I go back and forth between feeling sad that she didn't have more external support and seeing her as ignorant and blameless, to thinking she had a responsibility to get him help and encouraging his violent interests was reckless of her. Even though action on her part would probably have caused a bigger rift between her and Adam, she should have that aside.
Some interesting posts. I notice people saying she could have gotten help for him but is it always that simple?
Not sure how you have it in America, but here in Australia it can sometimes be very difficult to get help for an adult person aged 18 years and older even with a diagnosed mental illness if that person doesn't want help. Exception being, unless they either commit a crime or are seen as being an acute danger to themselves (suicidal) or a danger to others (they would virtually need to have a gun pointed at someone's head).
Many people with mental illness become good at 'hiding' their illness, their motives and ideas and ways when in public or talking to strangers, though they may 'let loose' at home. You try proving to a Mental Health worker or to the Police that the said person is a danger when that person hasn't actually done anything (yet) or who when presented, appears basically 'normal' in spite of looking somewhat 'odd'.
An example here from a few years ago: One of my sisters has a friend whose daughter had a mental illness, bi polar, but as she got older it manifested out at times where she became so daring that she would go on cliff edges and roof tops ready to jump. While she lived at home the family was always able to 'save' her in that they knew what her symptoms were
before she got that way and took action as in making sure she took her medication. Obviously, the daughter complied.
But the daughter got older and when in her mid to late twenties, went away on holidays to another State where she stopped taking her medication and in a phone call back home her family could tell she was tithering on the brink. They rang the police in that State and told them that she was ready to jump off some roof. The police said there is nothing they can do until they literally see her ready to do that or if she commits a crime or it it seen that endangers herself or others. They were frantically ringing everyone they could think of and the same old story.... she is an adult, over 18 and she has committed no actual crime.
Lo and behold, that very same night sure enough, she dived off a rooftop and died... That family was devastated when they 'knew' this could have been prevented but the help simply wasn't there...