Silver Alert CT- Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 #10 *ARRESTS*

[hivee]

Do lawyers often use abusive tactics themselves in defending abusers?
-Causing confusion
-Making his client the victim. He’s “distraught” “emotional” etc.
-Gaslighting us to think the woman is the crazy one
-Victim blaming
-Minimizing, denying, blaming
-Etc.

How awful for the mother to hear those things said about her daughter at such a time.

 

[MemPat]

He was one of many of super motivated alpha types, charming, with a foreign accent and supposedly with a high likelihood to succeed and achieve. But the overall profile of crazy fetish for water skiing, insistence on the high end building trade after working in a company, shows a real entitlement, special and narcissistic attitude. Some say that the NY area is the land of smiling assassins, there are certainly a fair number that worship money and fame with weak consciences.

After reading your comment I pictured FD on one knee with his arms outstretched singing, "If I can make it here, I'll make it anywhere...."

 

[MsBetsy]

Kids at that age already have minds of their own and they can sense sooo much. I’ve no doubt that they were well aware of how their father treated their mother and likely have pretty strong feelings about it as well. Regardless of how much they purportedly ‘adored’ him.

True, but when they get closer to adolescence they begin to form their own identities. My post was in response to whether or not he would have eventually been given custody. I was just speculating that his abuse of them would have increased as they got older.
I'm sure they were aware of a lot that was going on, but my point was when the younger kids got older he would have a much harder time controlling them. The closer they get to the teenage years the more likely they are to stand up for themselves, and he would not have liked that, therefore the abuse may have become much worse.
Before kids get to be about 10 years old, they still fear their parents and view them as God-like.

The teenage years are completely different, and I'm guessing he would not have tolerated any opposition from them, from the way it sounds. Imo

 

[MemPat]

Silicon Valley Yoga teacher here, first post: ...wondering how sophisticated the surveillance cameras are along the garbage dump trail in regard to biometrics, if the LE is using apps or applying such apps on existing photos and videos for positive match identification. One would think matches could be made even in blurry-ish circumstances. (Apologies if this was previously mentioned)

If sophisticated enough then I would say: two geese, cooked.

If you google this town you'll find that they have a super sophisticated camera system with a headquarters building containing 30 screens. They can even look at certain locations in real time and have observed crimes in progress.

Yes, geese for dinner!

 

[MemPat]

Do lawyers often use abusive tactics themselves in defending abusers?
-Causing confusion
-Making his client the victim. He’s “distraught” “emotional” etc.
-Gaslighting us to think the woman is the crazy one
-Victim blaming
-Minimizing, denying, blaming
-Etc.

How awful for the mother to hear those things said about her daughter at such a time.

After watching Jose Baez during the Casey Anthony case, we can never doubt the use of this tactic!
Also look what was done to Nicole Simpson's reputation.

 

[MemPat]

I think FD and his first wife were coworkers. Is it known when the marriage broke down? He might have dated other women before picking JD. I was surprised at the civility of his fist divorce. His ego must not have been hurt - it was him who initiated the divorce.
According to JD, she and FD had a special bond in college. She trusted him when they reconnected.

Somewhere that first wife is thanking her lucky stars that she got out while the gettin' was good!

I don't doubt that he sought that divorce once he caught wind of Jennifer's trust fund which probably brought increased monthly income with each birth. The fact that the children came in multiples had to thrill him.

 

[Canchance]

True, but when they get closer to adolescence they begin to form their own identities. My post was in response to whether or not he would have eventually been given custody. I was just speculating that his abuse of them would have increased as they got older.
I'm sure they were aware of a lot that was going on, but my point was when the younger kids got older he would have a much harder time controlling them. The closer they get to the teenage years the more likely they are to stand up for themselves, and he would not have liked that, therefore the abuse may have become much worse.
Before kids get to be about 10 years old, they still fear their parents and view them as God-like.

The teenage years are completely different, and I'm guessing he would not have tolerated any opposition from them, from the way it sounds. Imo

ITA. And without their mom to run interference from his abuse, who knows what would/will happen.

 

[spaz1959]

Boy I'd love to listen in on a conversation first wife has with her girlfriends, regarding this story.

 

[citygirl]

I've certainly never heard of this special kind of stupid and I picture the cops who found the bags still inside some of the cans dancing a jig when they found them.

Yep. Oh what a feeling dancing on the ceiling. MOO.
Just watching the presser today? Looked like some of them could barely contain themselves. They are all in for Jennifer.

 

[spaz1959]

I'm just hoping that the LE will be visiting FD in the early morning hours, to arrest him on murder of JD!

 

[enelram]

Boy I'd love to listen in on a conversation first wife has with her girlfriends, regarding this story.

Thankfully she saw FD's Red Flags early enough to 'allow' boss man to control the scenario and file for divorce. She learned real fast how to play her cards and slide gracefully out of the marriage
to this psycho monster. She was smart.

 

[clearskies1]

True, but when they get closer to adolescence they begin to form their own identities. My post was in response to whether or not he would have eventually been given custody. I was just speculating that his abuse of them would have increased as they got older.
I'm sure they were aware of a lot that was going on, but my point was when the younger kids got older he would have a much harder time controlling them. The closer they get to the teenage years the more likely they are to stand up for themselves, and he would not have liked that, therefore the abuse may have become much worse.
Before kids get to be about 10 years old, they still fear their parents and view them as God-like.

The teenage years are completely different, and I'm guessing he would not have tolerated any opposition from them, from the way it sounds. Imo

Also, the children seem to be at or close to the age where they would likely have a say in who they lived with. That probably did not bode well for FD. IMHO.

