On the conversation about levels of autism--- we have no solid information as to this man's dx. So much is conjecture as to what dx contributed to his killing at the school or his behavior of harming animals previously.
When my oldest was in grade school, he had a peer whose behavior was odd-- alternating between cruel and aloof. He had been seen since he was 5 by a series of psychologists and psychiatrists. His mom was highly popular among the parents-- always volunteered, brought snacks for teachers, and would be able to pick up anyone's kid at a moments notice. His dad was similar to his son but he was a HIGHLY successful financial person in arbitrage and, ultimately, created a successful hedge fund. This young man was barely functional. Kids were afraid of him. Teachers feared his reactions so they coddled him. On a trip, he got another kid to help him push a kid's head into some jetty rocks at the beach-- the kid was mine. After all was said and done, little was done except this child left the school. Over the years, he was a steady disinvite at a number of schools. His family profile never changed. As an early teen, he was finally placed in a residential school. I am not sure of what caused the placement but I know something stunning had happened. The school made the world of difference for him. He lived there from 12.5 to 21. He has not been back at his home except for very short visits that do not include an overnight. Is that his choice or the family's choice? I have heard it is his. He doesn't want to be with his parents but has a great relationship with his siblings. I won't know all of the ins and outs but I can say that environment can surely make a difference, especially if it is coupled with good medication. All this to say, we don't know for sure what caused this killer to kill or what his parents did or didn't do "right"? I am sure there were many entry points to quality interventions. However, as a country, we don't put enough funding into mental illness treatment-- it is expensive. But, when we look at this week, I think we would all agree that even if it had cost millions to get this man help it would have been a smaller price to pay than the lives that were lost.
The terror experienced by his peers, his brother, his coworkers and the family that took him is so great that I am sure it is life changing no matter how close they stood to him on that day.
When my oldest was in grade school, he had a peer whose behavior was odd-- alternating between cruel and aloof. He had been seen since he was 5 by a series of psychologists and psychiatrists. His mom was highly popular among the parents-- always volunteered, brought snacks for teachers, and would be able to pick up anyone's kid at a moments notice. His dad was similar to his son but he was a HIGHLY successful financial person in arbitrage and, ultimately, created a successful hedge fund. This young man was barely functional. Kids were afraid of him. Teachers feared his reactions so they coddled him. On a trip, he got another kid to help him push a kid's head into some jetty rocks at the beach-- the kid was mine. After all was said and done, little was done except this child left the school. Over the years, he was a steady disinvite at a number of schools. His family profile never changed. As an early teen, he was finally placed in a residential school. I am not sure of what caused the placement but I know something stunning had happened. The school made the world of difference for him. He lived there from 12.5 to 21. He has not been back at his home except for very short visits that do not include an overnight. Is that his choice or the family's choice? I have heard it is his. He doesn't want to be with his parents but has a great relationship with his siblings. I won't know all of the ins and outs but I can say that environment can surely make a difference, especially if it is coupled with good medication. All this to say, we don't know for sure what caused this killer to kill or what his parents did or didn't do "right"? I am sure there were many entry points to quality interventions. However, as a country, we don't put enough funding into mental illness treatment-- it is expensive. But, when we look at this week, I think we would all agree that even if it had cost millions to get this man help it would have been a smaller price to pay than the lives that were lost.
The terror experienced by his peers, his brother, his coworkers and the family that took him is so great that I am sure it is life changing no matter how close they stood to him on that day.