Silver Alert CT - Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 *ARRESTS* #32

[afitzy]

Six month anniversary of JF going missing is today.

Thanksgiving, a time in the US for family and friends for most folks here and also a time for reflection on our many blessings, is right around the corner for most of us here and a fitting time to remember JF and her family and friends.

Thoughts and healing prayers during this time of Thanksgiving to the 5 children of JF, the Farber Family and Family Spokesperson, Carrie Luft.

Heartfelt and sobering statement from Carrie Luft released today (article link below + Middletown Press article posted previously).

“We are in a feeling of suspended animation,” Luft said of the disappearance.

Most people have a narrative about an event that has caused tremendous pain, Luft said.

“But in this case, we have no narrative,” she said. “If you don’t have a narrative, you don’t have a story to tell people. That’s how usually people begin working through their grief. They have a story.”

“Not only are the children with their grandmother, they are surrounded by a constellation of people who are steady and loving, providing emotional support and stability and a constant presence in their lives to give them the best chance of coming through this OK,” Luft said.

Their lives were “turned upside down,” Luft said.

“Stability has been key for us, making sure they are safe, they have a routine, they are in midst of daily life,” she said.

"It has now been six months since Jennifer Farber Dulos was reported missing. That this milestone coincides with the Thanksgiving holiday challenges us to pause and give thanks, in spite of this tragedy," said Jennifer's close friend and family spokesperson Carrie Luft.

"We give thanks that Jennifer's children are healthy and well. We give thanks that they share their mother's deep sense of empathy and curiousity about the world around them. And, as ever, we are deeply thankful to the New Canaan and Connecticut State Police for their ongoing efforts to solve this case and bring those responsible to justice," Luft said.

"In honor of Jennifer, we encourage acts of caring and generosity this holiday season, whether donations to a local food bank or shelter or other gestures of compassion. Hug your loved ones close and extend a hand to a stranger," Luft said.



Family of Jennifer Dulos Issues Statement Six Months After Her Disappearance

 

[afitzy]

Jennifer Dulos a symbol for domestic violence advocates, six months later

“We know through court documents that Jennifer Farber Dulos offered to the family court on more than one occasion, that she was fearful of her husband who could be vengeful and dangerous,” said Karen Jarmoc, president and CEO of the Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

“Her statements in court filings that she feared her desire to dissolve her marriage would enrage her husband, signaled to many of us who do this work a real and tangible concern that was quite chilling, considering she has now been missing since May,” Greenwood said. “This case hit home because it is representative of so many others we see on a daily basis. Many people trapped in the cycles of domestic abuse live with the daily fear that their spouses may do them or their families’ real harm.”

Such a well done article with information detailing the extent of the DV Crisis.

More quotes from article:

"Intimate partner homicide is not uncommon — half of all female homicide victims in the United States are killed by intimate partners, according to a 2017 report from the Centers for Disease Control".

That CDC report also noted that intimate partner homicide crosses racial boundaries: “Across all racial/ethnic groups of women, over half of female homicides for which circumstances were known were intimate partner violence-related.”

That’s an important point, according to Jarmoc. Though the CDC said black women are killed at higher rates than white women, intimate partner-related homicide is the cause of about 50 percent of all female homicides, regardless of race.


“Jennifer’s experience also highlights our clear understanding that domestic violence is a pattern of coercive and abusive behavior that crosses over all socioeconomic, religious and ethnic backgrounds and the need for us to be more aware of how these complex behaviors permeate all of society,” Jarmoc said.

The Dulos case, according to Jarmoc, is another example of how important it is for courts to review how domestic violence cases are handled.

“This circumstance, and so many others, underscores the opportunity for Connecticut’s family courts to improve its approach around how it views intimate partner violence,” she said. “We must do better and work collectively to improve policy and practice in this context.”

Sorry, just started BOLDING and then realised IT ALL NEEDED TO BE IN BOLD AS ITS THAT IMPORTANT!!!!

 

[Nanobody]

I think it was an accident but anytime the police chief s
neighbor is run over
It’s going to be handled with kid gloves

Is that the same police chief who was just suspended?

 

[sds71]

Is that the same police chief who was just suspended?

Yup!

 

[afitzy]

Jennifer Dulos' family: We 'don't have a story to tell people' as disappearance reaches 6 months

 

[afitzy]

Yup!