 

[Chloe_ee]

If you took Jennifer's money out of the equation there would probably have been no children and no marriage knowing this creep. MOO

Oh .. indeed .. there wouldn’t have been.

How was this guy going to live in mansions, send 5 children to private school at 40 grand a kid per year, have nannies and housekeepers, and water skiing lessons for the 5 kids, Porsche’s, Rover’s, new Suburbans, go to Greece whenever he felt like it all without having a actual income aka “real job” ???

His father-in-law sponsored contractor job was a hobby - so he looked productive to his benefactor.

When you spend your time doing something that earns you zero dollars in income - it’s called a hobby not a job..

The guy is a grifter, a con man, a neer do well. His first wife the attorney probably didn’t make “enough” to provide him the lifestyle Jennifer’s father could, so they split up. Good thing for her ..

 

[Kapua]

How in the world are they able to spot anything in that? I can’t comprehend how truly awful work this is and I admire them all so much - I still believe something significant led them to search this intensely - thanks all for posting today’s news I’ve updated the media thread

I am guessing that LE uses facial recognition software. MOO

 

[indicolite22]

Also, the children seem to be at or close to the age where they would likely have a say in who they lived with. That probably did not bode well for FD. IMHO.

In Connecticut, there is no fixed age at which point a court must consider a child’s preference. Still, courts will generally consider the opinion of children aged 13 or older and disregard the opinions of children who are five or younger. When children are between the ages of five and 13, however, the court decides whether the child’s preferences are relevant to the custody decision on a case-by-case basis.

Can Children Express Preference in Connecticut Custody Proceedings?

I believe JD's oldest twins are 13 now.

 

[MemPat]

Also, the children seem to be at or close to the age where they would likely have a say in who they lived with. That probably did not bode well for FD. IMHO.

It's not uncommon for women to put up with substandard men as they await the age their children will be able to opt out of visitation. I'm closely associated with one now and it is not an easy life but a mother does what she must. Jennifer held out until the idiot wanted to move his girlfriend in with her and her children.

 

[MemPat]

Oh .. indeed .. there wouldn’t have been.

How was this guy going to live in mansions, send 5 children to private school at 40 grand a kid per year, have nannies and housekeepers, and water skiing lessons for the 5 kids, Porsche’s, Rover’s, new Suburbans, go to Greece whenever he felt like it all without having a actual income aka “real job” ???

His father-in-law sponsored contractor job was a hobby - so he looked productive to his benefactor.

When you spend your time doing something that earns you zero dollars in income - it’s called a hobby not a job..

The guy is a grifter, a con man, a neer do well. His first wife the attorney probably didn’t make “enough” to provide him the lifestyle Jennifer’s father could, so they split up. Good thing for her ..

Yes, Chloe! Truth-packed-paragraphs, girl ! Now FD is trying to look productive for the press as he sweeps the doorway.....Such a workaholic!

 

[indicolite22]

Oh .. indeed .. there wouldn’t have been.

How was this guy going to live in mansions, send 5 children to private school at 40 grand a kid per year, have nannies and housekeepers, and water skiing lessons for the 5 kids, Porsche’s, Rover’s, new Suburbans, go to Greece whenever he felt like it all without having a actual income aka “real job” ???

His father-in-law sponsored contractor job was a hobby - so he looked productive to his benefactor.

When you spend your time doing something that earns you zero dollars in income - it’s called a hobby not a job..

The guy is a grifter, a con man, a neer do well. His first wife the attorney probably didn’t make “enough” to provide him the lifestyle Jennifer’s father could, so they split up. Good thing for her ..

Being a builder/developer IS a real job. Taking out loans is not out of the ordinary in that business. Not everyone who lives in luxury was born in luxury. Some people got there with hard work.

 

[indicolite22]

It's not uncommon for women to put up with substandard men as they await the age their children will be able to opt out of visitation. I'm closely associated with one now and it is not an easy life but a mother does what she must. Jennifer held out until the idiot wanted to move his girlfriend in with her and her children.

I think she held out until she learned that he was cheating on her.

 

[isabella88]

Been away a while ... Drove through much of CT today, visiting my hometown and a few other areas I lived in as an adult. We drove thru Farmington and our route happened to take us by the Farmington addresses at Jeff Crossing, Mt. Spring and Olcott. Standard CT mansions if that's what floats your boat ...
But what continues to strike me more and more after my travels is the question of why FD would dispose of evidence in Hartford, where cameras are literally everywhere (see Crime-busting Technology -- Security Today ) and as I recall he had his phone next to him tracking his every move.

He'd be much better off disposing of evidence much closer to his own own in Farmington, where swamp land/wetlands, even just off major highways like 8, are abundant ( Shade Swamp Sanctuary, "The Abandoned Zoo," Farmington ).

Or even the swamp land near New Canaan, where JD mostly recently lived. IMO, FD, as a developer, KNOWS the lay of the land, particularly where the land is not inhabitable and where a body may quickly decompose whether or not it is in one piece (see Inland Wetlands To Prospective New Canaan Homeowners: ‘Buyer Beware’ ).

Which IMO (all of this), leads to three main possibilities if we are to assume JD is dead (which I think is a safe bet):
1. This was an angry, spur-of-the-moment attack on JD by FD---leading FD & MT to desperately and foolishly dispose of evidence of JD's body in Hartford, where IMO, they know they could blame it on a random act by a person of color.
2. FD planned JD's demise and something went very wrong--which could still lead to the above.
3. Or, #1 or #2 occurred and FD disposed of JD's remains somewhere in these wetland/swamp land areas. In this case, FD & MT still disposed of evidence in Hartford, but ONLY to try and throw off investigators.

Obviously, this is ALL MY OPINON and conjecture. I cannot get my mind off off that wetland off of the highway ...