Peterson's Ex-Mistress Frey to Wed

[PrayersForMaura]

I disagree. It's everyone's business she comes into sexual contact with. Just as it's her business to know that a sexual partner has something he could be passing along to her.

I don't think Amber thinks about the potential consequences of having unprotected sex. Many women don't. I read somewhere that the majority of women don't even ask their sexual partners if they could possibly have STD.

Oh sure, many women do that in the heat of the moment. Um, excuse me ... do you have any known STD's I should know about?

Would totally ruin the moment and deflate certain things if you know what I mean,

 

[TaylorJ4]

actually we dont know that and again its her body not anyone elses..a woman can do what she wants sexually..its no ones business and no one would know if she wasnt a public figure thru no fault of her own.
Have u ever had unprotected sex?? I dont expect an answer but I doubt there are many people on this forum who havent had unprotected sex in their pre-30's at least.

If she's gotten pregnant at least twice by differnt men, and was unsure who the father of her child was, then YES she is having unprotected sex, or at least not using very effective protection. If she got pregnant, she could contract an STD.

And YES I did have unprotected, premarital sex in the 70s and early 80s, when the worst STD that was known of was herpes-NOT AIDS. I was young and stupid but I did NOT allow myself to get pregnant. And once I had a child, and got divorced from his father, I knew that *I* was the sole caretaker of that child and had to take care of myself to take care of him.

I just can't understand these young girls who obviously have sex with more than 1 man in a short period of time, get pregnant and are NOT sure who the father of the baby is. Hey, when you are an adult you can do whatever rocks your world-but she has small children to think about, and has OBVIOUSLY made some poor choices in previous boyfriends (AND exposed her child to a murderer).

 

[PrayersForMaura]

No one is mentioning the fact that she is apprently having UNPROTECTED sex with numerous men-is she not worried about contracting sexually transmitted diseases?

Shannon

I'm sure she's been checked ... most pregnant women have to do the gyno thing.

I've slept with pro athletes, unprotected. They get around more than the average Joe on the street.
LOL
I'm sure Amber will be just fine, but if people are really worried, perhaps they should ask her to attend a sex ed class with them

 

[PrayersForMaura]

Wow, since when is getting pregnant deemed a "mistake"?
Or a bad thing?
It's her life, not ours. She seems to be happy and loves her children. What more can anyone ask for?

 

[TaylorJ4]

Do you have children? Are you raising them on your own?

Again, if you are single then you are free to do whatever you like-but if she gets AIDS those 2 kids are left motherless...THAT is wrong, and it only takes 1 time. Not to mention letting a stranger pick up a small child from daycare and spend unsupervised time with her---and that stranger turned out to be a murderer.

I'm certainly not a prude and think a woman should be able to do whatever she likes with her own body, but a single mom needs to put her kids first.

Shannon

 

[Lauren]

I have not ever had unprotected sex. (Before the hubby). I can say that honestly. And that has been a long time ago. As a parent you are triple careful that you don't give your kids your cold!



3 kids is 3 mouths to feed, 3 more to educate, 3 more to worry about, 3 more to lose sleep over. Being a single parent is tough enough, having 3 different dads is a bit much. The communication to each one is a pain. Holidays at different houses. Child support, I guarantee the senarios will and can be endless. Plus stepkids, good grief. Get your calender out Amber, that's all you will be doing.


I will get off the cross now. I know someone needs the wood!

 

[luvbeaches]

Do you have children? Are you raising them on your own?

Again, if you are single then you are free to do whatever you like-but if she gets AIDS those 2 kids are left motherless...THAT is wrong, and it only takes 1 time. Not to mention letting a stranger pick up a small child from daycare and spend unsupervised time with her---and that stranger turned out to be a murderer.

I'm certainly not a prude and think a woman should be able to do whatever she likes with her own body, but a single mom needs to put her kids first.

Shannon

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I completely agree.

The children need to come first. And since Amber seems to have birth control issues, she should consider not having sex. It does seem like that every guy she's with, she has a kid with. I will be willing to bet had she dated Scott much longer, she would have ended up pregnant.

Amber's got a revolving-door of guys coming and going. How confusing for the children! A total stranger picking up her daughter from school (or daycare). That's nuts! And a wife/child killer to boot. She should thank her lucky stars she didn't get pregnant because I have no doubt that she would have suffered the same horrible fate as Laci.

As a parent, you have to put you children about your own personal needs. That's life...

 

[Details]

I disagree. It's everyone's business she comes into sexual contact with.

It is????!!! Just for Amber, or for all women? And I hope men... but when did everyone's sexual history become everyone's business? Why is it so OK to just decide that a person's private life is everyone's business, and can be picked apart?

Shannon - so should single mothers do nothing outside of the home? Anything you do could kill you - driving to work, going on a trip, crossing the street, going skiing ... or if we just go with diseases, eating too much food and getting obesity related diseases is just as deadly as HIV, and often much more likely than getting AIDS. Single mom's are not saints, and should not be made involuntary martyrs to what the rest of the world wants them to do.

 

[shopper]

I have not ever had unprotected sex. (Before the hubby). I can say that honestly. And that has been a long time ago. As a parent you are triple careful that you don't give your kids your cold!



3 kids is 3 mouths to feed, 3 more to educate, 3 more to worry about, 3 more to lose sleep over. Being a single parent is tough enough, having 3 different dads is a bit much. The communication to each one is a pain. Holidays at different houses. Child support, I guarantee the senarios will and can be endless. Plus stepkids, good grief. Get your calender out Amber, that's all you will be doing.


I will get off the cross now. I know someone needs the wood!

