How do you feel about the memorial service planned for Caylee?

[Brini]

almost kind of -ish huh?

nv:crazy:

One wonders whether Rob took a shower, afterward? MOO

 

[MOMto5]

One wonders whether Rob took a shower, afterward? MOO

Lol, Brini. I sure hope so. I felt like I needed one after watching.

 

[Baznme]

He just seems a little quick to throw in the towel to me. The slightest little thing goes wrong and he is out of there. Maybe that is why he doesn't get volunteers - he never stays in one place long enough for them to believe he will be there. He doesn't say "we will stay as long as we have volunteers." He says "We will stay until Caylee is found." moo

He got a lot of volunteers according to emails and phone calls but about half showed up. That commitment thing, you know. Lots of people have good intentions but when it comes down to it, they're no where to be found.

As far as Tim quitting......hasn't happened. There is still a core team Tim left here to work with volunteers for smaller searches on the weekends or for those that have the time during the week until he can get back. The major search for Caylee is "suspended", not terminated. He's on 4 new searches in North Carolina as of right now. I wouldn't want to be Tim being pulled in so many different directions.

 

[SeriouslySearching]

I believe it is an intrusion to foist oneself into a family's private grief without the invitation of the family.

When the Anthony's are ready, they will hold a memorial service (or a funeral if Caylee's little body is found.) Until that time, I think it is highly presumptuous of the public at large to think their needs to memorialize the little girl usurps the family's need to continue to believe there is a chance she is alive.

No harm would come from waiting for the family to come around, but I can see harm coming from "forcing" the issue.

It's just incredibly poor taste, IMO.

They are not going to "come around" Kgeaux. I believe that is the issue here. Casey could be in the court system for months or years even. They will maintain their stance of Caylee being alive for the sake of the case as long as it takes and maybe forever.

Should Caylee have to wait on them to have something done in her honor because they want to save the woman who tossed her aside like garbage? I don't think so. 21 weeks is long enough for them to come to terms that this child is not coming home and deserves to be acknowledged. It was time.

 

[leandjl]

Lol, Brini. I sure hope so. I felt like I needed one after watching.

and a cigarette!

 

[Brini]

All I can say, this is a remarkable family and as we were all grieving for those around us who had suffered, the entire town...yes, even those who did not know this family personally came together for the service. There were many memorial services for people we did not know...not all involved family members even being there...the point being is that people often need an outlet to express their grief...their compassion for lives cut short. Proper...I'd like to know if there is a hard and fast rule as far as grieving is concerned. If we are to accept that the Anthony's are grieving in their own way, I see nothing wrong then in acknowledging that others have a need to grieve the way they see fit as well. I'm a pretty "by the book" person, but don't see where etiquette comes into play with "grief" and the best way to deal with it.

I think that families are often not of the same blood. "Families," of sorts, have come together over this wronged baby. And, families, blood or not, do need to grieve. So we agree, in ways.

Many people on these lists believe in heaven. In their belief system, Caylee is perfectly safe, now. I beleve in reincarnation. In my belief system, her next life will be better.

In either case, Caylee is now safer than she has ever been, and is in a condition of perfect love and comfort.

 

[Brini]

OMG! Hahahahaha~ I guess when you are single and hot...you can say whatever you like about her and her little darling, Casey! I happened to notice she was fine two seconds earlier then moved right by Rob to "break down". Yeah...right.

Angry rubbing! ROFLMAO

No tears came with that "angry grief-rubbing," BTW.;-)

 

[Baznme]

I was counting the 1000 that were riding with Murt today. So I stand by the statement of 1100.

Oh Yeah!!!!...........I always forget about Murt.

 

[Brini]

Your acquaintances situation was unique - btw, I also know several families of 9/11 victims and they did NOT hold memorial services prior to issuance of a death certificate. Not saying your acquaintances did anything wrong, though. Here's the thing about the rules of etiquette regarding memorial services: a memorial service is for the comfort of the survivors of the deceased person. This DOES NOT include people who NEVER EVEN KNEW OR MET the person. Sorry, but this really IS an etiquette issue. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with holding a service in the hope of someday finding Caylee (dead or alive). But forcing a memorial service upon people who are clearly not ready is completely improper, and, in fact, cruel.

I also know the families of some 9-11 victims. SOME DID hold memorial services, prior to death cert issuance. Strangers did attend, as strangers attended services for police, firefighters, and even search dogs who died as a result of the rescue attempt.

That being said, I strongly doubt that anyone was "forced" to attend. My impression is that only the willing attended.

With respect, if you are offended, all you need do is boycott by not attending. Emily Post may not always be the first concern of the grieving.

 

[Truthwillsetufree]

One wonders whether Rob took a shower, afterward? MOO

I can imagine a lengthy one with lots of scrubbing and possible delousing compounds...ewwww:crazy:

 

[Truthwillsetufree]

Lol, Brini. I sure hope so. I felt like I needed one after watching.

:floorlaugh::floorlaugh::floorlaugh:

 

[Tuba]

Of course a memorial service is an affront to the family. It is also true that the family is an affront to the public, a public devoted to this child. Call that a push and move on to whether the memorial honors the brief life of Caylee. I believe that it is past time this were done.

If we really abhor sacrilege of the dead, if we remove bodies from the field of battle for a reason, if we enact laws against desecration of a corpse to protect it, then we need to acknowledge Caylee's time on earth and remember her, mindful of HER spirit.
Caylee was a child full of love and she gave it generously. How heartening for her spirit to see and to know that her loving ways were recognised and that our hearts are full whenever we think of her.

Enduring love to you, Caylee. Always and forever!

