kiki the parrot
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So far as I know, when he left for work, his daughter was alive. There is no evidence that Haleigh was the object of Ron's rage. Surely Crystal would have raised that at the custody hearing if that were the case. We can only talk of negligence in hindsight. Haleigh was clean, fed and sheltered, getting regular medical care, and left in the care of someone old enough to babysit. I used to watch kids younger and older than Haleigh when I was 14. As I have said time and again, certainly Misty was not an ideal babysitter, given her history. But we still have absolutely no proof that she was the direct or indirect cause of Haleigh's disappearance. If someone came into that trailer and took that child, how is that Ron Cummings's fault? How would he be more "responsible" than Ed Smart, who hired a psychopathic sexual sadist and introduced him into his home environment, where he kidnapped and assaulted and imprisoned his daughter? We absolutely know that the Smart family introduced the kidnapper to their home; we do not yet know that Misty did. Again, I am only responding to the notion that Haleigh would have been safer with her mother--which is just a backdoor way of saying that Ron is responsible. We could say that EVERY abducted child might have been "safer" had they been taken by the courts or sent to live with grandma. As has been pointed out repeatedly, Crystal has had a problem with drugs herself and wasn't a very conscientious mother when pregnant with Junior. She seems almost unconscious on television, at least when I've seen her. But even if Crystal was June Cleaver or Ma Walton and had custody, if a predator had his eye on Haleigh, he could have taken her when she was just visiting her father. Are we going to call for the removal by the state of all the siblings of all the children who disappear? or of all the children living with an alcoholic or drug abuser--including those who are abusing prescription pain killers? Or is it just Ron Cummings who should lose his son? If he is arrested and we are presented with evidence that he has done the unspeakable, then the issue of custody is moot. I am still waiting for the first shred of evidence that he was involved.
In the end, the only person responsible for Haleigh's disappearance is the person who took her out of that trailer.
(snip, bbm) Few of the scenarios I've suggested (other than rage) even required Ron to have been present at the time, but I can't rule out and don't know that at all--there is to date no proof that Haleigh was alive when her father left for work. Nor does his behavior in the days, weeks and months following lead me to dismiss the possibility of indirect involvement.
Crystal takes seizure med that may cause the slowing down of speech so to say almost unconscious is itself deliberately pejorative, an unnecessary indictment of her character. Let's worry about the lortabs, and other illegal drugs it's been reported that Misty--in whose care Haleigh was left--had been doing that weekend, at the very least up until the time Ron rounded her up just prior to leaving her in charge of his two young children, and the apparent stupor she slept in that night, instead.
Misty wasn't merely these children's occasional drop-in, daytime 'babysitter' she was the sole, on-and-off-and-on-again, fulltime, overnight teen stepnanny whom Ron and his two small children were depending upon to function as their protector and live-in, surrogate parent. And it isn't only about Misty's age--it is her state of mind, whether she was mature, sober, straight and consciencious enough to be given such an enormous responsibility. As *I* have said time and again, it's not that Misty just wasn't "ideal" lol, from what the neighbors say, she sounds more like the babysitter from downunder.
Lastly, the issue is not the HIDDEN, UNKNOWN risk factors for which any reasonably vigilant parent could be faulted--but those that lay open, and exposed, about which others even have long been aware(?) yet which are nevertheless ignored, overlooked or downplayed for the sake of an illicit, statutory live-in arrangement of convenience. Afaik neither Ed Smart nor many other reasonably prudent parents of missing children had an arrest record as long as your arm involving drugs eg which could have exposed their children to dangers, much less assaults and displays and threats of violence which can clearly put their children in harm's way. Every parent can make an error in judgment, we are speaking here of forseeable consequences. Last I knew leaving children where parents or caregivers are using, selling or possessing drugs illegally was considered child endangerment and yes does call for removal of children where children are repeatedly put at risk. If Ron had no questions re his associates I'm just curious why practically his first words were to the effect that, "It's not like she's property or something."
Anyone still convinced that Ron and Misty provide suitable quality care, and acceptable level of supervision, is free I guess to entrust their own children to them but not mine. JMO
