Mother Accidentally Runs Over, Kills Daughter

  • #21
Pook said:
Last night, as I was trying to fall asleep, I had a had time because I was missing my bunny Norman, who's been gone these past 6 months.

And then it got me thinking of this case. To which I realize that mine doesn't even begin to compair, but if I was positively aching to hold my sweet little bunny just one more time, I can't begin to imagine how people who've lost children like this can fall asleep over the years.


_

In the town I grew up in, there was a family who had a life-size doll in their front picture window, that the outfit's were always changed for the daily weather. Legend had it that the father had backed over and killed their young daughter, and he did this out of remorse. You'd go by the house and get chills.

That's very poignant. My husband just gets hysterical if one of our dogs runs out and can't be found; whereas I'm just more fatalistic about it. We always find them.

But regarding my children, I'm the real worrier. I have to try to "contain" it so they won't be warped. There are so many threats out there, and just plain difficulties for them. Yes, I can get over an animal quickly, but if something happened to a child I'd be in the mental hospital for sure.
 
  • #22
lostfaith said:
I am shocked and saddened by the lack of compassion and judgemental thinking. Maybe she forgot to get some candy to put in her childrens stockings and ran last min. to do so. I know I was doing some last min. shopping on X-mas eve day, me bad, I guess. I am pretty sure she regrets it now. I am shocked that others are now judging and blaming this poor woman.
I agree. Unfortuntely, we hear too many stories about people backing over their children. Sometimes they are grandparents, sometimes they are fathers - who didn't, for whatever reason, see the children. It is sad. But this poor woman is judged because some feel that she has too many children - as if she had less, this would not have happened. It has happened when a person had one child.
 
  • #23
I'm not "judging" anyone. I simply made the comment that having 4 children at the young age of 24 years is "too many young children." How is that judging? I would say that to anyone who had that many children at that age. ITS TOO MANY KIDS FOR SOMEONE THAT AGE TO HANDLE. I had two children close together and when I was alone with them, I had my hands full and I was much older than this young lady. I couldn't imagine having four of them all that young at once.
 
  • #24
Here is a general information article about attempts to address this problem.
It can happen to anyone. This is about a pediartrician who backed over his child and what he is doing about it.

Standard System Sought for Vehicle Backup Safety
Feb. 28--They are a sound and a sight, says the pediatrician, that no parent should have to endure.


He says the thump sounded as if he had backed over the morning paper tossed into the driveway. But it was 9:30 at night and there was no newspaper. He recalls the horrible wash of headlights over pajamas, a clutched blanket, and a crumpled child's body.

The doctor, Greg Gulbransen, whose job is to defend and save young lives, is also a father who accidentally killed his own son. He has told the story again and again in the past 2 1/2 years, of how he lost Cameron, and how needless was the loss, a child backed over by an SUV purchased to keep the family safe on the road.
article_addisclaimer.jpg


Gulbransen, of Oyster Bay, N.Y., tells his story at the forefront of what is largely a consumer-driven push to make backup safety equipment standard on cars sold in the United States. He says that while much attention is focused on protecting children who are occupants of motor vehicles -- with child seats, air-bag avoidance, and redesigned power windows -- the federal government keeps no records of children killed in their family driveway by drivers who cannot see their tiny forms behind the rear bumper.

Most drivers do not realize that even a small sedan, such as the Honda Accord, can pose backup problems. Kids and Cars, a child advocacy safety group, offers test results that calculate the average height of a young child either standing or riding a tricycle behind a vehicle to be 28 inches.

They show that, depending on whether the driver is of average height or shorter, the child would have to be 12 to 17 feet behind the Accord before the child could be spotted through the rear window or in the mirror. A Toyota Sequoia SUV would require that the child be 15 to 25 feet back, and the large Chevrolet Avalanche pickup truck requires from 30 to 50 feet of range.

The most effective backup safety equipment, such as sensors or cameras that show what is behind a vehicle, are often standard on only the most expensive vehicles or those equipped with navigation screens that cost thousands of dollars extra.

>snip<

. And while the trade journal Automotive News reported that a 2002 NHTSA study says that more than 300 young lives were saved that year by child safety seats, a much-publicized safety initiative by Kids and Cars estimates that as many as 300 children are backed over and killed each year.

Thousands more are injured, says Janette E. Fennell, founder and president of the Kansas City-based group.

"Where's the outrage?" asks Sally Greenberg, senior product safety counsel for Consumers Union, the nonprofit publisher of Consumer Reports magazine and a group that has supplied Kids and Cars with documentation.