Oy, your last paragraph is a logistics nightmare. Her 2 kids with different fathers and sets of grandparents, and his two kids with their mother(s) and grandparents, it will be a miracle if they ever have a holiday where they can all spend it together. Not to mention driving them all over the place to different sports functions, lessons, etc. Glad it's her and not me.

 

[concernedperson]

My experience is that everything is my responsibility. It doesn't matter who enters or exits the picture it is still mine. I am celebate but the same thing applies now. Whether it is ongoing situations at work or solving relative situations...it is mine. Decision whether I want to pursue or decision to not is mine. Not to judge everything in a person's life or what value it holds. Just to say if you have children....this is a first priority until they are 21 and then you give them free reign. Or 18 if they are more independent.

The rest of the time you have to give them sea legs.Children are always first.

 

[JBean]

It is????!!! Just for Amber, or for all women? And I hope men... but when did everyone's sexual history become everyone's business? Why is it so OK to just decide that a person's private life is everyone's business, and can be picked apart?

Shannon - so should single mothers do nothing outside of the home? Anything you do could kill you - driving to work, going on a trip, crossing the street, going skiing ... or if we just go with diseases, eating too much food and getting obesity related diseases is just as deadly as HIV, and often much more likely than getting AIDS. Single mom's are not saints, and should not be made involuntary martyrs to what the rest of the world wants them to do.

I think Seeker said it is the business of "everyone she comes into sexual contact with". Not everyone and there is a difference.

This is just about responsible behavior, IMO. It's smart to wear a seat belt, to look both ways before you cross the street, take your vitamins to ward off disease, and to watch your diet. So with that line of thinking, it would be reasonable to check your partners sexual history before having sex with them.It is every parent's obligation to avoid unnecessary risk once they have children.
Prior to kids, your body and your life are your own. once you have kids it's a whole new ballgame.
I have a rule of thumb when trying to decide if a certain behavior is a good idea or a bad idea. If I would advise my own daughter to do it, it's probably a good idea. If i would advise my daughter not to do it, i usually rethink it.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

Do you have children? Are you raising them on your own?

Again, if you are single then you are free to do whatever you like-but if she gets AIDS those 2 kids are left motherless...THAT is wrong, and it only takes 1 time. Not to mention letting a stranger pick up a small child from daycare and spend unsupervised time with her---and that stranger turned out to be a murderer.

I'm certainly not a prude and think a woman should be able to do whatever she likes with her own body, but a single mom needs to put her kids first.

Shannon

Put your kids first how so?
Like spending time with them instead of posting on a forum?
I'm confused.

I know from everything I've heard and read that Amber spends A LOT of time with her kids. That's more than some mothers do who I personally know.

My good friend has two boys with different fathers. She married the second one who is best friends with my boyfriend. And she is one of the best moms I know around my age.
You can have children with different fathers and still be a good mom. You can't help it if the man leaves you.

 

[Lauren]

My experience is that everything is my responsibility. It doesn't matter who enters or exits the picture it is still mine. I am celebate but the same thing applies now. Whether it is ongoing situations at work or solving relative situations...it is mine. Decision whether I want to pursue or decision to not is mine. Not to judge everything in a person's life or what value it holds. Just to say if you have children....this is a first priority until they are 21 and then you give them free reign. Or 18 if they are more independent.

The rest of the time you have to give them sea legs.Children are always first.

Right on! I am also celebate. Does it count that I am married? LOL:doh:

 

[JBean]

Right on! I am also celebate. Does it count that I am married? LOL:doh:

ROFLMAO Julia

 

[narlacat]

<<Put your kids first how so?
Like spending time with them instead of posting on a forum?
I'm confused.>>

I have agreed with alot of what you have said Maura, but now you are just being mean.
I see you are posting on the net too, where's your kids?
Sorry if I missed something and you don't have any kids...

People might think I post too much and where's my kid....well he is usually not here when I am on the net or he has friends over and is playing happily with them.

 

[JBean]

<<Put your kids first how so?
Like spending time with them instead of posting on a forum?
I'm confused.>>

I have agreed with alot of what you have said Maura, but now you are just being mean.
I see you are posting on the net too, where's your kids?
Sorry if I missed something and you don't have any kids...

People might think I post too much and where's my kid....well he is usually not here when I am on the net or he has friends over and is playing happily with them.

I think we all change our outlook when we have kids. It's not all about "us" anymore, it's about "them" and I bet you are a great mom narla.

I'm sure Amber is always looking out for her kids the best she knows how. But I think some posters have raised valid points; good for lively dicussion!.

 

[narlacat]

Well I try JBean, I love my little boy more than life itself

Lively discussion is great yes, always in for a little chat I am!

 

[JBean]

Well I try JBean, I love my little boy more than life itself

Lively discussion is great yes, always in for a little chat I am!

Ooh fast move there

I think most of us love our kids more than anything....well most of the time anyway.
I think this isn't only about single parents, but about parents in general. I just think as parents we owe it to these kids to take the best possible care of ourselves so that we increase the chance of being there for them in the future..no guarantees of course.:blowkiss:

 

[concernedperson]

Well I try JBean, I love my little boy more than life itself

Lively discussion is great yes, always in for a little chat I am!

And, honey,that is the point. We do what we have to to make these babies the best that they can be and we grieve when things don't always turn out that way.It is a life cycle. When it is bad we try and break the cycle.It is a trying all the time.Children are first.

 

[narlacat]

Hi CP and Jeana

I don't understand Amber's need to have a man in her life but some women are like that...and I think she can think about herself and be concerned about her kids too.

God knows, I am accused of spending too much time with my child
I watch my friends try and get out of spending time with their kids....and I don't understand it at all.....

Edit to add, do we really know Amber is still in the practice of having unprotected sex?