Found Deceased MA - Jaimee Mendez, 25, Swampscott, 6 Nov 2014 - #1 *Arrest*

[sunflowerchick]

sorry, forget to link it to the post, will correct that but here it is about less than 20 posts back
http://www.websleuths.com/forums/sh...scott-6-November-2014&p=11206919#post11206919

From that link my concern about the level of accusation toward JF is confirmed. Here is why...

1. It states that he was charged with indecent assault and battery after a woman told them she was "raped at knifepoint". Charged not convicted. "The alleged victim "told doctors" (not LE) that she was "raped at knifepoint."
2. Another woman "sought help from the courts". No charges or conviction.
3. Another woman saying he had attacked her from behind. And then what? Again no charges or conviction.
4. The last incident was almost 10 years ago I think. I like to think that people can be rehabilitated, that they can change. Is it possible that he may have tried to turn things around since then?

I think we should be very careful about judging someone's past in relation to something this serious, especially when all indications by LE indicate that he has been cooperating with them. Who are we to question LE?

 

[FindHG]

Who are we to question LE?

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Sleuthers

 

[AudlyEnough]

There are various reasons that a woman wouldn't follow through with pressing charges, with fear of retribution from her attacker at the top of that list. This idea that women falsely accuse men of crimes on a regular basis is rooted in a culture that is deeply distrustful & dismissive of women.

 

[FindHG]

There are various reasons that a woman wouldn't follow through with pressing charges, with fear of retribution from her attacker at the top of that list. This idea that women falsely accuse men of crimes on a regular basis is rooted in a culture that is deeply distrustful & dismissive of women.

Jaimee Mendez is missing, a mother, with a tight family, a son, and she has been besmirch in all kinds of ways to diminish her humanity. Indeed, somebody on this very thread announced their lack of compassion for dealers. So, he may know who to pick on, how to cover himself in circumstance and compromise, I would think, with so many dismissals. If you can distance yourself from a victim it is easier to have sympathy for a devil.

 

[Ontario Mom]

Jaimee Mendez is missing, a mother, with a tight family, a son, and they've been able to besmirch her in all kinds of ways to diminish her humanity.

I don't know who this "they" is you're referring to here but you honestly haven't been very kind towards several people on this very thread who disagree with your theories when I believe we're all here for the very same reason and all hope for the very best outcome in this case.

I know we're not supposed to get into it with one another like this on here but I just had to say that. I believe EVERYONE here wants the very best for Jaimee and her son, and family. Just because we don't all agree who's really behind her disappearance doesn't mean anyone thinks less of this young woman or that anyone cares about her less. No matter her lifestyle or lack of lifestyle, she nor anyone else deserves to have a crime committed against her.

I also haven't seen anyone here express "sympathy for the devil". In fact, I think everyone who's expressed reservation on a rush to judgement on this sketch bag, has clearly admitted what they think of him but also HONESTLY admitted just because he is who he is, doesn't automatically mean HE is the one who is directly responsible for Jaimee's disappearance. He hasn't even been named a suspect yet by LE yet we're all just supposed to throw him under the bus because he was the last person Jaimee's family knew her to be with and he's got a creepy criminal past? No, that's not being fair.

IF and/or when LE names him as a suspect then so be it. Until then, I'm not even sure why he's been allowed to be sleuthed here since I've always understood that to be off-limits, when LE haven't named him as a suspect. Maybe I misunderstood the rules on that.

Anyway, MOO and all that.

 

[Ontario Mom]

There are various reasons that a woman wouldn't follow through with pressing charges, with fear of retribution from her attacker at the top of that list. This idea that women falsely accuse men of crimes on a regular basis is rooted in a culture that is deeply distrustful & dismissive of women.

While I definitely agree with the first part of your statement, I respectfully disagree with the last part. It is a fact that women do (how often, I can't say) falsely accuse men of sexual crimes against them or others. This is not rooted in anything but fact that is proven in a court of law. I know of two cases of this myself - both dismissed in a court of law as proven false. One even later admitted she lied, looking to collect a hefty monetary award, after she did the same thing to another man and was herself arrested for it.

And for the record, men also falsely accuse women of awful things as well. It all depends on what the end goal is for the person making the accusation. People lie about things for personal gain without any consideration of the character or reputation of the person they're falsely accusing. It happens.

 

[hockeymom4]

While I definitely agree with the first part of your statement, I respectfully disagree with the last part. It is a fact that women do (how often, I can't say) falsely accuse men of sexual crimes against them or others. This is not rooted in anything but fact that is proven in a court of law. I know of two cases of this myself - both dismissed in a court of law as proven false. One even later admitted she lied, looking to collect a hefty monetary award, after she did the same thing to another man and was herself arrested for it.

