Oh I agree! I would do what you did for my girls in a heartbeat. It’s not that. It’s that he drove home at all instead of flying. Especially if it inconvenienced his dad that much. Because let’s face it—it IS a hassle. Not to mention way more expensive, dangerous and exhausting. If my girls had wanted to drive home that far for just a few weeks, I would have said, yeah here’s a round trip plane ticket—you are NOT driving that far in the winter, and it’s way cheaper for you to fly than for me to fly and then accompany you.Just did 1500 miles with my son.
Here's why a parent does that. I will qualify that these are unique and may not translate BK.
- He has a large dog that can't fly (I'll admit, that if it weren't for the dog) flying would be a better choice.
- He has no credit card. Loans and TA pay won't cover hotels and gas. This
- I would worry about any family member traveling over the mountains in the winter storms alone.
- I drive up to 60K miles a year for work, long drive are no big deal for me
- wanted to see his apartment, and grad school office.
- time to hang out
- I love checking out good food in college towns.
- Love to drive, I spend the entire airplane trips wishing I was on the ground in remote areas of the west instead of flying over them.
I do believe that BK was probably trying to get a hot car out of the area and probably did not have a pet traveling. IMO the car was identified a few weeks into the case, he may have thought it was all they had to go on and if it wasn't in the general area he was safe. Someone in Pullman probably would have ID'ed the car. 2500 miles away, nobody would notice.
I think the main thing for me is that his choice to drive instead of fly tells me a lot. It screams, I did it, they‘re looking for my car and I have to get it out of here. My guess is he insisted on driving, and perhaps his dad reluctantly flew to do it with him because he refused to leave the car. Tells me a lot. It has nothing to do with a parent helping their child. That’s just a caring parent.
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