Welcome to 2012, everyone.
I just want to weigh in on some of the stuff that has come up overnight. Does anyone here know that there was a pron ring, or that TS allowed Ali to be abused? No.
But here is what I do know that causes me to feel that she is not being held fully responsible for her role in her daughter's death.
1.) Grandfather Lemmon's obituary. No matter what she did or didn't know about MP, she had to know that her own father was an RSO. So why does his obituary say that one of his favorite things was spending time with his grandkids? Especially when one of those grandkids was almost of the exact same age as his former victim in the crime that he was convicted of?
2.) Although former abuse by a male does not mean that a child should never be around males again, it would generally cause one to be a little more cautious about the caliber of male that they allowed their children to be around...I certainly wouldn't ban my child from being around all men, but I would do a little checking into the background of the ones she was around, especially if they were to be taking her overnight.
3.) Miscommunication or not, the fact remains that between the time that ALi died, which might have been as much as three days before she was reported, TS obviously did not speak directly with her child...whether she trusted this man or not,it does not change the fact that she had no contact with her child, and apparently was not overly concerned by this.
That said, there are a lot of rumors that are starting to circulate, that I'm not buying into until I get more info. The idea that TS is on meth, while possible, isn't necessarily true, as I know that just general bad health is enough make a person go downhill very fast, especially when un or under insured. I can't assume drugs until I see some official statement or proof of it.
Likewise, I can't assume a
ring without some kind of official statement. The situation that Ali was in is all too familiar to me, just from experience, and believe me, it doesn't always, or even usually, involve
. Still a possibility, but not the strongest one for me.
ANd yes, a lot of blame does seem to be going to TS, when it should be going to MP, but I think that is because MP has been caught, charged, and isn't going anywhere, and to those that feel like TS should face a penalty for her <unusual> parenting, it feels like only half the battle, and it seems that one of the people responsible is still out and aout, living her life, when Ali will never again have that chance.
Just my thoughts, my reasons for blaming TS, and what I am and am not buying into at this point.
A huge question for me, as it was in the beginning, is who was the outcry witness for Ali's previous molestation? If it was her mother, and TS pursued it immediately, then good on her. If it was someone outside of the home, such as her school, then TS would not have been able to say, "No thanks, we don't want to press charges, we're just going to ignore it and jump state." That point matters to me, because that is what will tell me if TS is really a mother, or if she is just going through the motions when there's someone watching.
All MOO.