Allegations for the recent issue were a bit 'vague' but I wonder if there just might be more to this story than meets the eye?

Avon police Chief Mark Rinaldo suspended

Avon police chief suspended

 

[sds71]

Allegations for the recent issue were a bit 'vague' but I wonder if there just might be more to this story than meets the eye?

Avon police Chief Mark Rinaldo suspended

Avon police chief suspended

Not sure
I think it has to do with the way they handled an abuse allegation against an officer

 

[afitzy]

Not sure
I think it has to do with the way they handled an abuse allegation against an officer

Yes, there were other articles that detailed some of the more specific issues that have happened in the past with the Chief.

But the way the whole thing was handled by the Town now sure seems to leave a lot to the imagination IMO.
MOO

 

[HopeForTheBest]

Such a lovely article with the same grace we always heard about and read directly from Jennifer herself. Grace rises indeed. It’s so terribly sad.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

I feel like I should know how to do this after all this time learning here from all of you master sleuths and incredible people, but I don’t: How would I get a copy of the report on the horse-barn fire? I know it’s not of the same importance as the JD investigation but it feels related to me (MOO) and since we’re waiting for AW3, maybe someone here would see something to help clarify that. I’m not saying any fire official did anything wrong at all; I’m just thinking of how sometimes what absolutely looks to have occurred benignly sometimes has deeply hidden roots that are less benign. MOO.

 

[pernickety]

Jennifer Dulos’ family: We ‘don’t have a story to tell people’ as disappearance reaches 6 months
Jennifer Dulos’ family: We ‘don’t have a story to tell people’ as disappearance reaches 6 months

Carrie Luft is quoted: “If you don’t have a narrative, you don’t have a story to tell people. That’s how usually people begin working through their grief. They have a story.” My father died in an industrial explosion before I was three, my sister a few years older. My mother’s narrative to us was, “He lied to me and God struck him dead.” She never spoke of him without bad-mouthing him. When I was about eight, I went into a friend’s kitchen with her, where her father was drinking a cup of coffee. He told me, “Your father was a great guy. Once in the playground Betsy -----‘s (an older girl) hair caught fire, and your father clapped it out with his bare hands.” I was struck mute. I’d never heard anything good about him, and here he was, a hero. I could barely breathe, let alone respond. If a parent really loved his children, as FD claims, he would not be giving interviews that put their mother in a bad light. He would not allow his lawyer to spread a false narrative about their mother. NP has reiterated over the years the story that his father abandoned him and his mother when NP was a child. I never read anything good he’s written about his mother either. Maybe he resents those who have/had a loving parent. I wonder if he explores that possibility in his psychotherapy sessions? Thanks to Ms. Luft for her message and to the journalist who wrote the article. Tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat.

 

[afitzy]

I feel like I should know how to do this after all this time learning here from all of you master sleuths and incredible people, but I don’t: How would I get a copy of the report on the horse-barn fire? I know it’s not of the same importance as the JD investigation but it feels related to me (MOO) and since we’re waiting for AW3, maybe someone here would see something to help clarify that. I’m not saying any fire official did anything wrong at all; I’m just thinking of how sometimes what absolutely looks to have occurred benignly sometimes has deeply hidden roots that are less benign. MOO.

Its possible to call the PD in the town where the incident occurred and ask for a copy (not sure if that report would be filed with PF or FD - might have to call both).

If the report can't or won't be released then a Freedom of Information Act (FOIA) request can be made for the information. If you recall, we saw the local press have to make a FOIA request for the KM arrest documents in South Windsor, CT from the PD as they had refused to release the information.

 

[Jmoose]

Carrie Luft is quoted: “If you don’t have a narrative, you don’t have a story to tell people. That’s how usually people begin working through their grief. They have a story.” My father died in an industrial explosion before I was three, my sister a few years older. My mother’s narrative to us was, “He lied to me and God struck him dead.” She never spoke of him without bad-mouthing him. When I was about eight, I went into a friend’s kitchen with her, where her father was drinking a cup of coffee. He told me, “Your father was a great guy. Once in the playground Betsy -----‘s (an older girl) hair caught fire, and your father clapped it out with his bare hands.” I was struck mute. I’d never heard anything good about him, and here he was, a hero. I could barely breathe, let alone respond. If a parent really loved his children, as FD claims, he would not be giving interviews that put their mother in a bad light. He would not allow his lawyer to spread a false narrative about their mother. NP has reiterated over the years the story that his father abandoned him and his mother when NP was a child. I never read anything good he’s written about his mother either. Maybe he resents those who have/had a loving parent. I wonder if he explores that possibility in his psychotherapy sessions? Thanks to Ms. Luft for her message and to the journalist who wrote the article. Tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat.

