said about Dylan's morning habits from the Nancy Grace transcript:

REDWINE: No, and I appreciate that. You know, Dylan was always good. He always had to wake up for school early. So irrespective of what time he went to bed, you know, he was really good about waking up. So if he had plans at 6:30 to meet with his friends, you know, it`s uncharacteristic of him not to be up and ready. So, you know, I just -- I know him. And I know him very well. And I think that, you know, he definitely would have been up and ready at 6:30, 7:30, whenever in the morning.

 

[Confusion]

Something like this crossed my mind a while back and then when Dylan's friends said Mark and Dylan were more like buddies than father/son the thought came back.

My brother is like that with his son and it drives me nuts! He wanted to be the one his son drank with first etc etc. Very stupid in my opinion. I always tell him his son doesn't need a friend, he has lots of those. He needs a father.

I don't think you have to be an irresponsible parent in order to be "buddies" with them. I think I may have mentioned this before, but we old people are entitled to repeat ourselves now and then!

When my son was around Dylan's age, I read something from a horoscope article that said that an Aries parent and a Leo child were the best combination because they aren't just parent-child, but they're also friends. I expected him to laugh and make some comment about not needing friends like me. Instead, he just said, "That's true." I asked him how he could say that when I was always nagging him about something, and he said, "That's you're job, but when you aren't working, we're pretty good friends."

He says he thinks it's funny that I taught him how to hold a baseball bat rather than his father, and most other things sports related. We took both guitar and Karate lessons together (we went to them together, we didn't take both at the same time!) He has also always known that he could talk to me about anything at all, and I'd listen without being judgmental. He talked himself out of trying drugs when he was 13, told me when he got drunk the first time (at a birthday party for his friend's father) when he was 18, and several other things he probably wouldn't want me posting on here.

I don't think that MR was a bad parent just because he was a bit of a "buddy" to Dylan. I think it's almost necessary if you're living in a rather isolated place, and will sometimes be spending days alone together. MOO

 

[Annie1004]

Generally, "weekend dads" tend to be more lenient than intact family fathers.

 

[TxJan1971]

For any of you more experienced folks, there's a young gal looking for help finding her younger sister who has been missing since 1999. LE wouldn't file a report back then. She was only 20-21 at the time. The sister is in the thread now looking for help. They just listed her missing in late 2012. Thread is Sherry Leighty if anyone can provide some guidance to her.