Family Press Conferences

[tabacue]

http://kdrv.com/page/180433

"I ah didn't know Terri until um after Kyron was born, that was when I met her...it took me about a year and a half before I even talked to her, so Kyron was about a year and a half old."

Affair.

I have been wondering if maybe TH was the reason for KH and DY's divorce. Even if they had been friends, maybe she suspected something was going on. The comments above clearly indicate that they were not buddies from "back in the day".

 

[scotslass]

well getting back to the presser one question i had during the presser was that this was announced the day before and was clearly stated it was to be a PC held DY & TY no mention of KH, (IIRC there was some speculation as to why KH was not going to be present.)

Then DY opened the PC with the statements that KH did plan to be there but was meeting with LE therefore that took priority. Granted any investigation with LE would take priority but wouldn't DY want to be a part of that as well if it was related to Kyron? makes wonder what that meeting with LE was about...

Could it be about the Landscaper? TH? or perhaps KH himself? It was obviously nothing DY & TY could help with as they made the PC... regardless i just hope it was something that brings us closer to finding Kyron..

Without any real Info coming out about the investigation I feel I'm getting bogged down with all these crazy plots and not finding much that leads to the real reason we are all here finding Kyron Instead i find myself frustrated at the timeline that certain details are coming out like K going to his mom's that weekend as that brings a whole load of other scenario's to my mind

such as : Could K have been lured into leaving school that day thinking he was leaving early to go to his mom's. That would make sense to me as it a long drive and he would be excited to go.

Who would have known that info? TH obviously but Kyron could have known all about his upcoming fishing trip with TY and shared that info with people. Again making me think whomever last saw k that day was possibly familiar to him.

Aghh more questions for me to ponder.. just wish i had more answers so i could try to unclutter my mind

 

[Aedrys]

I have seen no indication that TH was controlled by KH against her will. Given that, she has the personal responsibility not to agree to do something, and/or to change her mind if she has built up resentment and anger about it.

I don't know any stay at home mothers who share household and parenting chores equally with their working husbands, unless you include the hours the husband spends working and commuting in the equation as part of the household and parenting responsibilities (which I do).

ITA with you. If KH was so bad to TH, she could have left. She could have tried divorce and people would have understood that she was getting out of a bad home and trying to get a better life for herself. Instead, she chooses to do something to KH's son to get back at him, this after she probably had an affair on him after suspecting he had an affair (let me tell how how mature that is). If resentment against KH built, she let it build and let it help her make bad choices in life.

Even if he was controlling, that doesn't mean she could have done something other than causing KH pain like this. There are always choices in life, and she chose to make her other children's lives hell just to get back at Kaine, IMO. She obviously cares more about herself and her needs than anyone else's and hell hath no fury if you dare to cross her.

I don't think she was a controlled, submissive wife afraid of her husband. That just doesn't fit her to me, and I don't think that Kaine was all that controlling anyway. Maybe very insensitive and hurtful if he was having an affair, but we've never heard talk ever of there being actual abuse, whether it was mental, emotional, or physical. And just because Kyron seemed to have a lot of fears doesn't mean he was abused. My stepdaughter is afraid of everything, and it's not because of anything the family or I have done to her. It's because she still has severe security issues five years after her mom left. Who knows, maybe being shuffled around between houses gave Kyron security issues too.

All we've heard is that TH hired someone because Kaine dared to have an affair on her (and how ironic is that if she got him by having an affair in the first place. I love how women like that don't think the man would ever have another affair after them). So it's more he dared to hurt me, and now I have to get back at him. She seems to have the maturity and emotional level of a teenager.

Besides, if KH was so controlling and abusive, how is it that he's working so well with LE and possibly living with DY and TY? We can tell from the pressers that he is getting along with LE and DY and TY. If anything, what keeps coming across is that KH, DY, TY, and LE are united in finding Kyron and bringing him home dead or alive. Also, I don't think DY and TY would allow him in their house if he was so abusive and controlling. I think TH is trying to make Kaine out to be a monster to get more sympathy for herself. And we can see how much it's not working. All IMO.

 

[shefner]

I've tried to read as much as I can here...but in the presser, DY mentions that she enjoys going to pick up "the boys." Who is she speaking of here? Does she have other children that do not live with her and she picks them up when she gets Kyron? I was a little confused by that....

 

[miabellamoure]

How can a person be so evil as to torture this poor faimly?? God bless Desiree, Tony ,Baby K and the rest of thier faimly, Most of all , god bless Kyron, come home little precious one

A very selfish one...

 

[GrainneDhu]

Thanks for this post....and I understand about having a serious illness. Still, I think I would have given only temporary full custody of my child to his father.
After I was well, I would have wanted my little son back in my home. Apparently DY has been better for several years now and Kyron is still a young child. It would have been tough for me to let another woman raise my child even if I thought she was a good and loving person. I'm in no way judging DY because I don't know all the circumstances involved in these decisions. I'm just speaking personally how I would feel.

There is some indirect evidence that KH would have fought hard for custody; when DY filed for divorce, she also filed for a RO to prevent KH from removing her older son (not KH's son) or Kyron from the home. The judge amended that order to apply to both parents.

That suggests to me that DY or her lawyer thought it was a very real possibility that KH might try to take off with the kids. In other words, a man who was likely to fight for custody.

