We've heard that JA was violent as a teenager, kicking the dog (in all likelihood killing it), kicking her mother for no reason, hitting her little brother over the head with a baseball bat etc. The signs were there that she was a very troubled kid and needed some sort of intervention but we've not heard that the mother or father did anything at that point in time.
So as far as her mother/father are concerned, I have no sympathy for them.
A friend of mine has a grandaughter who is a sociopath. the g-daughter's mother is a wonderful woman, but her kid is dangerous especially around animals if she's by herself. :what::furious: In that case, the mother enables that kid, she doesn't do anything because she's afraid to rock the boat. Or make life more difficult for herself. Meanwhile, the kid is in need of serious help.
The mother you're talking about may very well be a wonderful woman who just missed the signs of trouble in her kid, or was in denial (happens a lot, nobody wants to believe their kid needs help right?).:twocents: