I agree. They purposefully don't ask questions. But they can put 2 and 2 together. if a girl is still living at her parents and doesn't have a drivers license then she's under age.
Well, that is not always the case. I was in a horrific accident on the exact day I got my learner's permit. I was so traumatized that I didn't get my license until I was 20-years-old and I was still living with my mother.
I will also freely admit that I lied numerous times about my age as a teenager. It's quite normal as long as you are not going out and doing what these girls were doing. I never lied to attract an older man. I just did it because I thought it made me sound more mature. It really had more to do with trying to gain my own independence than anything else... or rebellion, in parental terms. It's quite silly when I look back at it. Most of the time, it's just that innocent...
But there are cases where girls do lie to lure older men... and they are very good at it. I am not excusing the adult man/men who get themselves into these situations. I am just saying that it does happen. And can happen.
I had two issues with my own niece on facebook.
The first time she was only 15-years-old. I was going through her friends list and found one of my own friends as her friend. He was 39-years-old and had been a pretty good friend of mine for many, many years. I was LIVID. So, I confronted my niece about it and she told me she got the "request" from him and just accepted it (kids are really into the number of friends they have)... so, I immediately confronted my "friend" about requesting my niece and his answer for requesting my 15-year-old niece was unacceptable to me. I cussed him out, blocked him not only from my facebook, but from my personal life and told my sister (my niece's mother) about what my niece did. My sister deleted my niece's facebook and told her when she matures, she can have another one.
Fast forward to my niece being 16-years-old and she had regained her social media privileges. I am once again going through her friends list and see an "older" man as one of her friends. One I DON'T know and I immediately go into his profile. NOTHING but young girls on his friends list. Some VERY young.
Step One: was immediately calling my sister. I didn't even confront my niece about this one!
Step Two: Contacting the police about this man
Step Three: Writing a scathing private message to said man
My niece was not allowed back onto social media until her Senior year in High School after that one. And it was only for study groups.
Parents CAN control their children's social media presence if they CARE enough. Being a member of Websleuth's just made me a little more vigilant than my sister was because I knew what to look for. And it was her first teenager back then. She's coming up on her next pre-teen and learned a lot from the first one. Same with my brother-in-law.