Greenberg says that when airbags were linked to child deaths, "the government mobilized, Congress mobilized," and systems often far more complicated than backup systems were added to automobiles to save young lives.

"We didn't really see" a spike in backover deaths "until around 2000 to 2001," says Fennell.

The turn of the millennium is when light trucks, which include SUVs, minivans, and pickup trucks, began to outsell passenger cars in the United States. And the higher and longer a vehicle, the harder it can be to see behind it.

Child deaths by backup "spike" at about 1 year of age and stay at their peak until about 23 months, according to Fennell. At that age and older, "They're just learning to walk, to open gates and barriers," she says. The children often fall victim, according to Fennell, to "bye-bye syndrome."

http://www.aiada.org/article.asp?id=34150
 
  • #25
That's just heartbreaking. Many vehicles could probably run over a child and there wouldn't even be a "bump" feeling.
 
  • #26
Marthatex said:
That's very poignant. My husband just gets hysterical if one of our dogs runs out and can't be found; whereas I'm just more fatalistic about it. We always find them.

But regarding my children, I'm the real worrier. I have to try to "contain" it so they won't be warped. There are so many threats out there, and just plain difficulties for them. Yes, I can get over an animal quickly, but if something happened to a child I'd be in the mental hospital for sure.
I hit one of our cats several years ago. Apparently he had climbed up under the car when it was in the garage. I was driving and felt a thump and saw our sweet kitty in my rear view mirror, flailing about in the road. :( :( :( I guess he fell out and I hit him. It was horrible. My kids were in the car and they were very upset. To this day, I want to cry when I think about the fact I hit my own pet. :(

To this day, I make my kids (even my 16 y.o. 6' son) stay with me in parking lots, etc. I can't tell you how many times I have seen drivers start to back up in a grocery store parking lot, and almost hit a small child! The thing that REALLY PISSES ME OFF is all the mothers I see that walk into the store ahead of their lingering children, without looking back ONCE to check on their safety. (Oftentimes, these are the moms that have a coat on, and their kid is in a T-shirt) My kids have to walk right with me, and when they were smaller, had to be carried, or hold my hand at all times in parking lots....
 
  • #27
IdahoMom said:
I hit one of our cats several years ago. Apparently he had climbed up under the car when it was in the garage. I was driving and felt a thump and saw our sweet kitty in my rear view mirror, flailing about in the road. :( :( :( I guess he fell out and I hit him. It was horrible. My kids were in the car and they were very upset. To this day, I want to cry when I think about the fact I hit my own pet. :(

To this day, I make my kids (even my 16 y.o. 6' son) stay with me in parking lots, etc. I can't tell you how many times I have seen drivers start to back up in a grocery store parking lot, and almost hit a small child! The thing that REALLY PISSES ME OFF is all the mothers I see that walk into the store ahead of their lingering children, without looking back ONCE to check on their safety. (Oftentimes, these are the moms that have a coat on, and their kid is in a T-shirt) My kids have to walk right with me, and when they were smaller, had to be carried, or hold my hand at all times in parking lots....
Oh!:furious: I agree! This makes me soooooo freaking MAD! I see it daily and I want to jump out and smack their faces. What is wrong with them!?!?! Stupid STUPID people.:mad:
 
  • #28
I was in line at Kohl's the other day. There was a woman in front of me and a woman behind me. I was in my own world and was not paying attention to either woman.

The woman in front of me had a small child with her(about 4 or 5), I didn't even know he was with her because they were no where near each other. The lady behind me assumed the child was mine and she was furious. She said who's child is this?, but looking directly at me. She said he is going to cut his hands, as he was playing in a display that had removable pieces and he was stuck in it. I just looked confused and the lady in front of me said "oh, he is fine." I could feel the blood boiling of the lady behind me.She helped the little boy get his fingers out of the holes and pieces that he was stuck in, all the while the little boy is sobbing. A few minutes later the lady behind me says,hey lady your child is running out the front door of the store! The mother says, "oh he's fine." She was actually engrossed in a converstion with the check out clerk as to whether she thought the rhinestones on the jeans she was buying would fall off in the washer!
The lady behind me and I looked at each other, scowled and at the same time we both ran to stop the child from running into the parking lot.
We brought him back to her and she was put off that we "over reacted" sheesh. What a numb noggin.
 
  • #29
Good for you, Jelly!