 

[Brini]

I can imagine a lengthy one with lots of scrubbing and possible delousing compounds...ewwww:crazy:

Wire brushes.... I hope no marks were left.

 

[kgeaux]

They are not going to "come around" Kgeaux. I believe that is the issue here. Casey could be in the court system for months or years even. They will maintain their stance of Caylee being alive for the sake of the case as long as it takes and maybe forever.

Should Caylee have to wait on them to have something done in her honor because they want to save the woman who tossed her aside like garbage? I don't think so. 21 weeks is long enough for them to come to terms that this child is not coming home and deserves to be acknowledged. It was time.

It's your opinion that they won't come around. None of us really knows what the future holds. And I would never put a time limit on someone's ability to come to terms with something like this.....people really are so very different. We all handle things so differently. What takes me six weeks might take you six minutes, six hours or six years. And we'd both be right.


Maybe it's just me, but I can put myself in their shoes. And strictly from my personal point of view, I know how horrible it would be to try to digest the information that one of my own children had harmed their baby. I am certain I would continue to love my child; I am certain I would probably continue to hold out hope until I just couldn't anymore.....and I KNOW that I would resent a publicity hound for trying to "memorialize" my grandchild. I know I would resent others for thinking they miss her more or could honor her more than I could.

The Anthony's aren't alone in their belief that Caylee is alive. You and I may believe she is dead, based on evidence. That same evidence (remember the FBI conclusion said the decomp POSSIBLY came from a human source) is the evidence that gives them hope. Possibly! They didn't say ABSOLUTELY. As a grandparent, I can well see myself latching on to that and holding on for all my grandchild is worth. When there is no doubt, they will (IMO) come around.

 

[MD MOMMY]

Well, LP has done SO much more than the family, to try to locate Caylee. He spent 50K to spring KC, and supported her position, until it became obvious by the forensic evidence that Caylee was dead in her mom's car.

And, the family hasn't moved to give her an appropriate memorial.

It's a perfect Catch-22. They will not memorialize, because they insist that she is alive. However, they also refuse to search, themselves. MOO

The standoff protects KC, they think, and ensures them continued attention.

and funds to aid in their "search"..which IMO is a biggie.

 

[chesterp]

When Tim's sonar sees a park bench in the water, it stays in the water. Why would you expect him to pull it out? That's not what he's there for. Tim is everything he claims to be with honesty and integrity beyond measure. When he made his promise it was with the assumption that he would have enough help. You cannot cover this much area with 1000, 500, then 50 people. There are miles and miles yet to cover. As far as letting any searchers or believers in him down, speak for yourself please. I believe in Tim 100% as do many many others. If you want to talk about disappointment, try showing up to the TES searches and see what Tim and TES teams deal with and the disappointment in their faces when they CAN'T deliver because they cannot get enough help. For a city the size of Orlando, where is everyone? It takes a lot of help and your criticism of Tim with no firm basis for your statements are not fair.

I could not agree MORE. If 1 out 25 families assisted then include the many people who came in from out of town and STATE and Canadians..... who came in just for this PURPOSE......

 

[Brini]

He got a lot of volunteers according to emails and phone calls but about half showed up. That commitment thing, you know. Lots of people have good intentions but when it comes down to it, they're no where to be found.

As far as Tim quitting......hasn't happened. There is still a core team Tim left here to work with volunteers for smaller searches on the weekends or for those that have the time during the week until he can get back. The major search for Caylee is "suspended", not terminated. He's on 4 new searches in North Carolina as of right now. I wouldn't want to be Tim being pulled in so many different directions.

My guess is that TM has often wished he could clone himself, so he could search for EVERY child. I also wish he could get a big, fat, financial grant.

 

[TURBOTHINK]

I was counting the 1000 that were riding with Murt today. So I stand by the statement of 1100.

I agree. I could not be there or view Murt's site at the time. I hope he has it recorded, so I can view it later. I know there were many who were not there and not because they did not want to, but because they are still searching. Many of the out of state people are on a tight time line, and are trying to get as much covered as possible before they have to leave.

I am glad it went on without the Anthonys disrupting it too. It just dawned on me early this morning that they have not been to see KC since she went back to jail. That is very interesting to me.

 

[Themis]

Well, LP has done SO much more than the family, to try to locate Caylee. He spent 50K to spring KC, and supported her position, until it became obvious by the forensic evidence that Caylee was dead in her mom's car.

And, the family hasn't moved to give her an appropriate memorial.

It's a perfect Catch-22. They will not memorialize, because they insist that she is alive. However, they also refuse to search, themselves. MOO

The standoff protects KC, they think, and ensures them continued attention.

And continued donations. Income is a powerful incentive.

 

[Truthwillsetufree]

They are not going to "come around" Kgeaux. I believe that is the issue here. Casey could be in the court system for months or years even. They will maintain their stance of Caylee being alive for the sake of the case as long as it takes and maybe forever.

Should Caylee have to wait on them to have something done in her honor because they want to save the woman who tossed her aside like garbage? I don't think so. 21 weeks is long enough for them to come to terms that this child is not coming home and deserves to be acknowledged. It was time.

I agree with SS wholeheartedly. The A's will postpone if ever, any type of memorial for Caylee to save KC. Plus if the A's have a memorial for Caylee, that would tell the world they think Caylee is deceased and there would be no reason for folks to donate their hard earned money to the A's to search for Caylee. I can see the A's draagging this out for years. Milking it, so to speak, for all it's worth. Funny how the A's continually point fingers at people about money but they are the worst parasites yet. In time it will all come out about the financials of this murdered child and it will be shocking on who had made what incredible sums of money on this precious baby. Greed like love has no bounds.IMHO.