And for the record, men also falsely accuse women of awful things as well. It all depends on what the end goal is for the person making the accusation. People lie about things for personal gain without any consideration of the character or reputation of the person they're falsely accusing. It happens.

I agree with you. This case broke my heart.

http://espn.go.com/los-angeles/ncf/...sc-trojans-recruit-exonerated-rape-conviction

 

[AudlyEnough]

Jaimee Mendez is missing, a mother, with a tight family, a son, and they've been able to besmirch her in all kinds of ways to diminish her humanity. Indeed, somebody on this very thread announced their lack of compassion for dealers. So he may know who to pick on, how to cover himself in circumstance and compromise, I would think, with so many dismissals. To say what else could be the cause, well, I'll say something else. If you can distance yourself from a victim it is easier to have sympathy for a devil.

Regarding the defense of this sex offender based on the lack of convictions, I must say that I am not surprised that he hasn't been convicted of all of the crimes of which he's been accused. In addition to the very likely possibility that his accusers were terrified of him, it helps to remember that victims often are treated as suspects from the moment they report to LE, so it makes sense that many end up withdrawing charges rather than be traumatized all over again.

Regarding this particular case, the apparent evidence against him could all turn out to be coincidental, but at this point, it seems premature to dismiss the possibility (or even probability) of his involvement. That's my take, at least, for what it's worth.

 

[AudlyEnough]

While I definitely agree with the first part of your statement, I respectfully disagree with the last part. It is a fact that women do (how often, I can't say) falsely accuse men of sexual crimes against them or others. This is not rooted in anything but fact that is proven in a court of law. I know of two cases of this myself - both dismissed in a court of law as proven false. One even later admitted she lied, looking to collect a hefty monetary award, after she did the same thing to another man and was herself arrested for it.

And for the record, men also falsely accuse women of awful things as well. It all depends on what the end goal is for the person making the accusation. People lie about things for personal gain without any consideration of the character or reputation of the person they're falsely accusing. It happens.

Oh, I didn't mean that it doesn't happen, just not very often. As a sexual abuse survivor, I know how hard it is not to blame myself for what happened to me, and I know many, MANY other survivors who feel the exact same way. We don't want to reveal our shame to anyone, so the idea of making up a lie about sexual abuse/rape is utterly abhorrent.

 

[FindHG]

Regarding the defense of this sex offender based on the lack of convictions, I must say that I am not surprised that he hasn't been convicted of all of the crimes of which he's been accused. In addition to the very likely possibility that his accusers were terrified of him, it helps to remember that victims often are treated as suspects from the moment they report to LE, so it makes sense that many end up withdrawing charges rather than be traumatized all over again.

Regarding this particular case, the apparent evidence against him could all turn out to be coincidental, but at this point, it seems premature to dismiss the possibility (or even probability) of his involvement. That's my take, at least, for what it's worth.

I agree completely.

 

[Ontario Mom]

No doubt about it, this person seems very scary and I completely understand why accusations would be make but charges never pressed. Especially considering his lifestyle (by his own confession he's involved in the drug culture). That lifestyle brings with it a whole new calibre of people, men AND women who will do awful things. Sad, but true.

 

[FindHG]

Oh, I didn't mean that it doesn't happen, just not very often. As a sexual abuse survivor, I know how hard it is not to blame myself for what happened to me, and I know many, MANY other survivors who feel the exact same way. We don't want to reveal our shame to anyone, so the idea of making up a lie about sexual abuse/rape is utterly abhorrent.

That's horrible that you went through that. Thank you for so bravely sharing your experience. I really appreciate your courage in telling us and admire your obvious strength in getting through it. Anything I say would be hollow to the gravity of your experience.

 

[Lulu14]

Jaimee Mendez is missing, a mother, with a tight family, a son, and she has been besmirch in all kinds of ways to diminish her humanity. Indeed, somebody on this very thread announced their lack of compassion for dealers. So, he may know who to pick on, how to cover himself in circumstance and compromise, I would think, with so many dismissals. If you can distance yourself from a victim it is easier to have sympathy for a devil.

Do you have compassion for drug dealers? Really?

 

[LLC]

Oh, I didn't mean that it doesn't happen, just not very often. As a sexual abuse survivor, I know how hard it is not to blame myself for what happened to me, and I know many, MANY other survivors who feel the exact same way. We don't want to reveal our shame to anyone, so the idea of making up a lie about sexual abuse/rape is utterly abhorrent.

Disclaimer: JMO, not in reference to this direct case.

I was also a victim of childhood sexual abuse for many years. I testified in his trial & he went to prison. Regardless, many women can & do lie about abuse/rape. Happens all the time.

