Mom sells teen's car after finding alcohol

[Indy Gal]

Bribery works, too, in case you just can't punish. :blowkiss:

I recall my daughter at three years old riding a little merry go round in the mall with several other kids. Moms were yelling at their kids to get in the strollers, grabbing them by their arms while the kids yelled, time to go - wah! I looked at Donna and said "Time to go, kiddo!" She looked me square in the eye and said "Bribe me."

I did. I said "There is a chocolate shop at the other end of the mall." She got off the horse and into her stroller and we left without a tear for either one of us. The other moms looked at me like I was a terrible Mom, but I'll bet I had a better time shopping than they did.

I have a feeling this will be me. I had very stricked parents growing up and just hated it. Heck I couldnt even go to a nice place to see concerts but was allowed at one close to home and guess what, there was prob more drugs and booze there then the place I wasnt allowed. LOL

 

[pedinurse]

Pedinurse I laughed when I read your post about how her selling the car was like punishing herself as well (not a direct quote)
Disciplining children Is ALWAYS like punishing yourself .

LOL you're right... even when I have to "punish" my 18 month old by putting him in time out, I hate to make him cry!! I can't wait to go back and grab him back up!!

 

[ljwf22]

Here's a link to Good Morning, America. Mom and son were on this morning: http://www.abcnews.go.com/GMA/NewYearNewYou/Story?id=4113886&page=1

 

[Paladin]

While for the most part I was a very good kid, I also made my share of foolish decisions. Like the time I thought it would be a great idea to have a party while my parents were out of the country. Not only were things stolen from my home, but I also got in a lot of trouble with my parents, the police and school. I never for one second THOUGHT ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES. When I fessed up to my Dad, he was so hurt that I didn't have any respect for him and didn't think about what would happen if someone got hurt or found his gun. He sat me down and showed me stories about parents who lost everything because of their child's choices. I will never, ever forget that lesson.

I was in almost the exact same situation. It was the first time I made my dad cry, and I hated myself for that.

 

[pedinurse]

she says she never wanted to gain attention by placing the advertisement...
well to that I say - whatever!!
she is keeping the ad up another week just to "receive feedback!"

 

[BarnGoddess]

she says she never wanted to gain attention by placing the advertisement...
well to that I say - whatever!!
she is keeping the ad up another week just to "receive feedback!"

In my post on page 2, I mentioned that I applauded this mom for her tough love. I want to clarify that position:

My youngest son became a crack addict at 18. He and his friends stole a car and tried to sell it to an undercover cop. Big trouble. Fortunately he was sentenced to a year in drug rehab, a very intense program. We also had to attend Families Anonymous. I learned tough love and how to say NO and stick with it. Before his 2nd appearance before the judge, he was sentenced to only 30 days in treatment. It didn't work. He was back on crack and stealing money from my account with my ex's ATM card. When I found out, I literally kicked him out in the middle of the night. I called the courts and told him he was no longer in my custody. I stuck with my decision and I believe I saved his life. He is now almost 40 and a responsible, hardworking citizen.

Again, good for mom.

 

[JDB]

In my post on page 2, I mentioned that I applauded this mom for her tough love. I want to clarify that position:

My youngest son became a crack addict at 18. He and his friends stole a car and tried to sell it to an undercover cop. Big trouble. Fortunately he was sentenced to a year in drug rehab, a very intense program. We also had to attend Families Anonymous. I learned tough love and how to say NO and stick with it. Before his 2nd appearance before the judge, he was sentenced to only 30 days in treatment. It didn't work. He was back on crack and stealing money from my account with my ex's ATM card. When I found out, I literally kicked him out in the middle of the night. I called the courts and told him he was no longer in my custody. I stuck with my decision and I believe I saved his life. He is now almost 40 and a responsible, hardworking citizen.

Again, good for mom.

BG I too had to use Tough Love on my Wife's oldest when he was about that age.Harder then Heck to do. Wife and I almost split up because I was not going to back down. She finally told him get out and don't even call till you clean your life up.I know it saved his live. He is now working as a Missionary in the Honduras and is 41.

 

[Indy Gal]

Good for you BG!!!

 

[GlitchWizard]

I have a feeling this will be me. I had very stricked parents growing up and just hated it. Heck I couldnt even go to a nice place to see concerts but was allowed at one close to home and guess what, there was prob more drugs and booze there then the place I wasnt allowed. LOL

My Mom was like that too. If you're going to misbehave, it's going to happen regardless of where you are, or are not allowed to go.

 

[Indy Gal]

Reading your stories here I only hope I can be as good of a parent as some here!!

 

[Amraann]

Reading your stories here I only hope I can be as good of a parent as some here!!

Its a learning process Indy.
You kind of grow and learn with them.

