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There are so many variables involved so each case is different. Only parents who have the capacity to care will actively attempt to protect their teens from predators. As somebody who grew up in a violent, depraved, neglectful home, who also had friends who suffered similar horrors and then went on to work with both teen victims and rapists, I can confidently tell you that a sizeable percent of parents out there, for whatever reasons, can't even begin to care about their teens. The red flags are there, if the teen is open to talking to a parent about some old guy who wants to train her as a 'massage therapist' or give her free music lessons and tuition b/c she's got 'talent', but if the family is broken...
I'm afraid I have first hand knowledge of being in a family that were barely able to function, let alone protect their children too. I am the youngest of four daughters. Both my parents were alcoholics. My father didn't come home one day, and we didn't see him again. This was in the 70s, there was much less support for single parents then. We lived a chaotic, unlovely life, in quite dire poverty. All four of us were prayed on, two as children and two as teens. Distant relatives, family "friends". We have all grown up well enough, three with degrees, two, including me with our own successful businesses, but we are all damaged by those years. My Mum did her best, but it was hard.