Those of us who have lost kids could turn you upside down with the things people say. Some personally said to me:
- Think of the money you'll save on college now.
- At least he was young so you didn't have time to get attached!
- Why are you still sad? It's been almost a month.
- I know EXACTLY how you feel. When my girlfriend lost her guinea pig, she was a mess.
- Oh, I'm sorry. Did you just not get him help when he needed it or something?
- Well, at least you still have your other son. (Yeah, thank goodness I had that backup child!)
- Can't you just, like, have another kid or something? (Yes, because they are interchangeable like that.)
The truth is, there is never any real closure. The stages of grief are nonlinear and they never end. Acceptance may last for years and years and then you can wind right back up in anger again. The trial won't offer closure on the tragedy, but it WILL provide closure on the trial that was hanging over their heads. That's worth a lot.