The other thing that gets me is parents that let their kids stand up in the seat section of their grocery cart. I say pretty loudly to the child "Watch out honey-you don't want to fall and hit your head!" I remember as a young girl seeing a toddler age boy tumble out of a grocery cart. The sound his head made when hitting the floor was horrible! :( An ambulance came and left after a time with the lights off :(. I am sure he died.
 
  • #30
IdahoMom said:
Good for you, Jelly!

The other thing that gets me is parents that let their kids stand up in the seat section of their grocery cart. I say pretty loudly to the child "Watch out honey-you don't want to fall and hit your head!" I remember as a young girl seeing a toddler age boy tumble out of a grocery cart. The sound his head made when hitting the floor was horrible! :( An ambulance came and left after a time with the lights off :(. I am sure he died.
Oh I've seen that too. I usually talk to the mom. I tell them about my friend whose child fell out of the cart and died and that they should not allow it.
I don't really know anyone that it happened to, but they usually strap them down right away.:angel:I like results.
 
  • #31
You know I'm just totally obnoxious. (I guess yall already know that) but what I mean is being a teacher and a mother I going through town just "fussing" at the mothers and the children. I don't care what they think, if I see a situation I don't like I either frown terribly or speak up and say something.
 
  • #32
Marthatex said:
You know I'm just totally obnoxious. (I guess yall already know that) but what I mean is being a teacher and a mother I going through town just "fussing" at the mothers and the children. I don't care what they think, if I see a situation I don't like I either frown terribly or speak up and say something.
I'm with you Martha.
Cripes, I'd rather have all the moms mad at me than to watch their babies get hurt!
 
  • #33
This story about the little girl is heartbreaking.

many years ago when i was 16, a truck reversed and hit me and knocked me to the ground, albeit slowly. at the time i was looking in the opposite direction and this was before trucks had those beep-beep-beep warning noises as they reversed. it was a large truck and the double wheels were continuing to come towards me while i lay there paralyised with fear and couldn't make myself roll away.

i became aware of an elderly man yelling and shouting to the driver at the top of his voice for all he was worth and running across the street to the driver's cab and just as those wheels were about to roll over my middle, the truck came to a screaming hault.

naturally i was shaking and scared and incoherent.

the driver was pretty much the same and i doubt he got much work done that day.

the elderly man disappeared. i never got the chance to thank him, bless his heart. i haven't thought of that episode forever until this article.

so, so sad for this family. :(

wasn't i the lucky one . . .
 
  • #34
Floh said:
This story about the little girl is heartbreaking.

many years ago when i was 16, a truck reversed and hit me and knocked me to the ground, albeit slowly. at the time i was looking in the opposite direction and this was before trucks had those beep-beep-beep warning noises as they reversed. it was a large truck and the double wheels were continuing to come towards me while i lay there paralyised with fear and couldn't make myself roll away.

i became aware of an elderly man yelling and shouting to the driver at the top of his voice for all he was worth and running across the street to the driver's cab and just as those wheels were about to roll over my middle, the truck came to a screaming hault.

naturally i was shaking and scared and incoherent.

the driver was pretty much the same and i doubt he got much work done that day.

the elderly man disappeared. i never got the chance to thank him, bless his heart. i haven't thought of that episode forever until this article.

so, so sad for this family. :(

wasn't i the lucky one . . .
Oh wow Floh! How scary. Thank your lucky stars.
I know someone who was just hit by a car recently, in broad daylight while she was crossing the street. She is an adult and while she is doing very well, she was banged up pretty bad.
I find myself being overly cautious now whether I am Ms Walker or Ms Wheeler.
 
  • #35
IdahoMom said:
I hit one of our cats several years ago. Apparently he had climbed up under the car when it was in the garage. I was driving and felt a thump and saw our sweet kitty in my rear view mirror, flailing about in the road. :( :( :( I guess he fell out and I hit him. It was horrible. My kids were in the car and they were very upset. To this day, I want to cry when I think about the fact I hit my own pet. :(

To this day, I make my kids (even my 16 y.o. 6' son) stay with me in parking lots, etc. I can't tell you how many times I have seen drivers start to back up in a grocery store parking lot, and almost hit a small child! The thing that REALLY PISSES ME OFF is all the mothers I see that walk into the store ahead of their lingering children, without looking back ONCE to check on their safety. (Oftentimes, these are the moms that have a coat on, and their kid is in a T-shirt) My kids have to walk right with me, and when they were smaller, had to be carried, or hold my hand at all times in parking lots....

