Emma Ems
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I personally have no problem with this position and often I see folks who play Devil's advocate and see how it serves a purpose. I also respect the position some people have of never accusing a family member or never making an accusation without a certain threshhold of evidence. But I will still vigorously argue my own position. That's what we do. It might feel hostile sometimes when there are so many in agreement, but I don't think it's meant to be personal. I think when there are times that it veers into disrespect for Er and CR, or when there's a dismissive attitude about domestic violence (in general--not saying you personally or anything) that's when I am offended. I hope to express to anyone that simply arguing about MR's guilt is appropriate and reasonable. But I will argue back my own point of view!
But I also kind of wonder about this idea of the necessity of looking at the whole picture--if what you mean by the "whole picture" is every possibility. To me I could see this really becoming a huge waste of time, KWIM? I absolutely hate it when I hear about LE tracking down leads from psychics, for instance. And when there is a lot of information pointing in one direction, I think it makes sense to put resources there, while at the same time keeping an open mind to other possibilities. I really do believe that MR is responsible. But I would not be surprised at all if it was a stranger abduction, either. It's just that there are no leads whatsover that we know of indicating anything about the latter. So going on what I know now, if I was LE, I'd have MR under surveillance, I'd be researching his online fetish connections, and talking to people all up and own his trucking routes. It just makes sense to me.JMO
I will tell you what I told someone earlier privately it would neither surprise me if Mark did do something nor would it surprise me if it was someone else entirely.
When I say a whole picture. Let's say there was an accident, car wreck, two cars involved. They spoke to one driver but not the other? How can the make an accurate assessment of what happened when writing up there report? It's not a complete report because you only have the one side. The first driver could have lied about what happened, or their view of what happened because it was such a panicked moment was different than what it actually was. That's why they should speak with both drivers. Somewhere between the two stories is the truth. Of course that's in a case where there aren't witnesses.
It's just this, there are two sides to a story and sometimes even then you won't have a completely clear picture if the two parties recall them differently.
I mentioned earlier about parental alienation and other stuff. I have known both women and men to do it, so it just isn't limited to either of the sexes. I try to consider many factors and variables before I arrive to any conclusion. The biggest factor of all that I consider is that being on the outside looking in another family's affairs, we don't exactly have the clearest of views, especially not into their own private thoughts, feelings, or even their past actions. We just have what is presented to us, but what about what hasn't been presented?