Yeah, I always thought that that too. In addition Clinton's activities didn't qualify as a "heinous crime" by western standards, he was accused of being a philanderer not a rapist.
I agree with your analysis.
Famous men attract groupies, and some famous men take what is being offered by those groupies, even if they are married. If both parties are over the age of consent, no coercion is involved, no force is involved, no financial promises are made and both parties willingly agree to participate, then the sexual activity that ensues may be infidelity but it is not rape. Infidelity may be cruel to a person's spouse or significant other, and the repercussions of infidelity can hurt many people, but it still is not rape. Dragging the Clinton/Lewinsky affair into a discussion of rape is, IMO, really dealing with false equivalencies. As you said, Sonya610, Clinton was accused of "being a philanderer, not a rapist."
The "Clinton activities" were mutually entered into according to Lewinsky herself. ("Lewinsky: Clinton lies about relationship in his new book". USA Today. Associated Press. June 25, 2006.) At the time she was not a minor being lured into an isolated room and drugged or plied with alcohol. She was a 23 year old woman who had been already been involved in an affair with a married man, her former high school drama teacher, for several years. Lewinsky continued to be involved with the teacher during the 9 sexual encounters (her count) she had with Clinton. She did not ask for a monetary settlement from Clinton when their affair ended. However, following the disclosure of her private life to the public, Lewinsky is reported to have made about half a million dollars from the sale of Andrew Morton's book
Monica's Story, and around a million from a Barbara Walters interview as part of her efforts to pay her legal bills. Not a pleasant or particularly romantic story, but not rape. Ill-advised? Embarrassing? Hurtful? Probably, but, IMO, not rape. [Sidebar: No matter how much the age difference was stressed and exaggerated at the time of the scandal, Lewinsky was not a child. She was an adult, and she has, IMO, faced the consequences of her actions with real grit and determination.]
If the allegations about Cosby prove true, what he did could amount to many counts of liquor law violations, drink spiking, drug procurement, assault, sexual assault, sexual battery, sexual luring, sexual interference, statutory rape and rape. If the allegations are true, he betrayed, violated, degraded, and humiliated the women who are now bringing their stories forward. Cosby, if the allegations are true, had nonconsensual sex with these women. Nonconsensual sex is rape.
I'll go further. If true, the descriptions of his actions indicate he was giving drugs (legal, illegal--including alcohol as a depressant) to at least some of these women with no regard for the possible negative reactions they could have had to primary effects of those drugs or to the side effects of those drugs. He literally endangered the lives of those women. A bad combination of drugs could have had--and may have had--serious complications for the physical and mental health of the women who unknowingly ingested them.
Too many accidental deaths have occurred when people combine drugs and alcohol, and, it seems to me, the possibility was certainly there in some of the stories. These alleged activities, IMO, could have meant Cosby was one step away from a manslaughter, if not a murder charge, on several occasions. Which I interpret as indifference to human life.
And I'll go further. In some cases, women have stated that they were unconscious for a period of time while, as far as they knew, they were in Cosby's sole company. When they regained consciousness they found themselves undressed or dishevelled. They actually had no recollection of what happened during that time, IIRC. So, IMO, there is a possibility that other activities could have taken place without their knowledge or consent. Were pornographic photos taken of them while they were undressed? Did anyone other than Cosby have access to their bodies? Did anyone other than Cosby see them while they were unconscious? I don't know if those allegations have yet been made by any alleged victims or their lawyers, but, I think, there may be further speculation and accusations as more details become public knowledge.
None of the allegations that have been made against Cosby--luring, assault, drink spiking, sexual assault, drug procurement--were made against Clinton by Lewinsky. Philandering is not the equivalent of committing rape.