I have to watch for MYSELF now walking in parking lots. I've almost been runover several times - it's suburban, SUV and yakky cell-phone ville around here. I have to watch like a hawk - people just back right out or drive way too fast through the lanes. The side of my car has been backed into 3 times, and none were my fault.

Parking lots are dangerous places!
 
  • #36
Floh said:
This story about the little girl is heartbreaking.

many years ago when i was 16, a truck reversed and hit me and knocked me to the ground, albeit slowly. at the time i was looking in the opposite direction and this was before trucks had those beep-beep-beep warning noises as they reversed. it was a large truck and the double wheels were continuing to come towards me while i lay there paralyised with fear and couldn't make myself roll away.

i became aware of an elderly man yelling and shouting to the driver at the top of his voice for all he was worth and running across the street to the driver's cab and just as those wheels were about to roll over my middle, the truck came to a screaming hault.

naturally i was shaking and scared and incoherent.

the driver was pretty much the same and i doubt he got much work done that day.

the elderly man disappeared. i never got the chance to thank him, bless his heart. i haven't thought of that episode forever until this article.

so, so sad for this family. :(

wasn't i the lucky one . . .

I think Someone was watching over you....lucky you.

What a wonderful man, also.
 
  • #37
Marthatex said:
You know I'm just totally obnoxious. (I guess yall already know that) but what I mean is being a teacher and a mother I going through town just "fussing" at the mothers and the children. I don't care what they think, if I see a situation I don't like I either frown terribly or speak up and say something.
I do too! I guess it must be a teacher kind of thing. I can't believe some of these parents don't seem to see the danger...or maybe they just don't care. It makes me just sick.:doh:
 
  • #38
IdahoMom said:
I hit one of our cats several years ago. Apparently he had climbed up under the car when it was in the garage. I was driving and felt a thump and saw our sweet kitty in my rear view mirror, flailing about in the road. :( :( :( I guess he fell out and I hit him. It was horrible. My kids were in the car and they were very upset. To this day, I want to cry when I think about the fact I hit my own pet. :(

To this day, I make my kids (even my 16 y.o. 6' son) stay with me in parking lots, etc. I can't tell you how many times I have seen drivers start to back up in a grocery store parking lot, and almost hit a small child! The thing that REALLY PISSES ME OFF is all the mothers I see that walk into the store ahead of their lingering children, without looking back ONCE to check on their safety. (Oftentimes, these are the moms that have a coat on, and their kid is in a T-shirt) My kids have to walk right with me, and when they were smaller, had to be carried, or hold my hand at all times in parking lots....

That is so sad IdahoMom.. I would be devastated if I hit an animal, but my own pet? It would crush me... I would also feel devasted if I did this to any child...

I've also seen mom's who are walking ahead of their children in parking lots while cars are coming and going... I get so mad at these parents.. Why don't they keep track of their kids??? I don't get it...
 
  • #39
PaperDoll said:
That is so sad IdahoMom.. I would be devastated if I hit an animal, but my own pet? It would crush me... I would also feel devasted if I did this to any child...

I've also seen mom's who are walking ahead of their children in parking lots while cars are coming and going... I get so mad at these parents.. Why don't they keep track of their kids??? I don't get it...

I see that alot too. Well, I found there are two theories, especially with boys: 1) I want my son to be "streetsmart", learn from his mistakes, make his own decisions, roll with the punches.

2) I want to protect my child, guide them closely, and help them do everything ( or do it for them) including homework

I think the answer is somewhere in between - but if you're trying to "streetsmart" them too young, I think it backfires.
JMIO.
 
  • #40
Little Marivel's obituary. She had a twin sister :( :

http://www.sheboygan-press.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20051228/SHE010301/512280473/1067/SHEnews

snip

She was currently a first grade student at Washington Elementary School and truly loved attending classes and shared a wonderful relationship with her teacher, Miss Gruber. She especially enjoyed reading, drawing pictures, and participating in after-school activities with her friends and special relatives, Leo, Chalino and Caridad. She liked horses and all things associated with them.

-----
A picture I found of her. She's on the left:

http://cmsimg.sheboygan-press.com/apps/pbcsi.dll/bilde?Site=U0&Date=20051229&Category=SHE0101&ArtNo=512290535&Ref=AR&Profile=1062&MaxW=300

-----
Another article:

http://www.sheboygan-press.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20051229/SHE0101/512290535/1062
 

Members online

Online statistics

Members online
60
Guests online
4,866
Total visitors
4,926

Forum statistics

Threads
632,957
Messages
18,634,136
Members
243,359
Latest member
SMA
Back
Top