I’m sorry for the loss of your father, and even sorrier that your mother wouldn’t let you know/remember him as a “great guy”. Some people are so miserable, and really strive to live the adage that “misery loves company”. What some parents visit on their children is heartbreaking-FD is so many times worse, because he likely killed (IMO!) the mother of the children who eventually will know about the derogatory things he and his lawyer have said about her.

 

[afitzy]

I was adding some articles to the JD Media thread this morning and came across this article with 'experts' comments on FD Comments. Thought this might be an appropriate item to rehash given the 6 month anniversary of JD disappearance.

What Experts Say About Fotis Dulos’ Reported Behavior After His Wife’s Disappearance

 

[afitzy]

[/ATTACH]

Carrie Luft is quoted: “If you don’t have a narrative, you don’t have a story to tell people. That’s how usually people begin working through their grief. They have a story.” My father died in an industrial explosion before I was three, my sister a few years older. My mother’s narrative to us was, “He lied to me and God struck him dead.” She never spoke of him without bad-mouthing him. When I was about eight, I went into a friend’s kitchen with her, where her father was drinking a cup of coffee. He told me, “Your father was a great guy. Once in the playground Betsy -----‘s (an older girl) hair caught fire, and your father clapped it out with his bare hands.” I was struck mute. I’d never heard anything good about him, and here he was, a hero. I could barely breathe, let alone respond. If a parent really loved his children, as FD claims, he would not be giving interviews that put their mother in a bad light. He would not allow his lawyer to spread a false narrative about their mother. NP has reiterated over the years the story that his father abandoned him and his mother when NP was a child. I never read anything good he’s written about his mother either. Maybe he resents those who have/had a loving parent. I wonder if he explores that possibility in his psychotherapy sessions? Thanks to Ms. Luft for her message and to the journalist who wrote the article. Tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat.

So sorry this happened to you @pernickety. Glad though that you did eventually get a different 'narrative' on your father so you are able to create your own narrative on the situation. I'm with you on the 'tears' and 'lumps in the throat this morning'. Evil in action and deed is hard to watch, even from a distance, and I very much believe we have seen it up close and personal in this tragic case with BOTH FD and MT.

I agree with you completely about Atty. P. narrative on behalf of his client FD. Not only did FD never express concern about the missing JF, NEITHER he nor MT cooperated with the investigation into her disappearance and NEITHER of them ever offered to assist in the search efforts.

I do very much believe in KARMA. My expectation is that the commentary of Atty. P. regarding JF prior to the 'gag order' along with the FD 2 on air interviews (Sarah Wallace and Dateline) will go down in CT legal history as very basic examples of horrendous and IMO irresponsible client representation. I also very much believe that the 2 FD interviews given in the early days of this tragic case will be dissected in detail by the Prosecution in this case at some point at trial and the Jury will no doubt eventually see evidence surrounding many of the FD press statements.

@sds71, many threads ago posted the following Twitter link to a comment made by Atty. P. which in my mind is such a perfect example of why the defense is nowhere in its defense of FD:

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/D92d82fXUAAb4vm.jpg

 

[afitzy]

Fotis Dulos’ mother died in freak driveway accident years before Connecticut wife Jennifer Dulos went missing

 

[Alathea]

Fotis Dulos’ mother died in freak driveway accident years before Connecticut wife Jennifer Dulos went missing

So his first comments are not about grief. They are
1) excuses
2) a defensive statement claiming she had no financial assets.
(What about life insurance?)

From the NYDN article (whose words were obtained directly from the police report), quoting Fotis Dulos:
“I was in Italy at the time the incident occurred, but I would like to mention that Kleopatra – my mother – suffered a severe accident in early July 2010 when she fell (down) a flight of stairs and cracked her head,” he said in a written statement to police. “Additionally, she broke her arm which required that she took painkillers during the subsequent months.”**
Fotis told cops his mother had no financial assets.
..