 

[jblfelines]

Forgive me if this has already been mentioned and I missed it, but was the car registered to his parents? I think what a lot of young people fail to understand is that if their car is registered to their parents, their parents are liable. If he got into an accident and an open container was in the car, his parents could lose everything - their house, their jobs, etc.

While for the most part I was a very good kid, I also made my share of foolish decisions. Like the time I thought it would be a great idea to have a party while my parents were out of the country. Not only were things stolen from my home, but I also got in a lot of trouble with my parents, the police and school. I never for one second THOUGHT ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES. When I fessed up to my Dad, he was so hurt that I didn't have any respect for him and didn't think about what would happen if someone got hurt or found his gun. He sat me down and showed me stories about parents who lost everything because of their child's choices. I will never, ever forget that lesson.

You are so right. Parents can loose everything they worked hard for. When I read the story I thought Mom did the right thing. She is keeping her son alive and protecting her assets. Great thinking. Her example may help other Moms protect their kids and assets.

 

[Taximom]

ljwf, thanks for the video link. I was hoping to hear about the alcohol but they didn't even address that part.

 

[IndyLaw]

OH I just re read your post and see you are saying Ill not WI. At one point they changed the drnking age in ILL to 18-20 yo's could drink beer and wine but no hard alcohol. That was in the 70's also.

ETA: all the kids driving over the border to drink from ILL to WI was one of the big reasons they raised it up again. It was a real hazard. So now they have lowered again?

Yep, I remember this like it was yesterday! You had to be 19 for beer and wine in Illinois. It started in 1973 or 1974 as I recall. As expected it turned out to be a bad idea and the legal age went to 21 at about the same time I turned 21 in 1976. We noticed a great number of Indiana kids in the Illinois bars at about that time.

 

[Jules]

OH I just re read your post and see you are saying Ill not WI. At one point they changed the drnking age in ILL to 18-20 yo's could drink beer and wine but no hard alcohol. That was in the 70's also.

ETA: all the kids driving over the border to drink from ILL to WI was one of the big reasons they raised it up again. It was a real hazard. So now they have lowered again?

My parents property line was the state line between IL and WI about 20 miles west of Lake Michegan. We ALWAYS drove across the line to drink. :silenced: Heck, I could ride my horse on the other side of our fence and drink.

Ohhhhhh... the memories. Hadn't thought about that in years. Gosh, we had fun back then. :innocent:

Okay, I should probably not post this on this thread. :silenced:

 

[KansasCutie]

she says she never wanted to gain attention by placing the advertisement...
well to that I say - whatever!!
she is keeping the ad up another week just to "receive feedback!"

hahaha i know!

is this her real son? They look nothing alike.

 

[GlitchWizard]

Reading your stories here I only hope I can be as good of a parent as some here!!

If you're worried about it, and do your best - I'm sure you'll be awesome.

Lots of people will tell you how to raise your kid - but it's FAR better to make your OWN mistakes, than to listen to someone else and make THEIR mistakes with YOUR kid.

 

[lymom3]

My parents property line was the state line between IL and WI about 20 miles west of Lake Michegan. We ALWAYS drove across the line to drink. :silenced: Heck, I could ride my horse on the other side of our fence and drink.

Ohhhhhh... the memories. Hadn't thought about that in years. Gosh, we had fun back then. :innocent:

Okay, I should probably not post this on this thread. :silenced:

I was about 20 miles from the WI / IL border in my bad girl years. Beloit was quite the party place back in the day. My mom was smart enough to not let me drive her car or get me a car.

 

[JBean]

Yep, I remember this like it was yesterday! You had to be 19 for beer and wine in Illinois. It started in 1973 or 1974 as I recall. As expected it turned out to be a bad idea and the legal age went to 21 at about the same time I turned 21 in 1976. We noticed a great number of Indiana kids in the Illinois bars at about that time.

My parents property line was the state line between IL and WI about 20 miles west of Lake Michegan. We ALWAYS drove across the line to drink. :silenced: Heck, I could ride my horse on the other side of our fence and drink.

Ohhhhhh... the memories. Hadn't thought about that in years. Gosh, we had fun back then. :innocent:

Okay, I should probably not post this on this thread. :silenced:

I was about 20 miles from the WI / IL border in my bad girl years. Beloit was quite the party place back in the day. My mom was smart enough to not let me drive her car or get me a car.

I am surprised we didn't run intio each other. Figuratively AND literally.

When I think back on the hoards of drunk kids driving back from the bars in WI, it is frightening.

 

[Indy Gal]

If you're worried about it, and do your best - I'm sure you'll be awesome.

Lots of people will tell you how to raise your kid - but it's FAR better to make your OWN mistakes, than to listen to someone else and make THEIR mistakes with YOUR kid.

Thanks

Funny thing is everyone is already telling us how we should raise the kid...LOL I just smile and nod and know that I am the one who really in the end decide.