Mom sells teen's car after finding alcohol

[Taximom]

Hmm:
Jane: My son is the world’s most awesome kid. He’s a good student. I never had any trouble with him. Usually, he’s the designated driver when he goes out.

Well, cancel what I said before about him possibly pushing the limits. Sounds like he's normally a good kid.

 

[JanetElaine]

Well, cancel what I said before about him possibly pushing the limits. Sounds like he's normally a good kid.

Which is probably exactly why she noticed something was up....

 

[Rino]

Back to this situation, the mother and the son had an agreement. He broke his end of the promise, so he had to suffer the consequences.
It doesn't matter if anyone thinks it's too harsh, he agreed to it.

Bingo.

A bit off topic - my kids 20, 19 and 15 all agree with mom. In a home where the rules mean something it should be no surprise to this kid that when he got caught he would have to pay up.

 

[Indy Gal]

Hmm:
Jane: My son is the world’s most awesome kid. He’s a good student. I never had any trouble with him. Usually, he’s the designated driver when he goes out.

Well, cancel what I said before about him possibly pushing the limits. Sounds like he's normally a good kid.

Thats what got me taxi, Sounds as if he really wasnt a bad kid. Plus I wonder if he hangs out with an older crowd as she says he is the DD most of the time. Or does she know that the underage kids drink? I would think if my dad who was a PO all my life would have done the same thing to me if I was caught with booze in my car. Thank goodness I didnt.

 

[Indy Gal]

Bingo.

A bit off topic - my kids 20, 19 and 15 all agree with mom. In a home where the rules mean something it should be no surprise to this kid that when he got caught he would have to pay up.

Wow rino sounds like you have done a GREAT job raising them. I wouldnt think kids that young would agree. GREAT JOB TO YOU!:clap:

 

[Amraann]

I have stayed quiet throughout this thread (mostly because my internet sucks lately and with WS having problems its hard to post or an exercise in patience I do not have


That all being said ... its irrelivant if he lives at home or not.. I am guessing he was home for T day when they bought the car and then again for the Winter/X-mas break when he got caught.

It does not matter if the alcohol was in the trunk or car open or not... He is underage and had a clear understanding with his mother.
She bought the car and most likely is paying for his college and other expenses .. therefore he needs to still follow her rules.
If he does not like those rules then at 19 he is legally old enough to support his own damn self.

Why would his mother have to drive him to classes now?? He is old enough to figure it out himself.

Pedinurse I laughed when I read your post about how her selling the car was like punishing herself as well (not a direct quote)
Disciplining children Is ALWAYS like punishing yourself .

 

[Indy Gal]

Disciplining children Is ALWAYS like punishing yourself .

Please dont say that I have told the BF I dont know if I am strong enough to be the bad guy when baby needs it. Bad I know

 

[Pharlap]

I have stayed quiet throughout this thread (mostly because my internet sucks lately and with WS having problems its hard to post or an exercise in patience I do not have


That all being said ... its irrelivant if he lives at home or not.. I am guessing he was home for T day when they bought the car and then again for the Winter/X-mas break when he got caught.

It does not matter if the alcohol was in the trunk or car open or not... He is underage and had a clear understanding with his mother.
She bought the car and most likely is paying for his college and other expenses .. therefore he needs to still follow her rules.
If he does not like those rules then at 19 he is legally old enough to support his own damn self.

Why would his mother have to drive him to classes now?? He is old enough to figure it out himself.


Pedinurse I laughed when I read your post about how her selling the car was like punishing herself as well (not a direct quote)
Disciplining children Is ALWAYS like punishing yourself .

Great post.....And it's sure enough not punishing yourself.
Now she doesn't have to worry about his driving......LOVE IT...
Had 3 teen's driving at once....yes I still have some hair left....

 

[Indy Gal]

OT is it really that scary when your children start driving? Thank goodness I have oh 16 in a half years to think about it...LOL

 

[JDB]

Bingo.

A bit off topic - my kids 20, 19 and 15 all agree with mom. In a home where the rules mean something it should be no surprise to this kid that when he got caught he would have to pay up.

Rino: My 23 year old after telling him what happened said the same thing.Said the dummy broke a easy rule to follow. He got what he deserved.

 

[Rino]

Wow rino sounds like you have done a GREAT job raising them. I wouldnt think kids that young would agree. GREAT JOB TO YOU!:clap:

Thank you:blowkiss: we try.

The truth is they think the kids an idiot for getting caught, too. Do I still get a pat on the back :waitasec: ?

 

[Indy Gal]

Thank you:blowkiss: we try.

The truth is they think the kids an idiot for getting caught, too. Do I still get a pat on the back :waitasec: ?

Why yes you do:blowkiss: :laugh:

 

[Rino]

Rino: My 23 year old after telling him what happened said the same thing.Said the dummy broke a easy rule to follow. He got what he deserved.

Their logic might be skewed, but as long as they come to the right decision we're half way there :woohoo:

 

[Pharlap]

OT is it really that scary when your children start driving? Thank goodness I have oh 16 in a half years to think about it...LOL

O ya

 

[Pharlap]

OT is it really that scary when your children start driving? Thank goodness I have oh 16 in a half years to think about it...LOL

I'll give you an example.
Would you fly in an aircraft with someone that has 0-80 hrs experience?
Or someone who has 5000 hrs experience?

 

[Indy Gal]

I'll give you an example.
Would you fly in an aircraft with someone that has 0-80 hrs experience?
Or someone who has 5000 hrs experience?

Okay now I see where my parents were coming from..LOL You sure learn a lot when it is your time to be a parent

 

[Jodibug]

What a great parent. I would do the same and hope that other parents would as well.

When it comes to having alcohol in the car, especially underage, you get no second chances.

 

[JBean]

OT is it really that scary when your children start driving? Thank goodness I have oh 16 in a half years to think about it...LOL

It's not too scary if you let them drive on a permit for a year. My kids drove for so long with me before they got their licenses that when the day came it was like ...finally!
My youngest tuened 16 on the 4th, but he hasn't been driving with me for a year yet, so he is quite a ways away from getting his license.

 

[GlitchWizard]

Please dont say that I have told the BF I dont know if I am strong enough to be the bad guy when baby needs it. Bad I know

Bribery works, too, in case you just can't punish. :blowkiss:

I recall my daughter at three years old riding a little merry go round in the mall with several other kids. Moms were yelling at their kids to get in the strollers, grabbing them by their arms while the kids yelled, time to go - wah! I looked at Donna and said "Time to go, kiddo!" She looked me square in the eye and said "Bribe me."

I did. I said "There is a chocolate shop at the other end of the mall." She got off the horse and into her stroller and we left without a tear for either one of us. The other moms looked at me like I was a terrible Mom, but I'll bet I had a better time shopping than they did.

 

[Masterj]

Forgive me if this has already been mentioned and I missed it, but was the car registered to his parents? I think what a lot of young people fail to understand is that if their car is registered to their parents, their parents are liable. If he got into an accident and an open container was in the car, his parents could lose everything - their house, their jobs, etc.

While for the most part I was a very good kid, I also made my share of foolish decisions. Like the time I thought it would be a great idea to have a party while my parents were out of the country. Not only were things stolen from my home, but I also got in a lot of trouble with my parents, the police and school. I never for one second THOUGHT ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES. When I fessed up to my Dad, he was so hurt that I didn't have any respect for him and didn't think about what would happen if someone got hurt or found his gun. He sat me down and showed me stories about parents who lost everything because of their child's choices. I will never, ever forget that lesson.