This is all so disturbing, really. This guy really had some method of manipulating a lot of people didn't he? I thought it was interesting that the dispatcher who at first felt threatened, then didn't feel threatened, then felt threatened again, mentioned in her statement about how she said something to him to the effect of: I'm not afraid of you. Other people think you're a big scary military guy, but I know you're just a teddy bear. (paraphrasing)
So this tells me that people were intimidated by him. I also thought it was interesting that she wrote out that whole statement about how it was ALL blown out of proportion, that she was being silly and no she didn't think he was threatening her. Almost like "Tee hee hee, silly me! It was ALL MY FAULT because I was being silly and he was ONLY joking!" Makes me wonder if he said something else to her, or spent a few days glaring at her and she felt it was in her best interest to shut up and act like it was nothing.
I say this because after she made that statement, she went ahead and made anther one about him freaking her out by cocking the gun in the radio room.
I think he was a person who liked to intimidate the vulnerable. I think this is why DJ would have gone right along with whatever twisted plan he had. I get the feeling from reading Joe's sm posts that he would definitely have made DJ feel like he needed to man up and do whatever Joe thought was best.
ETA: I am NOT saying other people are not guilty, in my opinion, but that Joe shows a pattern of manipulation.
moo