 

[wdmcmahan]

I just started reading this thread today and am now to the end of it. Also, I'm new here, so please keep that in consideration...
I feel like it is very important to contemplatell everyone's unique opinions and theories here. Whether or not someone has compassion for drug dealers/abusers or believes in the possibility of reform of RSO's is irrelevant. Being of narrow mind will not help to bring Jaimee home.

A few of my thoughts so far...
Is it possible that Jaimee was suffering from paranoia, due to drug use or diabetic shock, when she allegedly called her friends claiming to be in an uncomfortable situation with "this guy"?

If and when the friend went to pick Jaimee up at her request, was she really not there? Did anyone answer the door at all? Who was it? Did the friend actually go inside and see for himself that Jaimee wasn't there? (If the location was in fact a residence at all... maybe she asked to be picked up at some other location?)

Like I said, I'm very new to this, so please bear with me as I learn!

 

[Ontario Mom]

I just started reading this thread today and am now to the end of it. Also, I'm new here, so please keep that in consideration...
I feel like it is very important to contemplatell everyone's unique opinions and theories here. Whether or not someone has compassion for drug dealers/abusers or believes in the possibility of reform of RSO's is irrelevant. Being of narrow mind will not help to bring Jaimee home.

A few of my thoughts so far...
Is it possible that Jaimee was suffering from paranoia, due to drug use or diabetic shock, when she allegedly called her friends claiming to be in an uncomfortable situation with "this guy"?

If and when the friend went to pick Jaimee up at her request, was she really not there? Did anyone answer the door at all? Who was it? Did the friend actually go inside and see for himself that Jaimee wasn't there? (If the location was in fact a residence at all... maybe she asked to be picked up at some other location?)

Like I said, I'm very new to this, so please bear with me as I learn!

Welcome Kudos for reading all the way from the beginning. Often when I do that I get more confused the further I go.

I'm not sure if it's even been mentioned if Jaimee is insulin dependent. Not all diabetics are, as some control it with diet. If she is, then I'm not sure how long it had been from her last injection until the night she went missing, or if diabetic shock would even be a factor at that point? Can heroin use cause diabetic shock? Did she even use, or was she just the go-between as JF suggested in his interview? SO many unknowns in this case. If she was a known drug user I don't believe her family has offered that info and if she was, it's really important to have full disclosure.

As for the male friend who was supposedly called to pick her up, I've heard two very different versions of this. One, he was called to the residence of JF, but she wasn't there. No mention of whether the friend went to the door, who answered, or anything like that. The other version is that they agreed on a place to meet and when the male friend arrived she never showed up. That "place to meet" could have also been JF's residence, but the msm articles I'd read didn't say that.

Another thing is, some msm articles are saying his mom (JF's mom) said he came home for dinner that night, while other msm articles were saying he lived with his aunt & uncle. So, which is it? Meanwhile, JF himself says he went home and "fried his brain" after his drug score. Was that before, or after dinner, with his mom, aunt or uncle?

SO much conflicting info in this case it's really hard to keep it all straight.

 

[wdmcmahan]

This article: Family: Missing Mother in Massachusetts Last Seen With Sex Offender states that Jaimee suffers from type 1 diabetes and is insulin dependent.

Here is some info on Type 1 diabetes: Diabetes and Its Main Types - Free Essay Example | PapersOwl.com


Also, here is a very informative article on the effects of street drug use in Diabetes. According to the article, street drug use can cause a lot of variables in a Diabetic person. I want to be clear that I am not saying this was the case in Jaimee's situation, but that all avenues that anyone can possibly come up with need to be explored.
[edited to fulfill request to change the link from the diabetes website]

 

[wdmcmahan]

http://diabeteshealth.com/read/2008...-with-diabetes-should-know-before-they-party/

Sorry... for some reason the link for street drug use in diabetics didn't post. That's what I get for doing this from my phone!

 

[AudlyEnough]

Disclaimer: JMO, not in reference to this direct case.

I was also a victim of childhood sexual abuse for many years. I testified in his trial & he went to prison. Regardless, many women can & do lie about abuse/rape. Happens all the time.

No. I do not believe that many women lie about rape/sexual abuse all of the time. I know that women are often accused of such in our misogynistic society, but that does not make it so.

 

[FindHG]

"He said a scratch on his face resulted from his job as a trash collector, and he showed a reporter scars from prior scrapes on his face and hands which he also attributed to his job."

http://www.itemlive.com/news/item-e...cle_22422f0e-6b8a-11e4-ab28-139fce571f81.html

There are four sanitation companies in Salem. It isn't yet known where he worked? Where he may have had commercial fishing jobs? I wonder if he's currently employed, where he may be living now? Don't sex offender have to register?