SIDEBAR #55 - Travis Alexander forum

[Bernina]

Lily goes out to dinner with Loli Pop. The dogs are happy Lily came along. They don't have to wear dorky clothes anymore. We have a wedding next week and Lily has a princess dress in purple, along with a tiara, that match the brides colors.

Nothing better than a happy baby to turn the day around.
ILTBP, Lily was soooooooo fortunate, things could have gone so bad.

 

[Bernina]

Thanks, Coffee Junkie, I really needed that this morning!
I don't post it enough but your really find some cool stuff that speaks to me.:loveyou:

 

[Spellbound]

I was thinking about old fashion sewing bees, and how women got together and gossiped as they sewed, and I though that ours wouldn't be about who sleeping with who ever, but blood splatter and crime scenes.


[video=youtu;7X7d7Ul6PmI]http://youtu.be/7X7d7Ul6PmI[/video]

Wouldn't we be a hoot!?

SHOUT OUT to our dear friend DMACKY!! She is missed and hope her back problems are getting better...we love you!! :grouphug:

Dmacky, sending good vibes and hugs your way! :hug:

Sometimes people will lie to continue their 15 minutes of fame.......to attach herself to the Pope in the twisted way she did is a disgrace. For her attorneys to endorse her lie is abhorrent.

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/03/w...ml?emc=edit_na_20151002&nlid=58395070&ref=cta

Pope Francis’ Meeting Wasn’t an Endorsement of Kim Davis’s Views, Vatican Says

I wonder if her visit was a tax paid vacation?:gaah:

I had a suspicion this was an exaggeration by her "team" . :nono:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/...is-meeting-not-meant-to-support-her-position/

 

[Nore]

I can't believe I found someone else that hates butter ! :woohoo: Zoey! Seriously, it makes me ill, as in sick to my stomach, and to me it has a horrible, heavy aftertaste. I don't really use milk much either, and only eat fat free ice cream rarely, if at all. Cream is as bad as butter to me, though I can stomach small amounts of light cream in some sauces as long as it's not the predominant ingredient, such as a light Roasted Red Pepper cream sauce that we eat on this crab ravioli dish that we love. Yum!!! As far as margarine, I very occasionally use small amounts of it, not often. When I eat toast I just eat it with jelly, no butter. I use olive or grapeseed oil to saute stuff in. From what I've read over the years, dairy products in general aren't really healthy for most people as we don't digest them properly. I actually wish I could eat more dairy, I just can't. Maybe this is why.
http://drhyman.com/blog/2010/06/24/dairy-6-reasons-you-should-avoid-it-at-all-costs-2/

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neesaki; count me in on the "I hate butter' I always liked dry bead , specially Rye! now I use jam. I cant stand anything greasy. yuk!!

 

[zoey]

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neesaki; count me in on the "I hate butter' I always liked dry bead , specially Rye! now I use jam. I cant stand anything greasy. yuk!!

Don't even like the smell-- still wonder why people put it on sweet corn!! For some reason my hate of butter really bothers my sister ,misunderstand why.

 

[Niner]

Morning! :wave:

Niner, you said "so frustrating. Okay, enough.... sorry.." (BBM)
Now my friend, I am going to scold you a tad. Don't you ever, ever apologize for venting, ranting, or sharing here. One of the smallest things we can do for you and feel a tiny bit useful is to be here and to listen and care. So don't deny us that ..... we are family, and we love and support each other through thick or thin. Always will, my dear.

Glad to hear he is gong to willingly try the rehab. Now to help him through the depression. Fingers crossed tight for ya.


http://img05.deviantart.net/b69d/i/2015/140/c/1/topsy_turvy_life_by_fictional_seviper-d8u4aug.png

okay... :blushing:

Yep! I look forward to getting on here in the morning and seeing what's up and how everyone is doing/coping etc. Sometimes there's tears of happiness and joy, other times tears of sorrow - kinda bittersweet at times and other times, fits of laughter to boot. But, we all seem to cope and manage and get by. It's just awesome to be able to count on friends here for support, no matter what the issue may be.

Yep, me too - first thing in the morning, I always come here!! :happydance: You guys... :grouphug: I don't know what I'd do without you guys! I don't have any "good" friends here in town; they all live in the Silicon Valley, where we moved from about 15 years ago... So :tyou: all again for letting me vent here!

Bernina :hug: from me!

neesaki - me too - butter upsets my stomach too! But I love it when eating lobster - but regret it afterwards - but it tastes SO good at the time! LOL!

ILikeToBenPages - oh what a cutie!!! Love to see her purple dress and tiara!!

