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One thing that I have to say is that often times adults and loved ones share too much with children, no matter how mature a kid seems they are still a child and too often parents divulge too much of heavy matters on them. From financial issues, divorce, relationship stuff, etc. Families of war vets suffer emotionally, and when their soldier comes home they hear horrific stories that are traumatizing to them. Also, resenting a president when your loved one is in harms way, even though it is the job they signed up for, I think is almost a natural feeling. I don't think kids feel safe, I think they feel exposed, and are unsure of what to do. They feel alone. They feel fear. Fear is a very motivating factor for some to succeed and for others it's a de motivating factor to wallow in their doubts and never move past them. I'm not sure that's the case here, but I see to too often during a divorce that children know to much, and are being asked to deal with adult issues.
(Taking off my psychologist hat now, putting on my mommy hat)
One of the things that is important to me as a mother is to teach my daughter how to cope, but to teach her how to cope with kid issues. And when she is older I wish to teach her how to apply those coping skills to adult problems. But, IMO, you can't teach them how to cope properly by giving them issues that are so far beyond their skill set. IMO, MOO and all that jazz.