I'd love to participate in the trial discussion this evening but owe DH some quality time. Two things that came to mind as I listened to Jodi's testimony that I'd like to share. Having dealt with a family member who was diagnosed with schizo-affective disorder and BPD, there were some behaviors of Jodi that hit home.
When Jodi told JM that she was bothered by his posture, tone, and anger, I recalled how my sister used to convene family meetings so that she could tell us (all adults) how we should treat her. This is typical of borderlines - the rest of the world has to abide by their rules and never say or do anything that the borderline does not like or cannot tolerate. This is best described by family members and/or anyone who comes in contact with the borderline as "walking on eggshells", and, trust me, it's not pretty.
Jodi is extremely judgmental of other people and does not see her own shortcomings, weaknesses, faults. I think that it's safe to say that Jodi was likely a tattletale at a very young age and was always reporting the (perceived) bad behaviors of others in an attempt to get them in trouble with parents, teachers, etc. My sister started doing this when she was about five and even made up tall tales to get siblings and classmates in trouble. Unfortunately, as the baby of the family, she was favored (especially by our mother) and usually succeeded in accomplishing what she set out to do.
Thankfully, my sister (now 56) responded well to medications and therapy and no longer displays many of her earlier behaviors, but it took many years and caused tremendous stress for our family. I doubt that Jodi would benefit from treatment because she is far too set in her ways and does not think that she needs to change. Jodi wants everyone to adapt to the "world according to Jodi". :moo: