PA - Groom sexually assaulted wife's bridesmaid before wedding 6 Oct 2019

[Gardenista]

Bride still married him.

Groom sexually assaulted wife's bridesmaid before wedding, police say

 

[jjenny]

Bride still married him? Yea, he sure sounds like a keeper.

 

[ColyH]

If that's not a reason to call off a wedding I'm not sure what is.

 

[PayrollNerd]

“I now pronounce you Mr. & Mrs. Dense Stoopidity”

How many days in their state before you can’t get an annulment anymore, and must file for divorce? I wonder if they’ll be sober by then.

 

[margarita25]

This is the stupidest thing I’ve ever seen (that she still married him). Not only is he a cheater, he’s a rapist.

“I now pronounce you Mr. & Mrs. Dense Stoopidity”

Rsbm

Dude, exactly....this is soooo stupid.

 

[musicaljoke]

When I read the headline, I thought it must surely be simply a jealous bridesmaid and bride who could confidently place her trust in her groom.

But no, the bride caught him at it!

So, does she still get to keep the house?

 

[realanastasia]

I don’t think this is at all amusing, nor a situation where the bride-to-be’s behavior is more harshly condemned than her rapist husband’s!

It seems plausible that she was in shock from walking in on this assault and just mechanically proceeded with the planned events: alternatively, if everyone involved was intoxicated, she might’ve been persuaded by the groom-to-be that the situation she encountered was consensual and/or maybe not even sexual at all. Finally, it occurs to me (and this is purely my conjecture) that this might’ve been an emotionally- or physically-abusive relationship and the groom might’ve threatened/coerced the bride to act as though she’d seen none of the incident—going through with the ceremony was just a way to “keep up appearances” (which is a very important thing to many different types of abusers!).

Even if it turns out I’m way off-base, I think all three possible explanations are more realistic than chalking up the completion of the nuptials to the bride’s stupidity or greed.

As always, MOO

 

[cherrymeg]

I don’t think this is at all amusing, nor a situation where the bride-to-be’s behavior is more harshly condemned than her rapist husband’s!

It seems plausible that she was in shock from walking in on this assault and just mechanically proceeded with the planned events: alternatively, if everyone involved was intoxicated, she might’ve been persuaded by the groom-to-be that the situation she encountered was consensual and/or maybe not even sexual at all. Finally, it occurs to me (and this is purely my conjecture) that this might’ve been an emotionally- or physically-abusive relationship and the groom might’ve threatened/coerced the bride to act as though she’d seen none of the incident—going through with the ceremony was just a way to “keep up appearances” (which is a very important thing to many different types of abusers!).

Even if it turns out I’m way off-base, I think all three possible explanations are more realistic than chalking up the completion of the nuptials to the bride’s stupidity or greed.

As always, MOO

I think you might be on the right track.

 

[MimosaMornings]

A locker room in a resort? Is that a place to change clothes or what?

 

[cherrymeg]

A locker room in a resort? Is that a place to change clothes or what?

For the staff? Or is it for a pool or gym?

 

[realanastasia]

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nati...ly-assaulting-bridesmaid-gets-married-anyway/

More details about the attack here.

“The bridesmaid told police her friend immediately started screaming at Carney. The bride followed him into the parking lot and the two got into a physical fight, according to court records.

The next morning, Carney called the bridesmaid to apologize, but claimed he didn’t know what they had done the night before, according to the police report. On the morning of the wedding, he texted again to ask the woman to put on a good face for the wedding and to pressure her to take the morning after pill to prevent an accidental pregnancy.”

 

[jjenny]

Presumably the alleged rapist's condemnation is not under debate. He is also facing various criminal charges. As for the bride, from what has been reported, she caught him in the act, started screaming and then they fought in a parking lot. Yet she still married him. I dunno, but seems like proceeding with the wedding was not the smartest idea.

"Twenty minutes later, police say, his fiancee burst into the men’s showers. The bridesmaid told police her friend immediately started screaming at Carney. The bride followed him into the parking lot and the two got into a physical fight, according to court records."
https://www.washingtonpost.com/nati...ly-assaulting-bridesmaid-gets-married-anyway/

 

[margarita25]

I don’t think this is at all amusing, nor a situation where the bride-to-be’s behavior is more harshly condemned than her rapist husband’s!

