MN - Beau Shroyer, Wife of Detroit Lakes missionary killed in Angola arrested in connection to his death

For the good of the order, I wanted to find that IG photo of the security guard joining in the “fun” at the Shroyer household. I thought I’d re-post it, but now I can’t find it. Anyone?
The photo was with a different security guard (Raphael). But in the post Jackie mentions that they had 2 security guards and they were both like family. I presume that the 'other' security guard was Bernardino, but I don't know that for sure. For all we know they might have had later guards who also became 'close'.

Here is a link to her post:

(ETA: I haven't posted the image here since the kids are in the photo and I don't want to post their photos on a public forum. You have to have to replace the "x" with a "c" to change the domain to .com)
 
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Some more details about their past and early life......
But then again, imo, "testimonies" are always about straying and finding the path to salvation.
From your link ...

Five-day fights. Imagine that. What turmoil and disruption that would be for going to work and interacting with the children! The fights stopped when she had an epiphany about Jesus; something where he's not included.

She made him jealous by telling him that she had a private relationship with a man named Jesus, referencing the bible and jealousy. That's nuts! It sounds like the decision to do missionary work was almost a throuple between them and who was closer to Jesus.

"Beau Shroyer: "... described being born to teenage parents and experiencing a lot of instability during his early years with a loneliness that haunted him throughout his life before he knew Jesus."

Wife said: “I'm now at home with our two youngest children who are only a year apart. Obviously, that [party] life is done for me. I've moved on beyond that and I just remember feeling really alone and sad and lost again,” she recalled. “I know that my husband loves me, and I have a great family, but I still just had this empty feeling of loneliness, and I didn't even really pray to God or anything like that.” ...

Beau: "I started to realize that when I would do not smart things in a marriage that would normally make her angry and would get in this five-day long fight ...” Beau Shroyer said. ...

And that’s when Beau Shroyer said his wife told him about her newfound relationship with Jesus which made him jealous. ...

Beau Shroyer: " ... went on a journey to learn more about Jesus and became more active in his church before eventually deciding to do missionary work overseas for the first time."​

 
Thinking more about the kids. Are there relatives who will take them? Detroit Lakes is a small town, about 9,000 people, and I'm sure the story has circulated. Might be a tough place for them.
And I think the two older girls have boyfriends in Angola. I'm guessing they are leaning on them. Imagine that your Dad has been murdered and your mother and a family friend are charged. How must these kids be feeling? I wonder if the two older teenage children might have a different focus than the younger kids.
I can't imagine what each of them is going through.
Jackie's mom is in Angola. I hope they have a close and loving relationship with her.
Are Beau's parents out of the picture? I'm presuming they must be.
 
The photo was with a different security guard (Raphael). But in the post Jackie mentions that they had 2 security guards and they were both like family. I presume that the 'other' security guard was Bernardino, but I don't know that for sure. For all we know they might have had later guards who also became 'close'.

Here is a link to her post:

(ETA: I haven't posted the image here since the kids are in the photo and I don't want to post their photos on a public forum. You have to have to replace the "x" with a "c" to change the domain to .com)

In an earlier post, I commented many of Jackie's IG posts have a distinct self-aggrandizing tone to them. The linked post you point too is one of them.

Meet one of our two guards, Rafael. It is not typical here to treat guards like family but we just couldn't help but love them and bring them into our fun. We have been to their homes and met their families and make sure that they are all well taken care of. Because that's what Jesus would do.

Today Rafael asked to take a picture with our kids, holding his dinner we gave him. We printed it out for him and he was so overjoyed as he showed everyone who walked by. "This is my American white family!"
 
And I think the two older girls have boyfriends in Angola. I'm guessing they are leaning on them. Imagine that your Dad has been murdered and your mother and a family friend are charged. How must these kids be feeling? I wonder if the two older teenage children might have a different focus than the younger kids.
I can't imagine what each of them is going through.
Jackie's mom is in Angola. I hope they have a close and loving relationship with her.
Are Beau's parents out of the picture? I'm presuming they must be.
I linked upthread that he was raised by uncommitted teenage parents, and did not have a sense of direction until he became jealous of his wife's religious love of Jesus ... so he quit his job, uprooted his family, and landed in a life that included private security. What a luxury, until private security starts hanging out in the house with family and then murders.
 
I linked upthread that he was raised by uncommitted teenage parents, and did not have a sense of direction until he became jealous of his wife's religious love of Jesus ... so he quit his job, uprooted his family, and landed in a life that included private security. What a luxury, until private security starts hanging out in the house with family and then murders.
Private security in some countries is essential. It is not at all a luxury. Even Peace Corps volunteers have servants/protectors in some countries.
However, the nightwatchman doesn't hang out in the domestic arena. He's supposed to be protecting the premises!
 
In an earlier post, I commented many of Jackie's IG posts have a distinct self-aggrandizing tone to them. The linked post you point too is one of them.

Meet one of our two guards, Rafael. It is not typical here to treat guards like family but we just couldn't help but love them and bring them into our fun. We have been to their homes and met their families and make sure that they are all well taken care of. Because that's what Jesus would do.

Today Rafael asked to take a picture with our kids, holding his dinner we gave him. We printed it out for him and he was so overjoyed as he showed everyone who walked by. "This is my American white family!"

This makes me so uncomfortable reading this. It’s just so cringey white saviour. MOO
 
I just read your source, and I cant find the reference to 54%. Could you paste it?
It's in a section towards the bottom of the article.

How well do immigrants speak English?
About half of immigrants ages 5 and older (54%) are proficient English speakers – they either speak English very well (37%) or speak only English at home (17%).

Immigrants from Canada (97%), Oceania (82%), sub-Saharan Africa (76%), Europe (75%) and South Asia (73%) have the highest rates of English proficiency.

Immigrants from Mexico (36%) and Central America (35%) have the lowest proficiency rates.
 
In an earlier post, I commented many of Jackie's IG posts have a distinct self-aggrandizing tone to them. The linked post you point too is one of them.

Meet one of our two guards, Rafael. It is not typical here to treat guards like family but we just couldn't help but love them and bring them into our fun. We have been to their homes and met their families and make sure that they are all well taken care of. Because that's what Jesus would do.

Color me more missionary friendly maroon, but dont see a self aggrandizing tone.

But.... going from Detroit Lakes, Minnesota to "How do we treat the hired help" can be a little heady. The constant references to Jesus is part of the local "patois" for missionaries.

In the end, Africa can be very olde school regarding ideas of inherently superior social classes, what jobs are uhmm....."better suited"- wink, nod for certain tribes or subgroups, and..... what tribes do, or do not, truly "belong" in what areas.

Africans can have finely tuned radars for physical differences between tribes. I could not help but quietly chuckle that some were willing to casually give me pointers on what to look for as all should be "in the know"- right?

Noting accent differences between social classes, what tribe speaks what dialect of the larger native languages, what native language is associated with what tribe, who is likely Muslim or Christian (not all Muslims in Africa dress Islamic- and plenty of African Christians dress nearly Islamic)- then applying stereotypes can be common.

In short.... Africans should not be stereotyped (Must be ignorant and in need of Missionary driven "enlightenment"). Nor, should Africans be romanticized. A certain number have "racist" attitudes right out of 1940s Mississippi.
 
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Have you been to Africa? I’ve traveled extensively throughout North Africa (and Ghana), as a woman, and have had no issues making “friends” with the street kids. I’ve taken kids out to eat, had them wander the city with me, etc. I hate when people paint pictures of Africa that just simply aren’t true.
The "street kids" Jackie Shroyer befriended, at least in that one photo we have all seen, were conveniently all boys.
 
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This makes me so uncomfortable reading this. It’s just so cringey white saviour. MOO
Africans can be very olde school regarding ideas of inherently superior social classes and what tribe, or subgroup is uhhmm.... "best suited"- wink, nod to do what kind of work.

Thus, their observation about usually distinct differences in Africa between servants and employers is likely very true. In the end, Africans should not be stereotyped (in need of "white saviors"). Nor, should they be socially romanticized.

Olde school views about superior groups, superior social classes, who traditionally does what work, and who truly belongs where can be common.

I could not help but chuckle (quietly) when local Africans thought they were doing me a favor by giving me pointers on what to look for physically regarding local groups- and what characteristics could be attributed to them.
 
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No, I don’t mean simply by being a missionary in a foreign country.
Not by any means.
I mean by raising and educating five children who appear to be healthy/happy / thriving.
Being a good mother is certainly selfless.
I mean by following her husband on a dangerous mission that proved fatal for him. Maybe something he felt called to do.
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Thank you for responding.
I still don't agree with the conclusions you've come to, so I didn't uptick your post.

However, each to her own opinion.

MOO
 

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