The point is not that she told a truth, the point is that she over shared to an absurd degree with people she didn't know all that well. Lori had a very good opportunity to say, " I'm so sorry, my son is autistic and a little hard to control, we'll do better and watch him more closely," and that would be a reasonable response to another adult. But when another adult says to you that your child is creating chaos, you don't say he is your niece's drug baby. That just leaves the other party feeling confused and weirdly accused of not having sympathy for the kid after the fact. That kind of response is just meant to shut the other party down and guilt them, not address the problem. I've seen it, and it's sad and weird, and it's a form of emotional manipulation. The only way to get beyond it is to put up your own front, and basically say, " I don't care what your excuses are, you need to address your problem so it's not mine anymore, and I resent you trying to socially shame me for pointing out your lack of communication and poor choices."