It seems plausible that she was in shock from walking in on this assault and just mechanically proceeded with the planned events: alternatively, if everyone involved was intoxicated, she might’ve been persuaded by the groom-to-be that the situation she encountered was consensual and/or maybe not even sexual at all. Finally, it occurs to me (and this is purely my conjecture) that this might’ve been an emotionally- or physically-abusive relationship and the groom might’ve threatened/coerced the bride to act as though she’d seen none of the incident—going through with the ceremony was just a way to “keep up appearances” (which is a very important thing to many different types of abusers!).

Even if it turns out I’m way off-base, I think all three possible explanations are more realistic than chalking up the completion of the nuptials to the bride’s stupidity or greed.

As always, MOO

We will have to agree to disagree on this one. Whatever the reasoning is it’s still the stupidest thing I’ve ever seen. Jmo.

If she has any self worth or intelligence she will get the marriage legally dissolved ASAP.

ETA:
Indeed maybe she is a victim of abuse herself. Who knows.

Lady if you are reading this, get the heck away from this guy, for your own safety and well-being. It’s not going to get any better sweetheart, imo. You are now officially married to a cheater and rapist. Sorry, some things are unforgivable.

 

[gitana1]

Bride still married him? Yea, he sure sounds like a keeper.

I think she was too embarassed to "make a scene" and call off the wedding. It's possible she was the type of bride who makes a bigger deal about the wedding and "her day" then she does about the marriage itself.

Hopefully she's separated by now.

 

[gitana1]

I don’t think this is at all amusing, nor a situation where the bride-to-be’s behavior is more harshly condemned than her rapist husband’s!

It seems plausible that she was in shock from walking in on this assault and just mechanically proceeded with the planned events: alternatively, if everyone involved was intoxicated, she might’ve been persuaded by the groom-to-be that the situation she encountered was consensual and/or maybe not even sexual at all. Finally, it occurs to me (and this is purely my conjecture) that this might’ve been an emotionally- or physically-abusive relationship and the groom might’ve threatened/coerced the bride to act as though she’d seen none of the incident—going through with the ceremony was just a way to “keep up appearances” (which is a very important thing to many different types of abusers!).

Even if it turns out I’m way off-base, I think all three possible explanations are more realistic than chalking up the completion of the nuptials to the bride’s stupidity or greed.

As always, MOO

How is her behavior more harshly condemned? She didn't rape anyone. She's not been arrested and charged. She married a rapist though. We are talking about that because sadly, while sexual assault isn't shocking, marrying a guy who just raped your bridesmaid is unusual. At least in this country.

 

[margarita25]

I don’t think this is at all amusing, nor a situation where the bride-to-be’s behavior is more harshly condemned than her rapist husband’s!

It seems plausible that she was in shock from walking in on this assault and just mechanically proceeded with the planned events: alternatively, if everyone involved was intoxicated, she might’ve been persuaded by the groom-to-be that the situation she encountered was consensual and/or maybe not even sexual at all. Finally, it occurs to me (and this is purely my conjecture) that this might’ve been an emotionally- or physically-abusive relationship and the groom might’ve threatened/coerced the bride to act as though she’d seen none of the incident—going through with the ceremony was just a way to “keep up appearances” (which is a very important thing to many different types of abusers!).

Even if it turns out I’m way off-base, I think all three possible explanations are more realistic than chalking up the completion of the nuptials to the bride’s stupidity or greed.

As always, MOO

Who said this was amusing? I think we are all sickened! These poor women, both of them!

Im thinking also about how I would feel if I were the bridesmaid that got RAPED by this man and my friend still married him? That’s betrayal too and a big “F U” in the face and shows how much she values her friendship or whatever the relationship is. “Yeah, I know he raped you, but I’m going to marry him anyway.”

GAG.

Ps: I’ve been a victim of domestic abuse and have been STUPID myself, so this comes from a place of understanding as far as “unhealthy relationships” go.

 

[jjenny]

I think she was too embarassed to "make a scene" and call off the wedding. It's possible she was the type of bride who makes a bigger deal about the wedding and "her day" then she does about the marriage itself.

Hopefully she's separated by now.

Presumably she is going to be embarrassed even more, not that he has been charged and it's made msm news.

 

[PayrollNerd]

Maybe she will wake up when his legal woes financially bankrupt her. Married, divorced, penniless, and homeless all within a few months. How much clearer does the writing on the wall have to be? I stand by my name I gave her.

 

[jjenny]

The one thing is, as far as I know, wife can't testify against her husband. So her testimony of what she saw is out?

 

[PommyMommy]

What the what?!

...to have and to hold
from this day forward
in sickness and in health
I promise to find ways
to successfully ignore
the things you do that hurt me
because that is true love...

Uh, no!