When DY suffered from kidney failure and had to go to Canada for treatment, she came back with a substantial medical bill and had to move in with her parents to get her feet on the ground again (find a job, find a place to live, etc). Additionally, she may not have been in great physical health; kidney failure is not like having the flu! That suggests that she was not really in a position to fight for full custody and may not have had the funds to do so if KH indicated he'd fight.

Judges in custody disputes (rightly) give a lot of weight to which parent has had primary custody most recently and for how long.

My hunch is that DY was overwhelmed by circumstances and definitely not automatically free to do as she wanted.

 

[chasing.halos]

Sometimes parents make decisions that they believe are the very best for their child (adoption comes to mind) and no matter how hard it may be on them, the focus is what they believe is best for their child and not for themselves. To me, this is the ultimate, most unselfish and loving sacrifice.

Back to the presser. Let's connect the dots!

 

[RoughlyCollie]

I don't know if this is OT but someone mentioned TH's parents... I find it VERY curious that the parents of people who commit murder are so commonly still on their side.

If one of my children were accused of, or arrested for, a heinous crime, I would not believe it. Only absolutely positive proof beyond all doubt would convince me otherwise, because I know my children.

Even then, I could be in complete and not willful denial and truly not realize that my child had done this. I was once in complete denial, not through any act of will on my part and not having to do with a crime, so I am aware this can happen.

 

[AlexisFresca]

I think we should remember that it's not just the mother's decision where their children should live. The father has a say as well, and if they disagree there may be a dirty court battle. It is often better for the kids if the parents come to an understanding without having to smear each other in court, and since 50-50 shared custody is impossible when the parents live far apart, one of them has to give up from demanding full custody if they want to settle the matter out of court.

Part of loving a child is putting their needs before your own. If that means relinquishing custody so he could have stability, then so be it. We don't know all the details and there could be more about the custody we don't know (more personal things regards to Kyron). Thank God he had a close bond with his father. Goes without saying, I'm sure Desiree has been beating herself up a bit about the custody issue since word came that Kyron has been missing. I can't imagine what must have been going through her mind.

 

[joshiesmom]

I've tried to read as much as I can here...but in the presser, DY mentions that she enjoys going to pick up "the boys." Who is she speaking of here? Does she have other children that do not live with her and she picks them up when she gets Kyron? I was a little confused by that....

Desiree has an older son, but we aren't discussing him as he is not relevant to this case.

 

[AlexisFresca]

I don't know if this is OT but someone mentioned TH's parents... I find it VERY curious that the parents of people who commit murder are so commonly still on their side. I mean, Jaron Van der Sloot's dad, the Anthony's, we have 2 cases in Brazil where the criminals' parents STILL defend their kids.

It says a lot about the extent of a parent's love for a child and I don't necessarily judge the parents because I'm not a mother yet and I have no idea what this love is like.

With that said, it makes it even worse that these people would murder their kids given the unconditional love and support they seem to receive from their own parents even after such crimes.

Speaking for me, based on the fact I have not seen or heard TH's parents make statements through this whole ordeal, I am not ready to lump them into that category yet.

The Anthony's forced their daughter to have a child she didn't want. Then they didn't offer support to help raise that child. While I'm not a fan of abortion, I think there comes a time when a parent has to let go and let their child do what is best for them, make their mistakes and let them learn from it, in spite of how painful it is for you to watch them do that.

Joran's dad is another category in and of itself. I doubt Joran got the parenting he needed. His dad was in a position that allowed him to 'fix' his son's problems without really 'fixing' them; being above the law, skirting responsibility. He set a bad example and Joran followed the lead.

We don't know enough about the relationship between TH and her parents to draw an accurate conclusion, imo. Unconditional love does not = helping your child escape responsibility.

 

[wondering1]

Speaking for me, based on the fact I have not seen or heard TH's parents make statements through this whole ordeal, I am not ready to lump them into that category yet.

sbm

Also, TH is an adopted child. I'm not sure how to put this, but maybe she's had issues in the past that have caused her parents concerns about how genetics or prenatal issues, or even issues relating to the fact that she was adopted (abandonment, say) may have impacted her personality. And even if they haven't, maybe when an adopted child commits a heinous crime the parents find it a bit easier to distance themselves because they are not "to blame" for creating a monster. I don't mean to slam adoptive parents, generally, but maybe these factors can come into play in certain cases? If so, and if TH is guilty, I HOPE they come into play in this case...

 

[Kimster]

This thread is going off topic. Let's get back to discussion of the presser please. This post falls at random.

This thread has turned into general discussion and will now be closed.

If there is a topic in the presser that you would like to discuss, feel free to open a new thread.

 

[RubyRed]

​

Kaine Horman and Desiree Young, Kyron's parents, will speak to media Thursday night at 5 p.m.​

http://www.koinlocal6.com/content/n...ring-police-sting/Dz4uMChK60KCWjy3W5FG4Q.cspx​

 

[Kimster]

*~*~*~*~* NO DISCUSSION until the presser! THANK YOU! *~*~*~*~*

 

[redkatrampant]

May I post a request for time zone clarification? I assume that this is PST?

 

[RubyRed]

May I post a request for time zone clarification? I assume that this is PST?

yes, 5 Pacific.

8 - eastern
7 - central
6 - Mountain

 

[loves2bmom]

Was this posted? Just in case someone needs it. They already have the microphones set up.

http://www.kgw.com/live-stream/KGW-Live-Video-Stream-Test-81565837.html

 

[RoseWhite]

Opps! The woman speaking before the presser said she doesn't want to be on camera. Uh... she is on camera.

 

[Kentjbkent]

Anyone know who this woman is?