Called the Huz this morning - I guess he's giving everyone a hard time there... :gaah: I'm going to have to tell him to "cool" it with these people when I go visit with him later this morning!! Right now, I'm trying to get him a "squeeze" in appointment for the bone marrow biopsy for Monday, instead of next Friday, when his appointment was set last week. I want results NOW!!! I know he is really getting frustrated on not having a diagnosis, but there isn't much I can do - but I'm trying!! I can sympathize with his frustration, since this has been going on now for almost 5 months now!

We had a nice rain yesterday!! At least I don't have to water anything!

Okay, Louie just jumped on my lap - and I can't type right, so will end here - and a picture from my "sharing" folder!

:seeya:

 

[Susza]

Here's a new quiz for y'all to take:

What secret emotion are you hiding?

http://www.littlethings.com/secret-emotion-quiz/

My Result: Love
"On the inside, you are truly full of love. You are a kind and warm individual. Since you have such a beautiful and open heart, there is no reason to hide it from the world. Let your love out for everyone to see!"

Thank you, YoN!
My result: Joy
"On the inside, you are truly full of joy. You have a happy and celebratory soul. With such positivity brewing inside of you, there is no reason to hide it from the world. Let your joy out for everyone to see! "

 

[Susza]

Niner, hang in there!

I'm going through a similar situation with the BF. 4 trips to the VA Hospital emergency room in 2 days. He's been having issues for 6 weeks, they don't know what's going on. Started as intense restless leg syndrome (RLS)......and medication hell.

But my situation ends there............

I am at the end of my rope. Seriously. BF asked me to marry him right before I took him in for the first of 4 times in the last 2 days.
I'm like stunned. I'm a coward. I did not sign up for this. I've spent 12 years with someone who lied about his interests and his intentions, capabilities, etc., etc. He kept the drama coming in for the first 4-5 years so I really didn't take the time to step back and say "Hey, that seems off" or "I thought he said he knew how to do this". He lies for the sake of lying. We have nothing in common but PTSD and depression.
Does he fear being by himself? Dying alone? Wanting someone to care for him?
My head is ready to explode. He calls and says he deposited a check into my account this morning. He gets home and says he didn't. WTF. Same stuff, different day. He's been slowly killing himself with bad eating habits, junk food, and no excersize, but lies right to my face when I SEE what he's eating and doing.
I have had maybe 6 hours of sleep the last 3 days because he's up all night watching TV......sleeping all day. Add to it all the other medical issues he has.....GAH. 13 years older than me and he's not going to change, he's gotten racist and bigoted, harsh and verbally cruel.

Holy crap, excuse the pity party. My life is in chaos and I just need an anchor.

That's not a pity party and no reason at all to ask for excuse, Bernina.
I very much appreciated what GigiG wrote.
What you are describing sounds in my ears like a totally unbalanced relation. If there is not a certain amount of reciprocity our battery can't follow up the situation gets dangerous for our physical and mental health.
I was in a relationship that made me feel tired/powerless almost all the time. I didn't understand - I generally have lots of energy, take initiatives, etc.... until I realized that the way of functioning of BF parasitized my battery and that's why it was always running low. I absolutely agree if someone needs to hook up on my battery but he should also be able to have attitudes that refill it up again.
Please take GOOD care of YOURSELF. Rely on your potentials, your amazing capacity of AMAZEMENT. These are such strong anchors.
Listen to your tummy. You'll make the right decision. Sending you best vibes.

 

[Susza]

No pity from me- just concern: :therethere:

My poor Bernina. Trying to figure out the right thing to do is always a hard thing. You're not a coward- just trying to find the right solution for all involved I think.

BUT- "harsh and verbally cruel" is something that is not negotiable in my book and IMO. You don't need that in your life (no one does). I personally don't let anyone verbally abuse me or talk down to me anymore no matter what the deal is (and that's a long story anyway).

It seems that you're not very happy anymore having your BF around and for a long time, and you said " We have nothing in common but PTSD and depression"- not pleasant things at all, IMO. Are you afraid about being alone? Aren't you alone now? I think so. So, you love him and he loves you? but sometimes love is not enough - and is this "bad" love or "good" love- you should accept nothing less than "good" love, IMO. We grow accustomed to whatever we’ve lived with. Some who know better would rather have no love at all than to put up with bad love. It just feels bad and who needs that? Only someone as needy as a child. Good love is a gift, given freely, with no strings and no catch to it. The best thing, though, is when two adults give it to each other. Because they want to and because they can).

Doesn't look very healthy for you at this point or so it seems to me.

Don't keep trying to be strong just to be strong- doesn't work all the time, so cry here if you need to- we all care very much about you, but do yourself a favor and revisit that website I sent you last year and reconsider your options now. Seems the situation is just getting worse for both of you now. Make a decision or continue with what you are doing. It's all up to you, you know.

