BBM. Totally makes sense. I was thinking yesterday that it could be a midwestern thing. I love Garrison Keiler! Love a Prairie Home Companion.
A great book that really underscores the culture of the region (well, perhaps more west like Minnesota and the Dakotas) is Giants in the Earth which describes a Norwegian family's immigration to the plains.
This cultural affect is very jarring to me. Totally different from my culture (we're talkin' third-world style wailing at funerals, etc). But, my dad was always very clam in an emergency and I have been at times as well. Also, when my dad was dying I was very upbeat, as someone else described. I didn't want to make him upset, so I was matter of fact and kept things calm and positive. Then I went home and wailed into my pillow.
I'm sorry, I totally disagree with you. I think the family's reactions are super important. Maybe not to finding these two girls but to many other cases.
I have been sleuthing for years. I have been following missing kids cases for much longer than that. Making connections, noting reactions, etc., is very key to determining what direction to go in.
For example, comparisons with many other cases and different family's demeanor, was a long discussion on the Isabel Celis thread. I argued and do believe that her parents stoicism is not necessarily a sign of guilt. I gave several comparisons, like to Elizabeth Smart's dad.
No, noting, discussing and cataloging how the families react is very important to me and helps me learn what to look for and what not to focus on.
I do not believe that discussing the family's reactions is disrespectful or hurtful to finding the girls. If it bothers anyone, I would suggest moving on past. If it crosses a line, there is an alert button. :moo:
True, there are way too many crazies and sex offenders walking around. It's like we are ducks in a pond. But the fact is, Chris is right.
Our knowledge of these case doesn't change stats. It remains the case that a child has more of a chance to be hit by lightning than taken by a stranger. It remains a fact that out of 258,000 missing kid cases per year, only 115 of those are stranger abductions:
http://www.fbi.gov/stats-services/p...august-2011/crimes-against-children-spotlight
Does that mean there is no stranger danger or that we should allow our kids to run all over the place unattended? Of course not. Because even though it's rare, the death of a child by a stranger/predator is the most frightening and horrific thing a parent can imagine.
Nevertheless, it is rare (although not at all rare enough). Which is why these cases are such big news and why we huddle around our computer screens and try to understand and solve these cases and pray and weep and share our outrage and sorrow, with our fellow man.