Scathing Obituary For 80-year-old Woman

[BetteDavisEyes]

'She will not be missed': Scathing obituary posted for 80-year-old woman

SPRINGFIELD, Minn. - This could be the most scathing obituary ever posted.

An obituary posted for an 80-year-old Minnesota woman has gone viral because of its harsh nature...

'She will not be missed': Scathing obituary posted for 80-year-old woman

 

[DakotaMayi]

'She will not be missed': Scathing obituary posted for 80-year-old woman

SPRINGFIELD, Minn. - This could be the most scathing obituary ever posted.

An obituary posted for an 80-year-old Minnesota woman has gone viral because of its harsh nature...

'She will not be missed': Scathing obituary posted for 80-year-old woman

Oh my...

 

[FL Wannabe]

Wow! Doesn't sound like there are grandchildren, so her legacy ends with her kids. They don't come off as mature adults. Hmmm.

 

[Valerio]

Sounds like something my sister would put together if our mother died. Sad. I understand some of her bitterness (my sister): but it's like.........move on!! Most people would love to have their mother's back just for one minute if they could!

 

[cvaldez1975]

wow!!!!!

 

[meanmaryjean]

As someone whose own mother walked out on her five kids (ages 13 years- 5 months) I understand where this comes from. Being abandoned by your mother has deep, lasting psychological implications. It NEVER goes away. Ever. You grow up but you never outgrow the pain of your mother choosing (insert person/ place/thing) over you- her own child.

I ran across a picture the other day from shortly after it happened to us. And fifty years later- it still hurts.

So don't be too harsh in judging the victims of her selfishness- they've had to live with it all these years.

 

[AzPistonsGirl]

as curious as I am, I'm going to honor this woman and not read it.

There are a lot of other ways to vent your frustration, anger, resentment, etc. IMO.

dignity after death is the least I want to expect from people.

 

[Valerio]

This is gonna be a hot topic! We are all friends here with our own experiences and frustrations. My hardships just made me STRONGER and the weak people that gave them to me are still WEAK people. Sucks to be them!

 

[PinkPrincessPoop]

Going to be an outlier here and defend the writers of this obituary.

You have this one life to represent who you are on this Earth. If you choose to be a selfish person, that is how you have chosen to portray yourself. I don't believe in making people out to be saints just because they are dead. She did that to her kids, and her kids wrote her obituary. Can you expect anything else?

 

[Wire154a]

Rather a low class remark, I'd say. Apples uncomfortably close to the tree, perhaps.

 

[gregjrichards]

I’m surprised it was printed to be honest.

 

[Rocco]

Going to be an outlier here and defend the writers of this obituary.

You have this one life to represent who you are on this Earth. If you choose to be a selfish person, that is how you have chosen to portray yourself. I don't believe in making people out to be saints just because they are dead. She did that to her kids, and her kids wrote her obituary. Can you expect anything else?

Well, you know what they say-----> You reap what you sow. Why didn't the child she had when she took off for California write the obituary since the 2 she abandoned didn't have anything good to say about her? Maybe the 3rd child didn't have anything good to say about her either.

I'm with you, PPP. She was who she was so no need to make her out to be wonderful, loving, and kind if she wasn't.

The purpose of an obituary is to notify people of a death and tell a little bit about the person. And that's what happened.

 

[Jennifer17]

I’m surprised it was printed to be honest.

Me too.

 

[Jennifer17]

Well, you know what they say-----> You reap what you sow. Why didn't the child she had when she took off for California write the obituary since the 2 she abandoned didn't have anything good to say about her? Maybe the 3rd child didn't have anything good to say about her either.

I'm with you, PPP. She was who she was so no need to make her out to be wonderful, loving, and kind if she wasn't.

The purpose of an obituary is to notify people of a death and tell a little bit about the person. And that's what happened.

They proved that they were just as awful as the things that they accused their mother of. They did not have to write an obituary. They have failed the 'discretion is the better part of valour'. These would be people in their sixties. I have to wonder, who brought them up with such bitterness.

 

[2Hope4]

Live your life the way you want to be remembered.... May her children's healing begin.

 

[2Hope4]

'She will not be missed': Scathing obituary posted for 80-year-old woman

SPRINGFIELD, Minn. - This could be the most scathing obituary ever posted.

An obituary posted for an 80-year-old Minnesota woman has gone viral because of its harsh nature...

'She will not be missed': Scathing obituary posted for 80-year-old woman

"We wanted to finally get the last word": Vengeful obit divulges woman's affair

"They'll never know what we went through but it helped us [to write this]. We wanted to finally get the last word," Jay Dehmalo told DailyMail.com.

The vengeful obit quickly went viral, getting re-tweeted over 13,000 times. The Redwood Falls Gazette removed the obituary after it gained attention online and in other news outlets.

 

[2Hope4]

We wanted to finally get the last word," Dehmalo told the news outlet. "You could write it all down in a book or turn it into a movie and people wouldn't believe what we went through."

Dehmlow's sister, Judy, described the obit to the Mail as "nasty," and said it had "hurt the family tremendously" before questioning why people are discussing it because "it's not important."

"Not important?" Dehmalo asked. "Sure. They have no idea what we went through and back then, in the '50s and '60s, nobody talked about anything."

The 58-year-old said he and his sister had to piece together information about their family and mother throughout their lives, claiming the two didn't know they had half-brothers until years after they were born.

The rare instances Dehmalo recalls her taking a break from "having a great life in California with her other kids" and visiting them, the two "didn't have so much as a card from her. I remember she came home twice and on one occasion she was showing pictures of her and her kids playing cards, drinking beers."
Son who wrote viral revenge obituary about his mom explains why he did it

 

[2Hope4]

"Gina and I were standing in the room, just standing there and she didn't even acknowledge us," the man said. "It's like we didn't exist."

The "revenge obituary" was pulled from the Redwood Falls Gazette and removed from Legacy.com.

Son who wrote viral revenge obituary about his mom explains why he did it

 

[Jennifer17]

Live your life the way you want to be remembered.... May her children's healing begin.

They have had probably five or more decades to heal. Men do that all the time, leave for another woman and leave their family, but it seems that a woman who does it cannot be forgiven, even after 50 years. Such a double standard here.

 

[2Hope4]

One relative, Dwight Dehmlow, told the Star Tribune that while the facts in the notice are true, it provided an incomplete picture of Dehmlow's life.

"There is more to it than this. It's not that simple," he said. "She made a mistake 60 years ago, but who hasn't? Has she regretted it over the years? Yes."

Dehmlow added that Kathleen had been living in a nursing home for the past year, and she died with her sisters by her side.
'She Will Not Be Missed': Children Deliver Harsh Send-Off In Mother's Death Notice