@Nowsouthofmasondixonline, I'm glad you have read the entire sad and tragic FC file. I've only made it about 75% through and don't have the bits that are sealed.
I agree with you that JF motions in FC were focused on her top priority which were the children and I totally respected that about her and the way she conducted herself in court. I didn't know her so you have a benefit and privilege that I don't have in knowing JF. The way you describe the transition of the 5 children to a new school and how it was gracefully orchestrated by JF fits with the image that I have of her which is of someone with a laser focus on the emotional well being of her children. Your account of the JF participation in the school as an active parent is also quite clear in the FC file. FD was per the FC file an absent parent and not involved with the social or activities of the school at all which given that he ran a business out of his house always struck me as 'odd' and quite distant and perhaps uncaring as well. IDK.
The substance of the email you refer to about FD requesting/demanding that MT daughter attend the same school as the 5 Dulos children was in the FC file. But what I never understood was why the school didn't take a stand on the matter and simply say 'no' to FD and MT? It just seemed to me to be a strange circumstance for someone not really part of the school community, FD, to ask for admission of a child on behalf of MT. I won't even get into the issue of child qualifications etc. as I don't want to tread on TOS issues.
But it seems like the school didn't have to do the admission for MT daughter. But yet they did? It was never clear to me whether money passed hands from FD to the school (or even from MT or baby daddy) to facilitate entrance to the school. IMO it never seemed like an 'above board' admission and I didn't get why the Headmaster simply didn't say 'no'? Do you know why?
If the school had a relationship with JF and no relationship with FD then why did the school accommodate a request from FD to admit MT daughter? Do you know if FD paid the tuition of MT daughter or did MT pay it? IMO the entire situation with the MT daughter admission seems quite fishy and I wonder if you have any information to clarify the situation. From the FC records it appears JF paid the tuition of the 5 children with zero assistance from FD (later FC records indicate that GF assisted with tuition after the move to NC). It would be important I think to see if FD did pay for MT daughter tuition when he didn't do so for his own 5 biological students.
This time period had to be incredibly painful and difficult for JF to manage and it seemed to partially play out in public which made it so much more painful IMO. The FD insensitivity to JF relationships in the school community and with the school administration also seemed to be of epic proportions. I also very much wonder why in the world with all the schools in the area that MT would want her daughter to be part of a community that was by all accounts so close to JF? Why would FD want this to happen too? The area has any number of good schools so why was this school so important? Was FD and MT trying to prove something? But I also wonder why they (FD and MT) would subject an innocent child to the overall situation? I really do wonder why the administration just didn't say no, if only to protect MT daughter from the inevitable gossip and petty nonsense. Any help to understand all this would be appreciated as I've been trying to understand this situation for quite a long time and simply hit a block!
MOO