(Per PD report): FD did the translation for the nanny who ran over the mother - rather than an independent translator - to speak with the police. He then read it back to her in her native language. In other words, FD wrote the nanny's statement for the police about what happened, though he wasn't there at the time.

"Kleopatra Dulos, 77, sustained fatal injuries after she was run over by a Land Rover" - how long after her being run over? Hours? Days? Anyone know? The hospital had initially told the nanny that the mother was expected to recover and would be released.

Did FD visit her in the hospital?

**NOTE: Many of us have broken limbs. Who takes painkillers for MONTHS afterwards?

 

[pernickety]

[/ATTACH]
So sorry this happened to you @pernickety. Glad though that you did eventually get a different 'narrative' on your father so you are able to create your own narrative on the situation. I'm with you on the 'tears' and 'lumps in the throat this morning'. Evil in action and deed is hard to watch, even from a distance, and I very much believe we have seen it up close and personal in this tragic case with BOTH FD and MT.

I agree with you completely about Atty. P. narrative on behalf of his client FD. Not only did FD never express concern about the missing JF, NEITHER he nor MT cooperated with the investigation into her disappearance and NEITHER of them ever offered to assist in the search efforts.

I do very much believe in KARMA. My expectation is that the commentary of Atty. P. regarding JF prior to the 'gag order' along with the FD 2 on air interviews (Sarah Wallace and Dateline) will go down in CT legal history as very basic examples of horrendous and IMO irresponsible client representation. I also very much believe that the 2 FD interviews given in the early days of this tragic case will be dissected in detail by the Prosecution in this case at some point at trial and the Jury will no doubt eventually see evidence surrounding many of the FD press statements.

@sds71, many threads ago posted the following Twitter link to a comment made by Atty. P. which in my mind is such a perfect example of why the defense is nowhere in its defense of FD:

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/D92d82fXUAAb4vm.jpg

View attachment 217344

And the Greek interview was "no holds barred" when FD thought no one in this country would learn of it--a sob story detailing the breakdown of the marriage, casting himself as a victim. Hoping to garner sympathy from the Greek people and more funds for NP, who IMO put him up to it.

 

[Alathea]

I feel like I should know how to do this after all this time learning here from all of you master sleuths and incredible people, but I don’t: How would I get a copy of the report on the horse-barn fire? I know it’s not of the same importance as the JD investigation but it feels related to me (MOO) and since we’re waiting for AW3, maybe someone here would see something to help clarify that. I’m not saying any fire official did anything wrong at all; I’m just thinking of how sometimes what absolutely looks to have occurred benignly sometimes has deeply hidden roots that are less benign. MOO.

Yes, hopefully LE is revising the horse-barn fire, just in case, as well as the mother's 'accident.'
Fire at Simsbury’s Folly Farm kills 24 horses

Something stinks, and it's not just me.

 

[Chicago54]

So his first comments are not about grief. They are
1) excuses
2) a defensive statement claiming she had no financial assets.
(What about life insurance?)

From the NYDN article (whose words were obtained directly from the police report), quoting Fotis Dulos:
“I was in Italy at the time the incident occurred, but I would like to mention that Kleopatra – my mother – suffered a severe accident in early July 2010 when she fell (down) a flight of stairs and cracked her head,” he said in a written statement to police. “Additionally, she broke her arm which required that she took painkillers during the subsequent months.”**
Fotis told cops his mother had no financial assets.
..

(Per PD report): FD did the translation for the nanny who ran over the mother - rather than an independent translator - to speak with the police. He then read it back to her in her native language. In other words, FD wrote the nanny's statement for the police about what happened, though he wasn't there at the time.

"Kleopatra Dulos, 77, sustained fatal injuries after she was run over by a Land Rover" - how long after her being run over? Hours? Days? Anyone know? The hospital had initially told the nanny that the mother was expected to recover and would be released.

Did FD visit her in the hospital?

**NOTE: Many of us have broken limbs. Who takes painkillers for MONTHS afterwards?

I may be wrong, and will try to research it later, but IIRC, mamaK was released from the hospital after the car accident and died some time later at home. I thought this was the point of contention-that the police did not immediately connect death with accident-which is why interviews/investigations were done later. MOO.