I read somewhere about emotional catastrophisizing. It can come on when someone who has suffered ptsd, trauma, has another event (s) that trigger the original trauma.
It was pointed out Harry talked a lot about “safety of his family”, reason for private jets, breaking down at children’s event speech, law suit to the press, and in the africa documentary. It’s a recurring theme for him.
Harry looks distraught. It could be that becoming a husband and father has sent him into a total state of anxiety and panic?
I think Meghan’s statement about ‘existing rather than living’ is revealing as it might be her attempt to help Harry sort out Harry.
Meghan, I observe, has the ability to put on an outward appearance that excudes everything is fine. This may be one of the things that really attracted Harry. -A place to hide.
But as a couple they are not in sync. He looks distraught, distrustful, stern. She looks the opposite.
In the Africa documentary they toss out a bunch of issues and euphemisms that actually deflect from the core issue. Is it really about a rift with a brother, no one asks if I’m ok, stiff upper lip, grass is greener? No, it’s deeper than that.
Fear and panic is a dibilitating state. That stiff upper lip is a modality of protection. —Imo. And for Harry who is a brand new father, who might be terrified to be a father even though he wants it more than anything, it gives the space to work it out.
Where I think Meghan is struggling is with the formality of lifestyle. Formality of family lifestyle.
California is miles and worlds away from the U.K. —The informality of Meghan’s upbringing, the lack of boundaries in members of her family is the opposite.
Truly there are stark opposites... Meghan must feel like an island, her mom so far away, and Harry has a huge family.
So, in my long-winded armchair observation, they both need help. And, that’s the message being transmitted from the documentary.
A lot of people do great work in this world. That commonality gives great strength of purpose. But that’s not what defines friendship, marriage, parenthood, and family.
Los Angeles just has a whole different vibe. My first roommate in college was from L.A. She was a sweet girl, but we were almost like aliens to each other. We lasted one semester and found new roommates. Silly and stereotypical, I know. But it’s a very real cultural divide that Meghan and Harry are dealing with...added to the RF expectations and their own inner struggles. I do believe they love each other enough to work through this.