-Time to move on? :thinking:

(you could tell me to GTH now, if you want)

Time for bed (allergies are killing me and the pills for them are killing me too- I'm so tired all the time :crazy: )

See you all in the AM. God willing. :seeya:

Thanks GigiG for that article, but I don't see the correlation- she didn't get the DP.

Pooh, I just posted my thoughts concerning Bernina's last post and hadn't seen what you wrote. You say it so much better.

 

[neesaki]

Don't even like the smell-- still wonder why people put it on sweet corn!! For some reason my hate of butter really bothers my sister ,misunderstand why.

That's so hilarious, zoey, because my sister's the same way. :lol: She acts like it really annoys her and like she doesn't believe me. You know, like I'm only pretending to dislike it.

Yeah, right.
I just look at her like she's an alien from Mars because I really think there's something wrong with her, lol. Seriously, why would anyone pretend to dislike something? :thinking:

 

[neesaki]

Here's a new quiz for y'all to take:

What secret emotion are you hiding?

http://www.littlethings.com/secret-emotion-quiz/

My Result: Love
"On the inside, you are truly full of love. You are a kind and warm individual. Since you have such a beautiful and open heart, there is no reason to hide it from the world. Let your love out for everyone to see!"

Thanks YorN. I have to say I'm a little surprised at my quiz results ... Joy. Say what? :giggle:

 

[coffeejunkie]

I think is little quote just about sums up our SB Friendship!

 

[GigiG]

Sometimes people will lie to continue their 15 minutes of fame.......to attach herself to the Pope in the twisted way she did is a disgrace. For her attorneys to endorse her lie is abhorrent.

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/03/w...ml?emc=edit_na_20151002&nlid=58395070&ref=cta

[h=1]Pope Francis’ Meeting Wasn’t an Endorsement of Kim Davis’s Views, Vatican Says[/h]I wonder if her visit was a tax paid vacation?:gaah:

The truth comes out: http://www.cnn.com/2015/10/02/us/pope-gay-washington/

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

niner, how about Freddy Cannon

[video=youtu;FtAvTZhPthc]http://youtu.be/FtAvTZhPthc[/video]

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

1958 - Bird Dog - The Everly Brothers

[video=youtu;nWW6JXohTGY]http://youtu.be/nWW6JXohTGY[/video]

 

[GigiG]

Just watched a weather update, and I want to ask everyone to send up a prayer or cross their fingers for DaisyMae. As it now appears, even though Joaquin might not make landfall here in the states, it's not looking good for South Carolina. This is from WISTV, Columbia:


"NOW is the time to prepare for a life-threatening conceivable catastrophic rain event. The potential for Flash Flooding of epic proportion is extremely high.

Here is the set-up:

An area of Low pressure in the upper layers of the atmosphere will move into the southeast, it will position itself in south Georgia by tomorrow afternoon. The Low will tap deep tropical moisture from the Gulf and Atlantic…this will allow for rain to develop as the storm feeds on the moisture.

The storm will be slow to move and will produce extremely heavy rainfall for hours on end. A forcing mechanism will feed in to the system providing all it needs to produce torrential rain.

As Hurricane Joaquin moves north, the system will tap some of Joaquin's moisture as well, again, helping the system produce more rain (Hurricane Joaquin remains to our east)

Expect widespread significant flooding. Areas that flood with a 2"-4" rainfall from summer storms will be completely underwater with this storm.

It is VITAL that you pay close attention to the forecast as we tweak things over the next 48 hours."

 

[Spellbound]

Thanks, GigiG. I hope all Dmacky's preparations serve her well. thinking of you, Dmacky!

 

[coffeejunkie]

Prayers for DaisyMae and all the people that this system will effect.

 

[daisymae]

Thanks, GiGi. I think I'll be OK as we are higher ground than the beaches and islands. The flooding you see on TV is on the coast, ocean high tide water coming in. My worry is losing TV. What will I do? Have taken all precautions I know to do. So ... if I disappear you'll know why. Planning to fill a bathtub for toilet water only. Just starting a thunderstorm here and time to give my dog a Benadryl. Will keep in touch as long as I can


:daisy:

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

By THE ASSOCIATED PRESSOCT. 2, 2015, 6:31 P.M. E.D.T.

Jesse Matthew Jr., charged with the murders of college students Hannah Graham and Morgan Harrington, was sentenced Friday to life in prison for a sexual assault on a woman a decade ago in northern Virginia.

Matthews is facing the death sentence on the murder of Hannah Graham , last year, and Morgan Harrington in 2009.