Found Deceased IN - Shalom Lawson, 8, Brownsburg, 7 July 2017

  • #101
The developers of these neighborhoods and business Parks need to be required to fence in the retention pond.

I find it ridiculous that a swimming pool in a backyard is required to have a fence of a specified minimum height plus a gate that locks, yet these huge retentionponds are wide open with no barrier at all.
 
  • #102
There needs to be a movement to gain support with lawmakers to enact a law that requires developers to fencing in these retention ponds that they create.

Call it "Shalom's Law" and maybe in the future these kind of heartbreaking tragedies can be avoided.

I am just sick over this. I have followed too many of these sad stories and searches just in the area where I live and nearly all have had tragic endings.
 
  • #103
Because of websleuths, I actively avoid homes with water nearby when looking at real estate. Ugh. This poor, sweet boy.

I actually enjoy water (wether due to aspergers or 'just because', I don't know), but if I had kids I would probably want to stay away from that. Not that you could, where I live... and that's becoming a problem for the increasing immigrant population, whose children come from arid places where swimming isn't as vital a skill :(
 
  • #104
came for an update hoping for good news
I read backwards so the bad news came gradually & I had a bit of warning
so sorry Shalom ... rest easy sweet one
 
  • #105
:cry::cry: Not what I was hoping to see. RIP sweet Shalom.
 
  • #106
There are no words to express how sad I feel about this.

Rest In Peace Shalom! [emoji254][emoji171][emoji1317][emoji56]


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  • #107
Fencing in retention ponds isn't going to change anything. There are all kinds of bodies of water, man made or naturally occuring, we can't fence them all in. It's not feasible let and is quite unattractive. Sadly accidents are aways going to occur.

My heart goes out to Shaloms family. Sleep peacefully little man,
 
  • #108
:tears:

RIP Shalom
:rose:
 
  • #109
Water again :(


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  • #110
Oh god....no... :-(
 
  • #111
Please comfort your loved ones from Heaven, Shalom. This seems so avoidable, fence or no fence. Dang it. I'm so sad, and upset.
 
  • #112
I work in mental health and work with individuals with autism. I hate these stories!

Project Lifesaver is a great resource but the problem is some people can't tolerate the GPS on their body.

I hope they find this little one!

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At the risk of offending some people, I can't help but think about our dogs with chips implanted so that if they are lost, the owner has a way to locate them. However, our special-needs children have nothing to help locate them when they are lost. :thinking:
 
  • #113
I so hate to hear this! Fly High Little Man
 
  • #114
Is there anyway to get LE and such to search throughout the night for children? I'm not blaming LE AT all!! But really having an autistic little boy so close to water we all knew what the horrific outcome would probably be.
I know there is no light but can something not change with this? What if we are losing babies by a few hours or few minutes?

Prayers to Shalom's loved ones embracing them with peace and love. Fly free Shalom. Beautiful baby boy! Xo


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  • #115
Is there anyway to get LE and such to search throughout the night for children? I'm not blaming LE AT all!! But really having an autistic little boy so close to water we all knew what the horrific outcome would probably be.
I know there is no light but can something not change with this? What if we are losing babies by a few hours or few minutes?

Prayers to Shalom's loved ones embracing them with peace and love. Fly free Shalom. Beautiful baby boy! Xo


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See post 74 from this thread. I think first responders did search all night. It references them finding footprints and evidence at 3:30 am. Poor little guy.


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  • #116
Oh no :(.

Yesterday a friend of mine posted a pic of her child staring at the ocean from a few feet away with a caption something like, "this child could stare at the ocean all day." This child is only 2 and the first thing that entered my head was, "wow, I hope they are not autistic."

So so sad for this family :(.
 
  • #117
My autistic non-verbal daughter is 8 years old. She has other developmental disabilities as well. She just started unlocking doors this year and wandered into a neighbor's house that had the garage door open. She let herself out into the garage and pushed the button to lift the garage door. I was in the bathroom doing my business and it only took her a minute. We have since added chains to the doors near the top. It will be several years before she figures those out, but she will one day. We have a creek at the end of our street. The access entry used to not be fenced, but now it is. My daughter loves water and she has been continuously taking swim lessons nearly year round for 4 years. Most people will never know what it is like to have to be constantly vigilant, constantly tuned in to your child's movements, sounds and whereabouts for the rest of your life. And to worry about who will take on this responsibility once you are gone. It is exhausting to never feel like you can relax, take a nap, etc. without having a second person around. When I was in the bathroom my husband was supposed to be keeping watch over her, but he fell asleep on the couch. When I leave a room, I announce it so he knows he is in charge of keeping track of her. It is like having a toddler for life. I have nothing but sympathy for these people. I don't know how I could go on if something happened to my little girl.
 
  • #118
My autistic non-verbal daughter is 8 years old. She has other developmental disabilities as well. She just started unlocking doors this year and wandered into a neighbor's house that had the garage door open. She let herself out into the garage and pushed the button to lift the garage door. I was in the bathroom doing my business and it only took her a minute. We have since added chains to the doors near the top. It will be several years before she figures those out, but she will one day. We have a creek at the end of our street. The access entry used to not be fenced, but now it is. My daughter loves water and she has been continuously taking swim lessons nearly year round for 4 years. Most people will never know what it is like to have to be constantly vigilant, constantly tuned in to your child's movements, sounds and whereabouts for the rest of your life. And to worry about who will take on this responsibility once you are gone. It is exhausting to never feel like you can relax, take a nap, etc. without having a second person around. When I was in the bathroom my husband was supposed to be keeping watch over her, but he fell asleep on the couch. When I leave a room, I announce it so he knows he is in charge of keeping track of her. It is like having a toddler for life. I have nothing but sympathy for these people. I don't know how I could go on if something happened to my little girl.

I feel for you. I wonder if a door chime thing at the top of your doors like some corner stores have could help once she learns how to undo the chains on the doors?
 
  • #119
I feel for you. I wonder if a door chime thing at the top of your doors like some corner stores have could help once she learns how to undo the chains on the doors?

That is definitely another line of defense. When we go to crowded places (we are just now doing this sort of thing) we have The Tile, so I can see where she is on a map if she goes missing. I pin it on her clothing so it isn't on something easily removable like her shoes or a back pack. I also recently got basically child handcuffs (padded wrist bands with a bungee cord in the middle) to tether us together. We are going on our first flight with her in a few weeks and no way am I chasing her all over an airport.

God bless this family in their sorrow.
 
  • #120
I know this doesn't cover or help this case, but LE is very specific about when help can and should show up for a reason. We have to keep track of y'all, and if you sprain an ankle in the middle of the night then we have to look for you too. It divides the available resources that should be finding the child. First responders searched all night for Shalom, and asked for volunteers at a time when they could be organized and tracked as not to add confusion and burden to the responders focused on finding him. I think we overlook the logistics in finding the missing. It is emotional and I do get that. Jmo. Not involved with this specific case.


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